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Posted by Susan47 on February 1, 2006, at 10:40:20
And is it okay with them, I mean, I have two men I'm seeing and a third calling me this week. I've only been intimate with one, and we didn't actually go "all the way" but lots of other things .. and it was fantastic .. so I'm wondering, is it considered bad to have sex with three men you're dating, not all at once of course (although I'd love to see them all in the same room together!!!) as long as you're always "safe"? Maybe not even going all the way with any of them?
Posted by sunny10 on February 1, 2006, at 14:04:48
In reply to How many people have you dated at one time?, posted by Susan47 on February 1, 2006, at 10:40:20
men do this all the time.
You should only worry about doing what you feel comfortable doing.
You can easily let them know that they are not the only one you are dating by saying something like, "oh, Saturday? I'm sorry but I already have a date that night". You'll find out right away if they have a problem with you seeing more than one person at a time...if you feel okay with the fact that they might NOT be okay with that and may decide not to see you anymore...
Only thing that I wouldn't feel comfortable doing is lying, but even that is up to you!!!
Enjoy!!
Posted by sunny10 on February 1, 2006, at 14:06:14
In reply to How many people have you dated at one time?, posted by Susan47 on February 1, 2006, at 10:40:20
SOME men do that all the time.
Sorry for generalizing, people...
I wasn't writing PC I guess- I was THINKING it, but not writing it...
Posted by Susan47 on February 1, 2006, at 23:39:17
In reply to Re: PC amendment, posted by sunny10 on February 1, 2006, at 14:06:14
You're right, I wouldn't want to lie about anything, and the one man I have actually been intimate with knows that I have other dates, so to speak .. and he's very supportive. He's a man most like my father than anyone I could've picked ... he's really fascinating ... but I like more men, more types, more things, something different comes from each one, you know, Sunny? I'm having a lovely, lovey time right now, in my life and I hope I hope I hope it lasts a looonnnggg time .. but the problem is, life is just over too quick.
Posted by sunny10 on February 2, 2006, at 7:39:27
In reply to Re: PC amendment, posted by Susan47 on February 1, 2006, at 23:39:17
now see, that's looking at the glass half empty...
there is nothing you can do longer than live your life!!
Okay, so I'm teasing a little bit here...
I'm glad that you are having fun getting to know different people and figuring out what you like about them and what you don't. It is a powerful lesson to learn! I'd have to say that with the exceptions of my fiance and a few of you here on babble, I am still keeping to myself so as to not get hurt, so I am really proud of your strength!!
You keep doing what you're doing; it seems to really agree with you!
MMMWWWAAAHHH,
sunny10
Posted by alexandra_k on February 5, 2006, at 18:58:33
In reply to How many people have you dated at one time?, posted by Susan47 on February 1, 2006, at 10:40:20
oh susan
((((susan)))))
i am glad you are in a better mood :-)yeah i agree with sunny... trust is a biggie for me but aside from that... it is up to them whether they have a problem or not and if they do then they can move along...
not that i date...
exactly...
Posted by Susan47 on February 5, 2006, at 19:07:49
In reply to Re: How many people have you dated at one time?, posted by alexandra_k on February 5, 2006, at 18:58:33
Trust, more than one lover, well maybe if I just have one Lover and the others are all friends I think that would work. But the one lover would have to be very good, and give lots of himself, because I'm voracious about being physical if the person is the right fit, and if not I just get turned off so easily, men are easily hurt when they're not physically accepted, and quite frankly, I just don't have time to date anyone I'm not physically attracted to. I think I just nixed one person, just by talking about it. He already said this dumb thing about not sharing with anybody. He doesn't share, he said .. I don't like that. What right does he have to lay claim? Nope, too much for me.
Posted by alexandra_k on February 5, 2006, at 19:43:45
In reply to Re: How many people have you dated at one time? » alexandra_k, posted by Susan47 on February 5, 2006, at 19:07:49
> men are easily hurt when they're not physically accepted
women too susan. i often thing men and women are more alike than is commonly supposed...
> He already said this dumb thing about not sharing with anybody. He doesn't share, he said .. I don't like that. What right does he have to lay claim? Nope, too much for me.
mmm. hard to know... whether he returns the favour or whether he is staking territory hard to know...
i don't know... i think... it depends what you are looking for...
i really think it does.
and i'm a big fan of this reciprocity idea...
so if you are just kicking around having a little fun and you are going to ditch them when the mood passes...
then i think you can indeed do that if you want
but there is a possible downside...that one of the guys you are with is just kicking around having a little fun with you and they are goign to ditch you when the mood passes
i relaly don't mean to be a party killer...
but it can hurt...
but i think that that is what happens...and sometimes... i think all this is just a dance that keeps us from deeper intimacy that we are f*cking terrified of even though that is what we most want more than anything
you and me both
(((((susan)))))
though i might be full of sh*t...
Posted by sunny10 on February 6, 2006, at 8:43:23
In reply to Re: How many people have you dated at one time? » Susan47, posted by alexandra_k on February 5, 2006, at 19:43:45
anything goes for as long as you are comfortable with it.
The moment it starts feeling wrong, change it, that's all...
We ultimately have to do what makes us happy.
Posted by caraher on February 6, 2006, at 10:12:10
In reply to Re: How many people have you dated at one time? » alexandra_k, posted by Susan47 on February 5, 2006, at 19:07:49
This thread reminds me of an email my wife forwarded to me...
Five tips for a woman....
1. It is important that a man helps you around the house and has a job.
2. It is important that a man makes you laugh.3. It is important to find a man you can count on and doesn't lie to you.
4. It is important that a man loves you and spoils you.
5. It is important that these four men don't know each other.
Posted by Susan47 on February 9, 2006, at 17:55:53
In reply to Re: How many people have you dated at one time? » Susan47, posted by alexandra_k on February 5, 2006, at 19:43:45
Actually, yeah it feels to me like your last statement might be right, alexandra .. hee hee .. sorry .. but in fact, nobody is going to ditch me because nobody has me, haha .. although quite frankly, I believe in honesty which is why everybody knows where they stand and what's going to happen next, and I actually AM having fun AND being safe AND know who should be where, for a change. Because sometimes I'm attracted to somebody for reasons other than emotional ones, sometimes it has nothing to do with sex, but most men cannot handle that .. in my experience .. so they don't. Which is fine. I don't have time for coddling anybody, I spent too many years already being an emotional manservant.
No more. Nobody has the core of me, but myself.
Posted by Susan47 on February 9, 2006, at 17:57:16
In reply to Re: How many people have you dated at one time?, posted by caraher on February 6, 2006, at 10:12:10
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