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Posted by Damos on February 12, 2006, at 16:25:33
Well I was walking to the bus stop on Friday and there was this young couple meandering along in front of me, and kinda doing the footpath (sidewalk) waltz so I couldn't get 'round 'em and they seemed totally oblivious to my being there (not unusual), when suddenly he stopped and propped and she did cause he did (right into my path) and in an effort to not bowl her over I gently brushed her upper arm with the tips of a couple of the fingers of my right hand. So light as to have almost not even touched her at all, and Oh brother,I-YI-YI Oh me, oh my, Huuuuuuuuuuuuuh. It's obviously just been way, way, way too long - sigh.
And of course being me I felt really guilty and like I should apologise to her having enjoyed it so much.
Posted by 10derHeart on February 12, 2006, at 20:35:36
In reply to No-one will see this right?, posted by Damos on February 12, 2006, at 16:25:33
See what? ;-)((Damos))
Posted by sleepygirl on February 12, 2006, at 22:56:15
In reply to No-one will see this right?, posted by Damos on February 12, 2006, at 16:25:33
what goes on inside your head....she will never know
you're safe :-)
Posted by Sabrina_0805 on February 12, 2006, at 23:20:32
In reply to No-one will see this right?, posted by Damos on February 12, 2006, at 16:25:33
I agree with sleepygirl.
You have nothing to feel guilty about.
((Damos))
Sabrina
Posted by sunny10 on February 13, 2006, at 9:04:24
In reply to Re: No-one will see this right? » Damos, posted by Sabrina_0805 on February 12, 2006, at 23:20:32
ir either of them were afraid of being touched, they wouldn't have come to a sudden stop in the middle of the path.
Or, if you're going to go with the theory that they just didn't notice you, she probably didn't even notice the slight brush of your fingers on her arm, either...
That being said, I think maybe it's time for you to date again!!!
Posted by Susan47 on February 13, 2006, at 21:12:41
In reply to No-one will see this right?, posted by Damos on February 12, 2006, at 16:25:33
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> And of course being me I felt really guilty and like I should apologise to her having enjoyed it so much.
It's great that you enjoyed it so much, maybe she did too? Maybe she was thinking, mm that guy's cute, I LIKED that ...
Posted by LegWarmers on February 14, 2006, at 1:21:35
In reply to Re: No-one will see this right? » Damos, posted by Susan47 on February 13, 2006, at 21:12:41
> It's great that you enjoyed it so much, maybe she did too? Maybe she was thinking, mm that guy's cute, I LIKED that ...
Thats what I was thinking! And I agree with Sunny...
Posted by Damos on February 14, 2006, at 15:17:09
In reply to Re: No-one will see this right?, posted by LegWarmers on February 14, 2006, at 1:21:35
Thanks everyone so much.
Do you guys ever re-read something you've posted and think "That just don't read right?"
Enjoyed wasn't the right word though. It was just nice to actually touch/feel another human being, and for it to be as simple and innocent and uncomplicated as it was. And for me not to have done everything humanly possible to avoid it. To actually have been able to think it was something I'd like to experience again - the touch of another person. To acknowledge that I miss it. All big for me. Good even.
Hah Susan, LegWarmers, sadly not even in my dreams (but let's not go there). And I assume by cute you mean ugly but interesting ;-)
Sleepy, Sabrina, this is me we're talkiing about I can manage to feel guilty about anything, even about not feeling guilty enough.
YAY Sunny! Who knows maybe one day, though I think the Geneva Convention has a clause that classifies a date with me as "cruel and unusual punishment".
10, well I just expect that kind of cheekiness from you!
Love ya lots,
Damos
Posted by Joan797 on February 14, 2006, at 16:27:07
In reply to Re: No-one will see this right?, posted by Damos on February 14, 2006, at 15:17:09
I understand the yearning for human touch.......
I understand it too well. It causes much problems for me because I act on the yearning and shouldn't.
I understand Damos.
Joan
Posted by Susan47 on February 14, 2006, at 19:47:02
In reply to Re: No-one will see this right?, posted by Damos on February 14, 2006, at 15:17:09
No, not ugly, I don't know why you ever say things like that. Why?
Posted by sleepygirl on February 14, 2006, at 20:54:18
In reply to Re: No-one will see this right?, posted by Damos on February 14, 2006, at 15:17:09
oh OK, I get a better picture now.... I get that feeling in short casual encounters with lots of people. It's a nice thing sometimes, but it makes me sad too. Hope you find what you need. :-)
Posted by sunny10 on February 15, 2006, at 8:05:57
In reply to Re: No-one will see this right? » Damos, posted by sleepygirl on February 14, 2006, at 20:54:18
if you think you're ugly you have some deep-seated low self-esteem issues....
I think you should work on that....
And after reading your posts and hearing about what you do for fun, I can't believe that a date with you would be anything short of terrific!
Posted by damos on February 15, 2006, at 15:03:07
In reply to Re: No-one will see this right? » Damos, posted by Joan797 on February 14, 2006, at 16:27:07
Well if I accept your offer of marriage then that should work out nicely for us both then ;-)
Thanks so much by the way. To say I was touched is a major understatement.
Love always,
Damos
Posted by damos on February 15, 2006, at 21:08:30
In reply to Re: No-one will see this right? » Damos, posted by sleepygirl on February 14, 2006, at 20:54:18
I'm sorry it makes you sad Sleepy I really am. I really hope you find what you need too :-)
Posted by LegWarmers on February 15, 2006, at 23:38:49
In reply to Re: No-one will see this right?, posted by sunny10 on February 15, 2006, at 8:05:57
> if you think you're ugly you have some deep-seated low self-esteem issues....
>
> I think you should work on that....
>I second that!
> And after reading your posts and hearing about what you do for fun, I can't believe that a date with you would be anything short of terrific!
>I agree!
Posted by Tamar on February 16, 2006, at 19:11:44
In reply to No-one will see this right?, posted by Damos on February 12, 2006, at 16:25:33
Ah, your post reminded me of a similar experience in a bar, with a total stranger who touched my waist and made eye contact as he walked past me. I still remember the moment with fondness… I’d hate to think of him feeling guilty the way you feel guilty because it was such a pleasant moment of shared humanity.
> Hah Susan, LegWarmers, sadly not even in my dreams (but let's not go there). And I assume by cute you mean ugly but interesting ;-)
I’m intrigued… I’ve never met anyone who was actually ugly. I’ve encountered some ugly insects and of course I detest the appearance of molluscs, but *people*… well, I just don’t find people ugly. I find it impossible to believe that you are ugly. I understand that some people *feel* ugly, especially if they don’t value themselves as much as they should, but that’s not the same as *being* ugly.
I reckon the woman you touched is sitting in a chair right now, with her eyes closed, remembering the caress of your fingertips on her arm, and shivering slightly as a delicious feeling of warmth and sweetness grasps her somewhere deep inside…
Posted by 10derHeart on February 17, 2006, at 0:15:35
In reply to Re: No-one will see this right? » Damos, posted by Tamar on February 16, 2006, at 19:11:44
>>I find it impossible to believe that you are ugly. <<
....as usual, I can't.
I just happen to have actual evidence that our dear Damos is so *not* ugly.
I'll leave it at that. Remember, CareBears do NOT lie.
He'll probably about fall over from embarrassment at just this little bit I've said. That'll be right before he kills me.....
>>{runs away to hide}<<
Posted by Sabrina_0805 on February 17, 2006, at 1:18:18
In reply to I was gonna stay quiet about this, but..... » Tamar, posted by 10derHeart on February 17, 2006, at 0:15:35
Ditto.
I can also say very so *not* ugly.
S
Posted by 10derHeart on February 17, 2006, at 15:42:42
In reply to Re: I was gonna stay quiet about this, but....., posted by Sabrina_0805 on February 17, 2006, at 1:18:18
Posted by damos on February 18, 2006, at 16:26:13
In reply to Re: I was gonna stay quiet about this, but....., posted by Sabrina_0805 on February 17, 2006, at 1:18:18
Well the shark thought I looked mighty tasty ;-)
Thanks guys, I'll just go outside and deflate my head a little now.
10, 10, 10, what are we going to do with you?
Love you guys so much.
Posted by 10derHeart on February 19, 2006, at 21:48:42
In reply to Re: I was gonna stay quiet about this, but....., posted by damos on February 18, 2006, at 16:26:13
> Well the shark thought I looked mighty tasty ;-)
Did he (she) now? My question would be....how do you know? Shall we add 'speaking shark' to your list of many talents?
(not the evidence I was thinking of in my post anyway...;-0 )
> Thanks guys, I'll just go outside and deflate my head a little now.Like the boy in the *wonderful* {chokes} inflatable joke?
> 10, 10, 10, what are we going to do with you?I dunno. What would you like ----------? nevermind
really - you don't want that question answered.>
> Love you guys so much.Back atcha, sweet man (((Damos)))
Posted by Damos on February 19, 2006, at 21:54:37
In reply to Re: I was gonna stay quiet about this, but..... » damos, posted by 10derHeart on February 19, 2006, at 21:48:42
I really asked for that now didn't I?
I think you're leading 99-0 with second left on the clock ;-)
Thanks for making me smile.
Posted by TexasChic on March 6, 2006, at 20:34:25
In reply to Re: No-one will see this right?, posted by Damos on February 14, 2006, at 15:17:09
> It was just nice to actually touch/feel another human being, and for it to be as simple and innocent and uncomplicated as it was.
I SO understand.
> I assume by cute you mean ugly but interesting ;-)
Cute must mean a different thing down under. I happen to PREFER cute over 'handsome'. Cute usually means there's that something extra that makes the guy irresistible.
> ... though I think the Geneva Convention has a clause that classifies a date with me as "cruel and unusual punishment".
MY date with you wasn't classified that way! It was beautiful.
-T
Posted by Damos on March 12, 2006, at 16:31:17
In reply to Re: No-one will see this right? » Damos, posted by TexasChic on March 6, 2006, at 20:34:25
Thanks TC,
It was beautiful, must've been the delightful company.
Didn't answer you on Social about calling and second dates because I honestly don't know. Never understood al the BS that goes on with that. Didn't ever have what you'd really call a first, let alone a second either. And when I did call the level of interest was always just slightly less than none.
Posted by TexasChic on March 22, 2006, at 18:29:41
In reply to Re: No-one will see this right? » TexasChic, posted by Damos on March 12, 2006, at 16:31:17
>Didn't ever have what you'd really call a first, let alone a second either.
I'm right there with you man. I haven't ever been on a real date. Oh well, we'll make it there eventually. We're way too cool not to.
-T
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