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Posted by Toph on November 22, 2005, at 14:56:26
I've been reading happyflower's questions to men about male sexuality and male anatomy. I have one for the women.
Women's breasts perform an invaluable nutritional function in the preservation of the species. For (most) men they are also a source of visual stimulation and tactile pleasure. Is the manual or oral touch of a woman's breast (intimacy aside) physiologically stimulating and sensual for the woman or is this, too, a guy thing that woman tolerate?
Posted by alexandra_k on November 22, 2005, at 15:32:21
In reply to Sex Ed 101: Women, posted by Toph on November 22, 2005, at 14:56:26
I think there is some individual variation.
They can be more or less sensitive at different times (of the month) too.
I think...
It can be quite nice
But gently does it...
(To start with anyways)
Posted by happyflower on November 22, 2005, at 19:27:15
In reply to Sex Ed 101: Women, posted by Toph on November 22, 2005, at 14:56:26
Well speaking for what I feel myself, I can never get enough stimulation tactile or orally. I feel it directly goes right to the below the belt. From what I understand men also feels this same thing when their nipples are stimulated. :)
Posted by TexasChic on November 22, 2005, at 20:19:03
In reply to Re: Sex Ed 101: Women, posted by happyflower on November 22, 2005, at 19:27:15
Strangely enough, I've actually done some research on this subject. It was after the whole Janet Jackson thing. I just felt really offended that a women's breast is considered vulgar! Society has made this a big deal. Long ago, men found a women's ankle arousing! Why is what 'men' find arousing something women should be ashamed of?
I also read that in an African village where women go topless all the time, they questioned some of the natives about this. The said the women fell out laughing at the thought of 'men acting like babies'. The breast may be an erogenous zone, much like the neck and other areas, but that doesn't make it sexual. I think its outragous that a man can go bare chested, but a women would be arrested because what they were born with looks 'different'.
-T
Posted by Tamar on November 22, 2005, at 20:24:00
In reply to Sex Ed 101: Women, posted by Toph on November 22, 2005, at 14:56:26
> I've been reading happyflower's questions to men about male sexuality and male anatomy. I have one for the women.
>
> Women's breasts perform an invaluable nutritional function in the preservation of the species. For (most) men they are also a source of visual stimulation and tactile pleasure. Is the manual or oral touch of a woman's breast (intimacy aside) physiologically stimulating and sensual for the woman or is this, too, a guy thing that woman tolerate?I’ve breastfed three children, and so I suppose my breasts have had a nutritional function. But I don’t think of it as their primary function. I guess I do notice their visual impact from time to time, but that doesn’t seem to be their primary function either.
My breasts are definitely central to my sexual response. I tend to think that’s their main purpose in my life, and the other things they can do are secondary. I didn’t find feeding my kids at all erotic, and I found it very easy to separate the feeding function from the sexual function (though I never tried sexual activity during a feed, you understand). Having said that, my breasts felt very different while I was breastfeeding and I prefer the way they feel when I’m not breastfeeding!
So I guess I’d say that I don’t just tolerate breast touch; I encourage it. The more the better, in my view. Breast fun is my second favourite thing.
Posted by sleepygirl on November 22, 2005, at 21:12:42
In reply to Sex Ed 101: Women, posted by Toph on November 22, 2005, at 14:56:26
....a sensitive area requiring just the right touch at the right time, why they are so admired? I don't know
Posted by Deneb on November 22, 2005, at 21:50:32
In reply to Soap box! Soap box!, posted by TexasChic on November 22, 2005, at 20:19:03
I also think women should be able to go around bare-chested. If men can do it, so should women. I also think women should feel comfortable breast-feeding in public and never be ashamed.
Deneb
Posted by allisonross on November 23, 2005, at 5:09:53
In reply to Re: Soap box! Soap box! » TexasChic, posted by Deneb on November 22, 2005, at 21:50:32
> I also think women should be able to go around bare-chested. If men can do it, so should women. I also think women should feel comfortable breast-feeding in public and never be ashamed.
>
> DenebI do, too, although it wouldn't be something I would do. Other societies are comfortable exposing their breasts. Unfortunately, ours isn't.
There isn't anywhere I don't love to be touched. This is irrelevant to what is being discussed, but thought (LOL) I'd add that my body screams every day to have sex. Divorced after 31 years, and living without being touched, or having sex is excruciating for me.
Sex was the ONLY good thing about the marriage; sad but true.
Men....are you listening/! Grins n smiles, Ally
>
Posted by sunny10 on November 23, 2005, at 7:36:19
In reply to Re: Soap box! Soap box! » Deneb, posted by allisonross on November 23, 2005, at 5:09:53
If they are touched in very specific ways it is a direct hit to the "do me now" urge...
If not touched in those ways it's a big YAWN..."yeah, sure, sure hope you're having fun"
so I guess my answer to your question is that they can be both stimulating for us, and make us feel like an object...
As usual, it has to do with the intent of the other person. if they are trying to turn us on (and willing to take direction), then it is a MUTUALLY SATISFYING ACTIVITY. If the man doesn't really care about pleasing us, but is just filled with that "little boy wonder", then I feel like I could just as easily be a football...
Posted by caraher on November 23, 2005, at 8:26:15
In reply to Sex Ed 101: Women, posted by Toph on November 22, 2005, at 14:56:26
> Is the manual or oral touch of a woman's breast (intimacy aside) physiologically stimulating and sensual for the woman or is this, too, a guy thing that woman tolerate?
I used to assume the latter until my wife made it clear that, done the right way at the right time, it was a MAJOR pleasure for her. And I'm glad to be of service ;)
Posted by TexasChic on November 23, 2005, at 18:06:59
In reply to Re: Soap box! Soap box!, posted by sunny10 on November 23, 2005, at 7:36:19
... have any less then obvious places that are also a
"direct hit to the "do me now" urge...?"
For me there's a certain spot on the neck that makes me forget my own name (d@mn its been a long time since I've had sex!!!). Also, this may be weird, but my feet! There's a certain area on my foot that when rubbed just makes me melt (d@mn its been a long time since I've had sex!!!).-T
Posted by TexasChic on November 23, 2005, at 18:11:26
In reply to Does anyone else..., posted by TexasChic on November 23, 2005, at 18:06:59
I forgot a couple of words:
>there's a certain spot WHEN KISSED on the neck that makes me forget my own name(d@mn its been a long time since I've had sex!!!)
-T
Posted by allisonross on November 24, 2005, at 16:14:43
In reply to Does anyone else..., posted by TexasChic on November 23, 2005, at 18:06:59
> ... have any less then obvious places that are also a
> "direct hit to the "do me now" urge...?"d@mn, it's been a long time since I've had sex!!!-----LOL, Ha, ha...as I am relating BIG time (31 year marriage; now divorced. The ONLY good thing in the marriage was sex, and now.....nuthin'...I am a wildly passionate, huggy, kissy, touchy-feely person, and being alone....bites!
> For me there's a certain spot on the neck that makes me forget my own name (d@mn its been a long time since I've had sex!!!).
I hear ya!
Also, this may be weird, but my feet!
Me, too, I have always loved to have my feet touched; foot fetish anyone! d@amn, it's been a long time since I've had sex!! LOL
There's a certain area on my foot that when rubbed just makes me melt (d@mn its been a long time since I've had sex!!!).
You crack me up! I love my whole body to be touched, but there is one place.....the small of my back; just a light touch, and wacka wacka!!!
D@amn, it's been a long time since I've.....LOL, LOL
Hugs, Ally
>
> -T
Posted by Larry Hoover on December 17, 2005, at 0:22:26
In reply to Re: Does anyone else..., posted by TexasChic on November 23, 2005, at 18:11:26
> I forgot a couple of words:
> >there's a certain spot WHEN KISSED on the neck that makes me forget my own name
>
> (d@mn its been a long time since I've had sex!!!)
>
> -TNot only has it been a long time since I've had sex, it's been even longer since I went exploring for those special places.
They sure are fun to find. ;-)
Lar
Posted by 10derHeart on December 17, 2005, at 17:56:48
In reply to Re: Does anyone else... » TexasChic, posted by Larry Hoover on December 17, 2005, at 0:22:26
>Not only has it been a long time since I've had sex,<
:-(
>...it's been even longer since I went exploring for those special places. They sure are fun to find. ;-)<
:-) ! :-) !
Posted by Susan47 on January 13, 2006, at 0:58:41
In reply to Sex Ed 101: Women, posted by Toph on November 22, 2005, at 14:56:26
> I've been reading happyflower's questions to men about male sexuality and male anatomy. I have one for the women.
>
> Women's breasts perform an invaluable nutritional function in the preservation of the species. For (most) men they are also a source of visual stimulation and tactile pleasure. Is the manual or oral touch of a woman's breast (intimacy aside) physiologically stimulating and sensual for the woman or is this, too, a guy thing that woman tolerate?
I can't believe I didn't have the libido to come here earlier and exploret his subject. Oh, my I am SO HAPPY to hear you say men find our breasts a source of pleasure. It's so so so important to know that you're giving your partner pleasure, it revs you up and I know I sure as hell love having mine played with to the nth degree, in fact, I HATE having to beg for breast stimulation, I want the man I'm with to love touching me, not just there but all of me .. and it's so fantastic feeling the same way about him, too .. so Larry I have a question for you, do men love being touched as much as we love touching them? And where, I mean, it isn't JUST there is it? I love to kiss and nibble and suck on earlobes and necks.. lobes are so effing sexy in my mouth ... do men love that as much as we do?
Posted by Susan47 on January 13, 2006, at 1:08:06
In reply to Re: Sex Ed 101: Women » Toph, posted by Tamar on November 22, 2005, at 20:24:00
It's one of my first favourites, and I'm so glad you answered that because my breasts felt different when I was breastfeeding, as well .. and I didn't even notice at the time but that's a big reason why I didn't enjoy them being touched sexually I'll bet. I also prefer the way they feel when I'm not breastfeeding and I expect those days are long gone, in any case but I wonder how they'll feel in old age, if I get that far ..
Posted by Susan47 on January 13, 2006, at 1:09:50
In reply to Re: Sex Ed 101: Women; You still there? » Toph, posted by Susan47 on January 13, 2006, at 0:58:41
I just thought I should clear that up. I get Larry and Toph mixed up all the time, I suspect I always have, sorry guys, I apologize.
Posted by Toph on January 22, 2006, at 0:23:24
In reply to Re: Sex Ed 101: Women; You still there? » Toph, posted by Susan47 on January 13, 2006, at 0:58:41
I just stumbled upon this old thread and your contribution Susan. I would simply say that if I were attacted to a certain woman and she did any and hopefully all of the things you described then I would be one happy puppy. I know this from experience.
Posted by Larry Hoover on February 4, 2006, at 23:42:45
In reply to Re: Sex Ed 101: Women; You still there? » Toph, posted by Susan47 on January 13, 2006, at 0:58:41
> Oh, my I am SO HAPPY to hear you say men find our breasts a source of pleasure.
I'm glad you feel that way. I sure enjoy a woman's breasts. However, it's not necessarily reciprocal, right? One partner I had as much as told me to not bother with her breasts, as she had no sensation there. It's confusing, unless there is open communication. That's what I'm speaking in advocacy of, open communication. Sexual partners need to communicate, to describe individual traits and likes and dislikes and all that. I'm not a mind reader, but I am a very committed listener/observer. If I'm leaving something out, it does neither of us any service to fail to speak up about it. Only too happy to oblige, ya know.
> It's so so so important to know that you're giving your partner pleasure, it revs you up and I know I sure as hell love having mine played with to the nth degree, in fact, I HATE having to beg for breast stimulation, I want the man I'm with to love touching me, not just there but all of me .. and it's so fantastic feeling the same way about him, too ..
Agreed.
> so Larry I have a question for you, do men love being touched as much as we love touching them? And where, I mean, it isn't JUST there is it?
It matters *how* I'm being touched, too. It's not just *there*, no. Any part of me can be erogenous, in the hands of a skillful and thoughtful partner.
> I love to kiss and nibble and suck on earlobes and necks.. lobes are so effing sexy in my mouth ... do men love that as much as we do?
I will not generalize.....I've tried to not do so throughout my reply. I like it. I also like to kiss and nibble necks and lobes, I especially like it, if I know that it is in fact pleasurable. It wouldn't be too hard to figure out, though, if I came up behind you, and warmed the nape of your neck with my breath, as my nose slid upwards nearer your lobe, my lips dragging warm kisses up behind your ear.
Lar
Posted by crazy teresa on February 5, 2006, at 13:09:23
In reply to Re: Sex Ed 101: Women; You still there? » Susan47, posted by Larry Hoover on February 4, 2006, at 23:42:45
Please come over for dinner immediately...
Posted by Susan47 on February 5, 2006, at 14:52:20
In reply to Re: Sex Ed 101: Women; You still there? » Susan47, posted by Larry Hoover on February 4, 2006, at 23:42:45
> > Oh, my I am SO HAPPY to hear you say men find our breasts a source of pleasure.
>
> I'm glad you feel that way. I sure enjoy a woman's breasts. However, it's not necessarily reciprocal, right? One partner I had as much as told me to not bother with her breasts, as she had no sensation there. It's confusing, unless there is open communication. That's what I'm speaking in advocacy of, open communication. Sexual partners need to communicate, to describe individual traits and likes and dislikes and all that. I'm not a mind reader, but I am a very committed listener/observer. If I'm leaving something out, it does neither of us any service to fail to speak up about it. Only too happy to oblige, ya know.
The problem is though that a lot of men, most in fact, dive right in without taking their time to find out what we like, and they do this little performance thing, and then you HAVE to be diplomatic, I mean, what would a woman say, no your tongue isn't strong enough, you need to do tongue workouts baby, here let me help you? Actually, that isn't a bad one, I might try that next time. But nice, normal people all have very delicate, sensitive egos and once they've performed, it's tricky. Which is why it's always always always a good idea to go fast, then slow, then relax where you KNOW you're bringing pleasure, and always go slow when not sure. I mean, really slow. Most men can't do that. Don't have the patience.
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> > It's so so so important to know that you're giving your partner pleasure, it revs you up and I know I sure as hell love having mine played with to the nth degree, in fact, I HATE having to beg for breast stimulation, I want the man I'm with to love touching me, not just there but all of me .. and it's so fantastic feeling the same way about him, too ..
>
> Agreed.
>
> > so Larry I have a question for you, do men love being touched as much as we love touching them? And where, I mean, it isn't JUST there is it?
>
> It matters *how* I'm being touched, too. It's not just *there*, no. Any part of me can be erogenous, in the hands of a skillful and thoughtful partner.Ew, I like that. Yessir I certainly do like the way you've put that, Larry.
>
> > I love to kiss and nibble and suck on earlobes and necks.. lobes are so effing sexy in my mouth ... do men love that as much as we do?
>
> I will not generalize.....I've tried to not do so throughout my reply. I like it. I also like to kiss and nibble necks and lobes, I especially like it, if I know that it is in fact pleasurable. It wouldn't be too hard to figure out, though, if I came up behind you, and warmed the nape of your neck with my breath, as my nose slid upwards nearer your lobe, my lips dragging warm kisses up behind your ear.
>
> Lar
Yes, and don't forget the nose touching the face when you're kissing, I totally love that, and when you're with someone exciting and lovely and kind, very kind and intelligent, it's addictive. Really, really addictive, to be physically together. Nice to not get too much of each other, either and nice to have other things in life, exciting and good, but especially great to share. I wonder if I'll ever have that. Hmh.
Posted by TexasChic on February 5, 2006, at 21:12:00
In reply to Re: Sex Ed 101: Women; You still there? » Susan47, posted by Larry Hoover on February 4, 2006, at 23:42:45
Posted by TexasChic on February 5, 2006, at 21:14:26
In reply to Damn dude! (nm) » Larry Hoover, posted by TexasChic on February 5, 2006, at 21:12:00
Posted by 10derHeart on February 6, 2006, at 15:15:23
In reply to My astericks thingy is ON! Please don't PBC me! (nm), posted by TexasChic on February 5, 2006, at 21:14:26
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