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Posted by alesta on November 3, 2005, at 12:54:38
ok, so i just kind of broke up with my bf...told him needed distance..anyway..that's not the issue...there's this guy here i sorta like (i know i really should take a break from men especially from a here! but oh well.) i know for sure that he likes me..but i made a total fool out of myself today! it's so depressing! he asked me to eat lunch with him and i got this bout of shyness (probably b/c i just don't feel like i look good today..i'm usually much more at ease lately) and got all nervous and stiff around him. and then i turned him down for lunch after i originally said i would go and asked him if he would be here tomorrow and if we could eat lunch together then. he probably is like "this chick is weird. whatever." i acted so monotone and awkward man...how do i face him. i feel like there is no chance for anything now. what do i do? how do i act around him? what do you think he is thinking? i need some solace in some advice...how do i fix the awkwardness? need some help..fast..thanks!!!!:)
amy, who feels sooo crappy right now...hope there's a nice shoulder out there...
Posted by allisonross on November 3, 2005, at 13:15:22
In reply to made a fool of myself. wah help me!, posted by alesta on November 3, 2005, at 12:54:38
> ok, so i just kind of broke up with my bf...told him needed distance..anyway..that's not the issue...there's this guy here i sorta like (i know i really should take a break from men especially from a here! but oh well.) i know for sure that he likes me..but i made a total fool out of myself today!
Maybe only YOU think that? Guys are not that sophisticated, LOL, LOL
it's so depressing! he asked me to eat lunch with him and i got this bout of shyness (probably b/c i just don't feel like i look good today..i'm usually much more at ease lately) and got all nervous and stiff around him. and then i turned him down for lunch after i originally said i would go and asked him if he would be here tomorrow and if we could eat lunch together then. he probably is like "this chick is weird. whatever." i acted so monotone and awkward man...how do i face him.
Like nothing happened.
i feel like there is no chance for anything now. what do i do?
Behave like nothing happened, cause however you thought you were acting, he may not have thught much about it .
how do i act around him? what do you think he is thinking?
Only HE knows the answer t that question.
i need some solace in some advice...how do i fix the awkwardness?
Repeating myself (LOL), just behave like nothing happened. It is the PAST.
If he mentions anything, just be authentic, and tell him you were feeling a little awkward and nervous...
.guys feel like that ALL of the time around women, LOL, LOl...He will...understand! need some help..fast..thanks!!!!:)
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> amy, who feels sooo crappy right now...hope there's a nice shoulder out there...In other words:
I'ts snot that serious. If he likes you, and vice versa, you will find a way to get together and enjoy one another's company, and not make a big deal of something that wasn't really...a big deal.
Can we say blown out of proportion?! (in a sensitive, tender way from my soft shoulder to yours, sweetie!)
Hugs, Ally (hey, if you want to really freak out---read my story) : www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.com (voted out of a 31 years church membership)
and I was published by a psych. journal: www.psychiatricjournal.com...entitled; The Transcendent Child on Overcoming Verbal and Spiritual Abuse
Posted by alesta on November 3, 2005, at 13:30:02
In reply to Re: made a fool of myself. wah help me!, posted by allisonross on November 3, 2005, at 13:15:22
AWESOME advice, ally, and you made me laugh several times in the process lol!!! loved your post..thank you!! wonderful words said with lots of charm to boot.:)
thank you! guess i'll *try* and just be cool..:) easier said than done..maybe i'll be pleasantly surprised with myself lol.i look forward to checking out the sites you referenced soon, probably after submitting this post..that's awesome that you were published!!!
take care!:-)
amy
Posted by TamaraJ on November 3, 2005, at 18:02:07
In reply to made a fool of myself. wah help me!, posted by alesta on November 3, 2005, at 12:54:38
Aw, Amy, don't beat yourself up over it, ok. I think at some point, we all do something like that. I have done it and have felt the same way you did after. I can be very shy and introverted when I first meet people, and that is even more obvious when it is a guy that I really like and wan to get to know. Anyway, the nice thing is that the guy didn't even blink an eye or think I was weird (I keep that well-hidden at times LOL) or blow me off. I was convinced that he would just avoid me, but surprisingly, he showed up where I was working (at the time I was bartending and supervising in a restaurant) and asked me out.
I agree with Allison, the next time you see him, don't make an issue of your sudden bout of shyness/nervousness. If he raises it, then you could just tell him that the past few weeks have been difficult and you are going through an adjustment period or something like that. If he is smart, he will know a good thing when he sees it, will recognize just what a wonderful, expressive and human individual you are, and want to get to know you and all facets of your personality better.
Good luck and take good care of you.
Tamara
Posted by allisonross on November 4, 2005, at 9:22:47
In reply to Re: made a fool of myself. wah help me!, posted by alesta on November 3, 2005, at 13:30:02
> Hey, Amygurl!
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> AWESOME advice, ally,Thankyou, I sure love to give it! LOL, LOL
and you made me laugh several times in the process lol!!! loved your post..thank you!!
Good! Laughter is LITERALLY healing (an endorphin thing)
wonderful words said with lots of charm to boot.:)
I AM known....for my charm
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> thank you! guess i'll *try* and just be cool..:)Never let em see you sweat (think that's a quote, but I will pretend it's mine, LOL)
easier said than done..maybe i'll be pleasantly surprised with myself lol.
I'll bet you are---a pleasant surprise!!
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> i look forward to checking out the sites you referenced soon, probably after submitting this post..that's awesome that you were published!!!Well, published on-line, and if the publisher who is interested in my memoir, decides not to, I will self-publish. Everyone tells me they want to read it (and who am I, to deny them the pleasure?!) LOL, LOL
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> take care!:-)Thanks, Amy, sweetie: Look forward to hearing what you think of my (www.psychiatricjournal.com) sordid, but shining, little story
and: www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.com
> amy
Hugs, n be kool
The thing is: If you BEHAVE as if you are cool/everything's okay, and look confident (even if you don't feel like it, and who does...all of the time); that is what you project, and what people see:
In other words: They will be attracted to you!!
...and that's what it is all about, eh??!! LOL
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