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Posted by sal0805 on October 22, 2005, at 13:10:13
My husband does not seem to want to be home with me. He grabs whatever opportunity he can to get out of the house (which I have not left in more than a week) and does not invite me to join him wherever he is going.
I don't drive - I am reliant on him for transport. There is not public transport available where I am. Besides - I cannot exactly go out or do anything when my son is at home. So here I am. Bored and lonely and left alone.
I am feeling so sorry for myself right now. Yet I do not want to begrudge him his freedom.
There is still a small voice saying 'what about me?'
Sabrina
Posted by Angela2 on October 22, 2005, at 13:44:02
In reply to Feeling lonely, posted by sal0805 on October 22, 2005, at 13:10:13
I'm sorry you are lonely right now sabrina. Do you think your husband is doing this on purpose to get away from you? Or is he just the kind of guy who likes to go out? You can always post here on babble. We are here to listen. If you're ever lonely just say so and we'll come to your rescue.
-Ang2
Posted by AdaGrace on October 22, 2005, at 13:45:52
In reply to Re: Feeling lonely, posted by Angela2 on October 22, 2005, at 13:44:02
I'm making spiked lemonade for a make-up party I was talked into having. Wanna come over?
Posted by AdaGrace on October 22, 2005, at 14:00:51
In reply to Re: Feeling lonely » Angela2, posted by AdaGrace on October 22, 2005, at 13:45:52
Actually that was for Sabrina, but you can come too angela
Posted by Susan47 on October 22, 2005, at 21:59:18
In reply to Re: Feeling lonely, posted by AdaGrace on October 22, 2005, at 14:00:51
If you haven't been out of the house in a week or more, you're getting boring, don't you think? Where are your friends? Why isn't your SO babysitting? Get mad, girl, get it together and get OUT, because he isn't giving you your due. He isn't respecting you, unless what you've just said isn't true. What he's doing is actually acting out, if you ask me.
Posted by sal0805 on October 23, 2005, at 2:18:44
In reply to Sabrina, posted by Susan47 on October 22, 2005, at 21:59:18
I agree with you but getting out on my own is a bit complicated.
Sabrina
Posted by sal0805 on October 23, 2005, at 2:20:20
In reply to Re: Feeling lonely, posted by Angela2 on October 22, 2005, at 13:44:02
I don't think it is 'on purpose' - he is not being mean - just 'absent'. He has always been this way and I married him knowing that. He is a free spirit and I am envious of that and lonely because of it.
My own issues I think
Sabrina
Posted by sal0805 on October 23, 2005, at 2:21:02
In reply to Re: Feeling lonely, posted by AdaGrace on October 22, 2005, at 14:00:51
More vodka than lemonade I hope.
Did you buy anything sparkly with glitter in it?
Sabrina
Posted by corafree on October 23, 2005, at 9:56:39
In reply to Re: Feeling lonely » AdaGrace, posted by sal0805 on October 23, 2005, at 2:21:02
I feel like I fit in this thread real well right now.
Can we drink to that please?!
Maybe even get some helium balloons and listen to ourselves sound ridiculous!
I've just moved to a new residence .. my body has anyway; head got lost somewhere along the way.
I'd send out a 'lost my head' message, but no one to send it to!
No one is alone here.
(I know no one is alone anywhere .. really do know better .. just can't feel it currently.)
I could try out for that new show, LOST!
Trying to make it funny for a few seconds at least.
I've missed you all so much.
I'm praying.
Feels good being back here with you.
bestwishes, cf
Posted by AdaGrace on October 23, 2005, at 12:22:26
In reply to Re: Feeling lonely » AdaGrace, posted by sal0805 on October 23, 2005, at 2:21:02
I don't have vodka. I am afraid that if I started buying and storing hard licquer in this house I would find myself committed against my will into a home for wayward alcoholic wives.
And no, no glitter. Just zit cream, anti aging cream, "I am not a whore" lipstick, blush and eye shadow. Because afterall, why bother. I have noone to impress, as if there was any way of that happening.
Posted by corafree on October 23, 2005, at 13:12:10
In reply to Re: Feeling lonely » sal0805, posted by AdaGrace on October 23, 2005, at 12:22:26
Posted by Tamar on October 23, 2005, at 15:32:14
In reply to Feeling lonely, posted by sal0805 on October 22, 2005, at 13:10:13
> There is still a small voice saying 'what about me?'
Maybe your husband needs to hear that voice. It’s entirely possible that he doesn’t understand how lonely you feel. Perhaps he believes that your son is company for you, but of course you need some adult company on a regular basis.
It’s not an easy thing to talk about, but if you can think of something you want to do (with friends, with him, on your own, or whatever) it’s easier than simply complaining that you feel neglected. If you had some definite ideas it would probably be easier for him to agree to them.
Also… is there a reason why you don’t drive? Could you learn to drive? I know there are sometimes medical reasons, and some people firmly believe they’d be dangerous behind the wheel of a car, but if you don’t fall into either of those categories perhaps you could learn. If would give you a lot more freedom. I know it can be expensive, but I think it’s an investment in the future… and if your husband goes out a lot, perhaps you could afford it if he cut back on his out time.
My husband also likes his independence and I find it hard sometimes now that we have three kids. But if I didn’t get out too I suspect we would no longer be married…
Tamar
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