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Posted by rjlockhart on March 11, 2006, at 11:37:45
I cant get out of this house my mom is screaming about i cant take it, i cant live with this anymore, if i go crazy at least i will get away from this. I always was afraid that i would go crazy from all the 16 posts i have posted in the past about fear.
I just was in an accident, i crashed my car, but the insurance is going to pay for another one. I swear when i get one i am getting a job and getting the HELL out of here. I was job searching before this.
My mom has been in for anger managment before because i had to call the police on them because my mom and them where on the floor about to kill eachother. My mom got a citation for assualt.
I have been off my medication dexedrine for a while now, she totally OVER reacts to things, this morning was hell she screamed in the frount yard WHERE IS YOU DANM CELL PHONE i cant take this! where is it! it was in her car the whole time, i dont want to go into detail about it, all i can tell you is she just screamed and cried. I am living with a major nuerotic.
I have to get some kind of medical treatment. I cant even control my own prescription card
Please someone will you post.
Matt
Posted by rjlockhart on March 11, 2006, at 11:37:45
In reply to what do you do when your 18 and in a crisis?, posted by rjlockhart on March 9, 2006, at 16:37:44
this is a picture with me and the nuerotic
http://mmcconathy87.tripod.com/matt_mcconathys_photo_album/index.album?i=1
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Matt
Posted by James K on March 11, 2006, at 11:37:45
In reply to what do you do when your 18 and in a crisis?, posted by rjlockhart on March 9, 2006, at 16:37:44
Hey rj,
I don't have the best advice, I'm sorry. but when I was 18 and in crisis, I got the hell away. And no woman (no offence to women) was going to treat me like that. Cause I was bigger and stronger than a woman. So I got bad advice. I showed them who was boss, and etc.... Now I'm all grown up, and still have problems. So, get a way to get your own meds and therapy. Don't wait till yer an old man like me. I feel for you. You're trying to get it figured out, and someone you love is all over your case. Seperate your problems from hers, and listen to the wise people here who care about you.
James K
Posted by James K on March 11, 2006, at 11:37:45
In reply to Re: what do you do when your 18 and in a crisis? » rjlockhart, posted by James K on March 9, 2006, at 17:27:52
I am not suggesting violence toward your mother, or anyone else. I was putting myself back into your shoes, when I was a young adult. Violence, and confrontation rarely make things better. But it's abusive to be screamed at and belittled. Hang in there, and think of exit strategies that make sense and will work for you personally.
James K
Posted by Cairo on March 11, 2006, at 11:37:45
In reply to what do you do when your 18 and in a crisis?, posted by rjlockhart on March 9, 2006, at 16:37:44
Do you have any relatives that you relate to that you can stay with? Grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins? Would your parents totally flip out if you did leave to stay with someone else? Do you have anyone else?
Speak with your psychiatrist/therapist about this issue. They should have some info about scenarios like this or can direct you to a social worker who can help.
Stay safe.
Cairo
Posted by mattw84 on March 11, 2006, at 11:37:45
In reply to Re: what do you do when your 18 and in a crisis?, posted by Cairo on March 9, 2006, at 19:09:18
She is your mom and always will be, there is no reason to burn this bridge because your personalities clash. Learning to accept it is a lot more easily said than done, but if you want a longer term solution than running away I would suggest you seek it out. Best of luck.
Matt
Posted by Phillipa on March 11, 2006, at 11:37:45
In reply to Re: what do you do when your 18 and in a crisis?, posted by mattw84 on March 9, 2006, at 21:26:34
Matt I'm here in NC just a plane ride away. These things always seem to happen to you Mom 2 Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by CareBear04 on March 11, 2006, at 11:38:50
In reply to what do you do when your 18 and in a crisis?, posted by rjlockhart on March 9, 2006, at 16:37:44
matt, i'm sorry to hear about the problems you're goign through. it's always hard when you're trying to get help for yourself and yoru parents aren't supportive. for a long time, my parnets were in denial that there was anything wrong with me and wouldn't let me get treatment or didn't want me taking meds. it took a serious suicide attempt and a bunch of them telling my parents, "your daughter almost DIED," for my parents to start slowly accepting that i needed help.
that said, i would second the suggestions made by some of the other posters. can you stay with friends or relatives somewhere else? do you have a doctor or a therapist you're seeing who can help you work through ideas? the good thing about being 18 is that you can be treated without your parents' consent, and they don't even need to know about it. of course, finances are always a tough issue. i'm sorry i don't have any better suggestions, but i feel for you and am here if you want to post more.
CB
Posted by JaclinHyde on March 11, 2006, at 11:38:50
In reply to Re: what do you do when your 18 and in a crisis? » rjlockhart, posted by CareBear04 on March 10, 2006, at 9:13:40
If you have no one to go to there are always crisis centers. I live in the middle of absolutely nowhere and even here I can call a crisis center (about an hour away but oh well) and get help. Find a suicide hotline even and tell them where you live and your story and I am sure they can suggest a place to go to seperate yourself from the situation. She obviously has her own problems to deal with and has no time/energy/the mindset to care about yours right now. Please let us know what happens, we are here for you 24/7.
JH
Posted by Jakeman on March 11, 2006, at 11:38:50
In reply to what do you do when your 18 and in a crisis?, posted by rjlockhart on March 9, 2006, at 16:37:44
Maybe an older male to recognize your gifts.
warm regards, Jake
Posted by tizza on March 11, 2006, at 11:38:50
In reply to Re: what do you do when your 18 and in a crisis?, posted by Phillipa on March 9, 2006, at 22:05:24
> Matt I'm here in NC just a plane ride away. These things always seem to happen to you Mom 2 Fondly, Phillipa
Mate all I can suggest is that you are now 18, you have Phillipa offering you somewhere to crash, all you have to do is save some money and get your own place/space. When I was 21 I saved up enough money for first months rent and took myself and my 18 year old sister and her best friend out of the situation we were all living in at the time. I have to admit it doesn't sound nowhere near as bad as your situation is at the moment. I'm now 35 and have never gone back home, I have a great relationship with my parents now and I don't regret what I did for a second. Major point here!!!!!!!!! I live in Australia and most health care here is free. Just make sure you don't put yourself into a situation where you can't afford to seek medical attention. Cover your bases and think ahead, be smart about your choice and maybe you can save your realtionship with your mother if you aren't living with her. I hope you can sort it out, I wish you all the best, Paul.
Posted by crazy teresa on March 12, 2006, at 15:08:24
In reply to what do you do when your 18 and in a crisis?, posted by rjlockhart on March 9, 2006, at 16:37:44
Matt, I know you love your mom, but that doesn't mean you have to stay there with her.
Sometimes the only way to find a healthy relationship with someone is to be far away from them.
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