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Posted by Larry Hoover on November 19, 2005, at 23:35:14
In reply to sex ?'s about guys that I wonder about., posted by happyflower on November 18, 2005, at 14:28:46
I'm not married, so the answers will be coming from a possibly faulty memory retrieval system.
> How often do you think married men masterbate?
Frequently. The urge to ejaculate is for me sometimes not even a sexual urge. It can be almost mechanical, like a sensor tells me that my prostate is full, and emptying it out might be a good thing. Or vibration from equipment I'm operating just created an itch that needed scratching. Sometimes it's very sexual, and it's just not an appropriate place to get into making love (which I don't like to rush).
> HOw often do men fantazise about other women while in bed with their wife?
Me, it never happened, that I can recall.
> How often during the day do you get full woodies?
Fewer as I aged, but often (double digits?). Now, with psych drugs, I wish.
> How do they hide it if in public?
Clothing adjustments. I was most successful with flattening it towards the vertical. Wasteband tension usually did the trick.
> Just wonderinging :)
Now you know. Good questions.
Lar
Posted by Larry Hoover on November 19, 2005, at 23:47:23
In reply to Re: the funny thing is..., posted by happyflower on November 19, 2005, at 6:37:06
> these are just the things I wonder about that I would NEVER ask any guy in real life, except my
> DH, but I am not sure he would be totally truthful. But no guys are answering this post, so I guess I will never know. PoopyOnce, during a long-term common-law partnership, my partner came upon me in the act of masturbating, out in the garage. She was really upset that I hadn't brought myself to her attention, to resolve my apparent need. Thing was, I was all dirty and smelly from shingling on the roof, and I wasn't going to go to her like that, and just put it on her. Like I expected her to "do her duty", or even give the suggestion I believed something like that. She never told me why she got upset exactly, nor did she offer up alternative scenarios or suggestions. So I still don't know what I might have done differently, to our mutual satisfaction. If she hadn't come out to the garage with a cold drink, it would have really been a non-event, in my way of thinking. After a shower and supper, things went smoothly that night.
Lar
Posted by Deneb on November 20, 2005, at 0:47:41
In reply to sex ?'s about guys that I wonder about., posted by happyflower on November 18, 2005, at 14:28:46
> How often do you think married men masterbate? HOw often do men fantazise about other women while in bed with their wife? How often during the day do you get full woodies? How do they hide it if in public? Just wonderinging :)
My ex boyfriend (my one and only boyfriend ever) told me that he masturbated very often. I was very curious and asked him lots of questions. He also got excited in public a lot. I don't know how he hid them. I think it was very difficult for him to be around me without getting excited. It was very bizarre, this whole sex thing. I wondered if he experienced any pain when he got in such a state and he told me that it is a myth that men must be released when they get in such a state.
Deneb
Posted by Larry Hoover on November 20, 2005, at 16:06:58
In reply to Re: sex ?'s about guys that I wonder about. » happyflower, posted by Deneb on November 20, 2005, at 0:47:41
> I wondered if he experienced any pain when he got in such a state and he told me that it is a myth that men must be released when they get in such a state.
>
> DenebIf a man remains aroused for an extended period of time, particularly if there has been some physical stimulation, but he does not reach ejaculation, a very painful situation can develop that is called different things.....blue balls, lover's nuts. I'm not sure if there are more names for it. That is no myth. It's very real.
http://tinyurl.com/cyn5s
and follow-up commentary http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/cgi/content/full/108/5/1233However, the existence of this condition is not ever sufficient to be used as an argument that a man must seek release through the actions of, or contact with, another person.
Lar
Posted by TexasChic on November 20, 2005, at 20:21:42
In reply to sex ;supposedly men have a sexual thot every.7secs (nm) » happyflower, posted by allisonross on November 18, 2005, at 18:39:12
I think women's libidos are highly underated.
-T
Posted by Deneb on November 20, 2005, at 21:17:32
In reply to Re: sex ?'s about guys that I wonder about. » Deneb, posted by Larry Hoover on November 20, 2005, at 16:06:58
> If a man remains aroused for an extended period of time, particularly if there has been some physical stimulation, but he does not reach ejaculation, a very painful situation can develop that is called different things.....blue balls, lover's nuts. I'm not sure if there are more names for it. That is no myth. It's very real.
Oh no...my ex bf must have been lying to me about the pain to make me feel better! He had a very high sex drive too...poor thing! I never knew guys had such high sex drives! Maybe it was his red hair LOL.
Deneb
Posted by caraher on November 21, 2005, at 9:42:30
In reply to sex ?'s about guys that I wonder about., posted by happyflower on November 18, 2005, at 14:28:46
> How often do you think married men masterbate?
Probably about as often as unmarried.
>HOw often do men fantazise about other women while in bed with their wife?
It just doesn't happen, in my experience. I focus on what's happening...
> How often during the day do you get full woodies?
This is extremely age-dependent. As an adolescent? Uncountable. As a 41-year-old on antidepressants? Not all that often after waking up.
> How do they hide it if in public? Just wonderinging :)
Like Larry said, going vertical seems to work best
Posted by Damos on November 21, 2005, at 15:27:46
In reply to sex ?'s about guys that I wonder about., posted by happyflower on November 18, 2005, at 14:28:46
> How often do you think married men masterbate?
Never having been married can't say. But have to agree with what Larry said about the prostate thing.
>How often do men fantazise about other women while in bed with their wife?
Have to agree with Larry and Caraher here. Never happens.
>How often during the day do you get full woodies?
Just depends, though I will admit that there are days when it's like there's a total hormonal overload going on.
>How do they hide it if in public? Just wonderinging :)
Pretty much what Larry described.
Posted by happyflower on November 21, 2005, at 15:48:09
In reply to Re: sex ?'s about guys that I wonder about. » happyflower, posted by Damos on November 21, 2005, at 15:27:46
Thanks guys for your answers, I just wondered this stuff but was afraid to ever ask. Maybe I have penis envy! LOL
Posted by Declan on November 23, 2005, at 13:23:46
In reply to Re: the funny thing is..., posted by happyflower on November 19, 2005, at 6:37:06
When you're a kid, 14 to 18 maybe, on the bus, everywhere, all the time. There must be better things to do with such young people than was done with me. I'd be thinking of the sorts of relationships in Guy Davenport's "Death of Picasso". Really, it's all (just about) a complete and utter waste. But now my kids are that age. They have to learn all the things of life, of course, but it feels like a waste too, hopefully not a complete and utter one.
Declan
Posted by Declan on November 23, 2005, at 13:27:17
In reply to Re: sex ?'s about guys that I wonder about. » happyflower, posted by ed_uk on November 19, 2005, at 9:16:20
Hey Eddy, (this is from a long time ago, 14 and on the bus), up under the belt (adjusted to suit) with enough shirt looping over to obscure any details.
Declan
Posted by ed_uk on November 26, 2005, at 15:33:37
In reply to Re: sex ?'s about guys that I wonder about. » Deneb, posted by Larry Hoover on November 20, 2005, at 16:06:58
Hi Lar
>If a man remains aroused for an extended period of time, particularly if there has been some physical stimulation, but he does not reach ejaculation, a very painful situation can develop that is called different things.....blue balls, lover's nuts. I'm not sure if there are more names for it. That is no myth. It's very real.
LOL really, I thought it was a myth? It certainly never happens to me! The only time I ever had scrotal pain was after someone....... OK, nevermind, too much info ;-)
Ed
Posted by ed_uk on November 26, 2005, at 15:35:41
In reply to Re: the funny thing is..., posted by Declan on November 23, 2005, at 13:23:46
>When you're a kid, 14 to 18 maybe, on the bus, everywhere, all the time.
LOL, I'm feeling abnormal Dec. I've been on SSRIs since I was 14, I hardly ever have erections during the day, it's rare to say the least.
Ed
Posted by ed_uk on November 26, 2005, at 15:37:59
In reply to Re: sex ?'s about guys that I wonder about. » ed_uk, posted by Declan on November 23, 2005, at 13:27:17
Hi Dec
>Hey Eddy, (this is from a long time ago, 14 and on the bus), up under the belt (adjusted to suit) with enough shirt looping over to obscure any details.
Flattening it to the left works best for me. It's easy to hide it when wearing 'briefs' but difficult when wearing 'boxers'.
Eddy
Posted by ed_uk on November 26, 2005, at 15:42:18
In reply to Re: the funny thing is..., posted by Declan on November 23, 2005, at 13:23:46
Dec, I haven't masturbated for weeks. I'm on 80mg Celexa though. Maybe I should aquire a testosterone supplement to stimulate my libido. I've forgotten what it feels like to want sex. Wait a minute, I've been medicated since I was too young to have sex ........so I've never really had the opportunity to want sex.
Eddy
Posted by ed_uk on November 26, 2005, at 15:43:31
In reply to Re: sex ?'s about guys that I wonder about. » ed_uk, posted by Declan on November 23, 2005, at 13:27:17
How am I supposed to 'develop' my sexuality if I never want sex?
Ed
Posted by ed_uk on November 26, 2005, at 15:44:22
In reply to thank you brave male babbler :-) (nm), posted by sleepygirl on November 19, 2005, at 22:51:43
I'm used to talking about sex. All talk, no action ;-)
Eddy xxxx
Posted by TofuEmmy on November 26, 2005, at 18:24:58
In reply to Re: sex ?'s about guys that I wonder about. » Declan, posted by ed_uk on November 26, 2005, at 15:37:59
> Flattening it to the left works best for me. It's easy to hide it when wearing 'briefs' but difficult when wearing 'boxers'.
>
> Eddy
I think boxers should be illegal. Seeing a strangers stuff hanging down his thigh makes me wanna ralph. Sorry. Too much information, I know. And YES, I could look away, but it's like not looking at a car wreck. It just happens.em
P.S. Am I going to get PBC'd on behalf of men who wear boxers?? Oh jeepers.
Posted by Larry Hoover on November 27, 2005, at 11:02:54
In reply to Re: sex ?'s about guys that I wonder about. » Larry Hoover, posted by ed_uk on November 26, 2005, at 15:33:37
> Hi Lar
>
> >If a man remains aroused for an extended period of time, particularly if there has been some physical stimulation, but he does not reach ejaculation, a very painful situation can develop that is called different things.....blue balls, lover's nuts. I'm not sure if there are more names for it. That is no myth. It's very real.
>
> LOL really, I thought it was a myth? It certainly never happens to me! The only time I ever had scrotal pain was after someone....... OK, nevermind, too much info ;-)
>
> EdCount yourself lucky, dude. Sometimes I read that masturbation to ejaculation solves the problem, but I think it can get to be too late, even for that. I had one episode with the pain lasting for 3 or 4 days.
Lar
Posted by ed_uk on November 27, 2005, at 12:36:01
In reply to Re: sex ?'s about guys that I wonder about. » ed_uk, posted by TofuEmmy on November 26, 2005, at 18:24:58
LOL you're too funny!
Eddy
Posted by ed_uk on November 27, 2005, at 12:37:54
In reply to Re: sex ?'s about guys that I wonder about. » ed_uk, posted by Larry Hoover on November 27, 2005, at 11:02:54
>I read that masturbation to ejaculation solves the problem, but I think it can get to be too late, even for that. I had one episode with the pain lasting for 3 or 4 days.
.......and what, dear Lar, lead to such an unfortunate incident?
Perhaps I'd get 'blue balls' too if I hadn't been on high-dose SSRIs since early puberty!
Ed
Posted by Declan on November 27, 2005, at 14:25:44
In reply to Re: sex ?'s about guys that I wonder about. » ed_uk, posted by TofuEmmy on November 26, 2005, at 18:24:58
Hey TofuEmmy
I think I know what boxers are. Those big underpant things?
So you're saying that when a bloke wears those you can see through his outside pants to the hanging down stuff through the boxers, and then you wanna ralph, which I assume means barf?
I don't think I'll talk about my position vis a vis underwear except to say that I'm not offended.
Declan
Posted by Declan on November 27, 2005, at 14:34:22
In reply to Re: the funny thing is... » Declan, posted by ed_uk on November 26, 2005, at 15:35:41
Eddy, regardless of the strength of your sex drive you have an unusual capacity for intimacy.
You'll be able to figure out ways to expess it.
You already have, but you'll find others. Sexual ways. Surely you will.
I was talking about when I was 14. It sure aint like that now.Declan
Posted by ed_uk on November 28, 2005, at 15:06:35
In reply to Re: the funny thing is... » ed_uk, posted by Declan on November 27, 2005, at 14:34:22
Hi Dec
Boxers are shorts.....
http://www.answers.com/topic/boxer-shorts
What do you call them in Australia?
Briefs........
>So you're saying that when a bloke wears those you can see through his outside pants to the hanging down stuff through the boxers, and then you wanna ralph, which I assume means barf?
I've never heard the word ralph before either LOL.
Eddy
Posted by Larry Hoover on December 4, 2005, at 14:20:31
In reply to Re: sex ?'s about guys that I wonder about. » Larry Hoover, posted by ed_uk on November 27, 2005, at 12:37:54
> >I read that masturbation to ejaculation solves the problem, but I think it can get to be too late, even for that. I had one episode with the pain lasting for 3 or 4 days.
>
> .......and what, dear Lar, lead to such an unfortunate incident?Forgot about this thread.
My girlfriend lived with her folks, but they were away on vacation. We were having a lovely time, preparing dinner together. Lots of sexual tension in the air. Lots of foreplay. Touching. Dirty dancing. We were seeing how much teasing the other could take, ya know? And, without warning, mid caress, we hear, "Surprise! We decided to come home early!"
Her folks were the "in your face, never leave you alone for a second" type. We quickly rearranged things to have dinner for four, and had to hear all about their (aborted) vacation. Hours later, I took my leave. And it was too late.
Lar
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