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Posted by crazy teresa on March 12, 2006, at 15:03:49
Is it like when you decide you're not having any more children: You just KNOW, and you know you're NEVER going to change your mind?
Any and all thoughts appreciated...
Posted by Bobby on March 12, 2006, at 21:20:13
In reply to When do you know it's absolutely, positively over?, posted by crazy teresa on March 12, 2006, at 15:03:49
99% of things are never over in the living world--they just take different forms. "The only constant in life is change." (whoever said that?)
Posted by ClearSkies on March 13, 2006, at 14:21:55
In reply to When do you know it's absolutely, positively over?, posted by crazy teresa on March 12, 2006, at 15:03:49
I knew that my marriage was over...
when I stopped being angry. And I stopped being afraid. And I decided that it didn't matter what happened next, I would not continue to live every day with that anger and fear.ClearSkies
Posted by Colleen D. on March 13, 2006, at 19:27:49
In reply to When do you know it's absolutely, positively over?, posted by crazy teresa on March 12, 2006, at 15:03:49
My answer is very similar to CS's. I knew I could not tolerate the situation one more day. I was so anxious and depressed that I had to remove myself and my children from that environment to maintain my sanity and to keep my children safe.
Good luck!
Colleen
- My divorce was final 3/6/06!
Posted by LegWarmers on March 13, 2006, at 20:28:01
In reply to When do you know it's absolutely, positively over?, posted by crazy teresa on March 12, 2006, at 15:03:49
Have you tried counselling?
If that fails...
Posted by ConfusedChris on March 14, 2006, at 13:25:05
In reply to Re: When do you know it's absolutely, positively over? » crazy teresa, posted by Colleen D. on March 13, 2006, at 19:27:49
That's all fine and dandy, but I wanted out of a 4 year relationship because of the anger, depression, fighting and sadness. But now that it has finally "ended", I feel worse, I havent eaten, slept or stopped sobbing for 3 days now. So, how DO you know it's over...I would think it would feel better than this.
Posted by Bobby on March 14, 2006, at 20:53:56
In reply to Re: When do you know it's absolutely, positively over?, posted by Bobby on March 12, 2006, at 21:20:13
Of course when the 1% was absolutely and positivley over-- was when the money ran out.
Posted by crazy teresa on March 14, 2006, at 22:44:58
In reply to When do you know it's absolutely, positively over?, posted by crazy teresa on March 12, 2006, at 15:03:49
Thanks for your replies. You've given me a lot to think about.
I'm safe. If I wasn't, there would be no hesitation. I'm depresed, but I was before I met him. I'm angry, but that kinda goes right along with the depression.
I'm just fed up. When am I going to REALLY count?
He's a nice guy, but a totally selfish bastard; the male chauvanist pig kind. (And I think I am TOITALLY within the civility guidelines in saying that, bobster, since I have the license and all.)
Where's the fine line that would make me even more selfish than him if I left?
Posted by Meri-Tuuli on March 15, 2006, at 12:23:49
In reply to Re: When do you know it's absolutely, positively over?, posted by crazy teresa on March 14, 2006, at 22:44:58
I dunno, I've been thinking about that myself. For me, everything is okay with the relationship (could be alot better, could be alot worse) but I don't like were we live, I don't have a job and I don't feel as if I'm living my life. I just went to the city I left over the weekend and I was really sad to leave......
Yeah, this is the first time I have lived with a bloke and boy, is he useless at things - I have to sort everything out, like the finances, trash, laundry, tidying up, cooking, shopping etc etc etc..... and its the small things that gets me, like his inability to out dirty laundry in the basket etc etc..........
Oh well.
I hope it goes okay, maybe this is abit of a 'dip' in the relationship..... also I find that when I'm depressed I blame the relationship for making me unhappy rather than the depression.
BTW - are you in the UK?? If so, have you seen a pdoc on the NHS and how long did you wait from a refereal to an appt?? I'm still waiting and I was refereed in November.....
Kind regards
Meri
Posted by crazy teresa on March 17, 2006, at 20:26:35
In reply to Re: When do you know it's absolutely, positively over?, posted by Meri-Tuuli on March 15, 2006, at 12:23:49
You sound really bummed. I'm sorry. Sounds like you have a child, not a boyfriend from your discription.
Those seemingly small things add up to a big blow-up, sometimes.
I'm in the US, not the UK. Sounds like a long time to wait, but I'm not familiar with the healthcare system over there.
Hope you're feeling better today.
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