![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 6 of 6. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by heatherann on October 22, 2005, at 13:46:35
Im in a rut where I don't have enough outside support. All of my 'problems' - depressive negativity, paranoid thoughts - all end up at the feet of my boyfriend - who I live with. I adore him and we are buying a home together - I am beating the hell out of myself for having 'nothing to offer' him.
[give me a break though, right? i'm depressed so my head is just rearing to keep me down. none of this thinking is very 'real']
anyway - i don't want to ruin this relationship just because i'm having a difficult time reaching out these days. Not fair to either of us. I need some perspective, so here i am.
thanks for listening.
Posted by Susan47 on October 22, 2005, at 22:00:26
In reply to Im driving my boyfriend crazy, posted by heatherann on October 22, 2005, at 13:46:35
Are you seeing a therapist?
Posted by heatherann on October 23, 2005, at 11:05:54
In reply to Re: Im driving my boyfriend crazy » heatherann, posted by Susan47 on October 22, 2005, at 22:00:26
I havent' been going much. my excuses are I moved far away from her office and im tight on cash... im stalling on switching therapists because i've been with her for 13 years and shes the one who knows me and has helped me though so much. weahh! i'm stuck and i have a MAJOR anxiety around paperwork such as insurance forms - like a learning disability or something. stuck.
Posted by Tamar on October 23, 2005, at 15:18:25
In reply to Re: Im driving my boyfriend crazy, posted by heatherann on October 23, 2005, at 11:05:54
> I havent' been going much. my excuses are I moved far away from her office and im tight on cash... im stalling on switching therapists because i've been with her for 13 years and shes the one who knows me and has helped me though so much. weahh! i'm stuck and i have a MAJOR anxiety around paperwork such as insurance forms - like a learning disability or something. stuck.
I hate paperwork and forms too.
I know you don't want to be a burden to your boyfriend, but do you think he could help with the forms? Sometimes it helps to do these things together with someone else. And you could persuade him that it's in his interests!
Tamar
Posted by heatherann on October 24, 2005, at 8:27:17
In reply to Re: Im driving my boyfriend crazy » heatherann, posted by Tamar on October 23, 2005, at 15:18:25
> > I havent' been going much. my excuses are I moved far away from her office and im tight on cash... im stalling on switching therapists because i've been with her for 13 years and shes the one who knows me and has helped me though so much. weahh! i'm stuck and i have a MAJOR anxiety around paperwork such as insurance forms - like a learning disability or something. stuck.
>
> I hate paperwork and forms too.
>
> I know you don't want to be a burden to your boyfriend, but do you think he could help with the forms? Sometimes it helps to do these things together with someone else. And you could persuade him that it's in his interests!
>
> Tamar
>good point - he is very supportive and does understand my issue there
Posted by catmint on November 1, 2005, at 13:37:39
In reply to Im driving my boyfriend crazy, posted by heatherann on October 22, 2005, at 13:46:35
> Im in a rut where I don't have enough outside support. All of my 'problems' - depressive negativity, paranoid thoughts - all end up at the feet of my boyfriend - who I live with. I adore him and we are buying a home together - I am beating the hell out of myself for having 'nothing to offer' him.
> [give me a break though, right? i'm depressed so my head is just rearing to keep me down. none of this thinking is very 'real']
> anyway - i don't want to ruin this relationship just because i'm having a difficult time reaching out these days. Not fair to either of us. I need some perspective, so here i am.
> thanks for listening.
>Heather,
I read this and it reminds me so much of my relationship.
I'm so insecure and I need constant reassurance. He's not always there to give it. I don't know why I do this in relationships. I know I need therapy and ways to boost my self-esteem, but I can't right now.Hopefully, we can talk more about this. It would be great to try and help each other, so we can feel secure that our boyfriends won't leave us because we're worried all the time.
I also posted to you on Substance Use. Take care Heather.
Amy
This is the end of the thread.
Psycho-Babble Relationships | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.