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Posted by wildcard on August 8, 2005, at 2:58:43
hey everyone. i'm in a hard situation and although i know that it is me that has to make my own decisions, any advice wld be appreciated. i've been in a four year relationship and we recently had a baby boy. my x used my preg. against me(high risk) and took custody of my other child. i have been told by several different lawyers that if i want my other child back, i need to marry my new sons father. Here's the dilemma; recently my "whatever" u wanna call him has been using my past against me,ex: from the abuse i went through as a kid to being drugged and raped, the fact that i have NO family and am all alone,crazy,etc...trying to hurt me. i have been in an abuseful relationship before so i know the signs. for two days now he has SPIT in my face b/c he didnt like what i had to say AFTER i asked him to walk away and leave me alone. i tried to walk away and he wld follow. this is crazy. i admit that i knocked the sh*t out of him after he spit in my face but for the 1st (and last) time in 4 years-the SOB hit me. the only reason that i did not put him jail or in the hospitol is b/c i cannot afford to have a report or go to jail trying to get my child back but now, w/ no family or close friends,i dont know where to start. i stay at home w/ the baby and have tried all my local resources that i know of...i know i must get a job and if i have to stay up 24 hours a day to work 3rd shift and care for my baby, i will to save $ to leave. i just seem to hit a roadblock each way i turn. any advise??
Posted by sunny10 on August 8, 2005, at 2:58:44
In reply to ANY ADVICE-NEED HELP??, posted by wildcard on August 5, 2005, at 10:55:35
I would advise that you go to a women's shelter. They will help you not only get away from the abuse, but they also have legal contacts that can answer your custody questions.
I'm not saying that you have to move there right away- I'm saying GO THERE and find out what your options are, exactly.
Good luck,
sunny10
Posted by AuntieMel on August 8, 2005, at 2:58:44
In reply to ANY ADVICE-NEED HELP??, posted by wildcard on August 5, 2005, at 10:55:35
Number 1, protect your kids. Number 1a, protect yourself.
If this guy is abusive you should not marry him to get your other child back. In fact, in my opinion you should not bring your other child into an abusive house.
Sunny is right - check out the shelters. If they don't have room right now they can help you make plans.
Posted by wildcard on August 8, 2005, at 2:58:44
In reply to Re: ANY ADVICE-NEED HELP??, posted by AuntieMel on August 5, 2005, at 11:49:52
i have done that by phone and sent emails. they are VERY cautious as to where they are located-thank God. The 1st time i was in an abusive relationship, i had only married him b/c my oldest childs father then 2 tried 2 take my son from me b/c i had left him. i grew up in abuse and there is NO way I will EVER allow my children 2 be in danger. when i got my boy back after the custody fight 5 years ago, i already had an apt. ready and had had a steady job for years which helped. the day the court verdict came in, i put what i could fit in my beat up old honda called the beast and moved 1 box at a time w/ no help in the rain...i NEVER looked back. my dilemma now is 1)my oldest boy-he is so unhappy w/ his dad and he is hurting w/o me and his baby brother and 2)being at home w/ my baby and having no family or any other type of support/help, to get on my feet. i have contacted EVERY # or email address listed RE: any form of help w/ no answers as of yet. where there is a will there is a way though and if you pray, pls mention us tonight if it's not to much to ask. i'm a smart person and know it may take time but i'll find a way. and pls don't worry about my baby's or my safety-i have been on the streets since i was 12-13. if i have to, i will beat his as*, regardless of a police report hurting my chances of getting my oldest boy. thank u for any advice and/or support. it really truly helps!
Posted by crazy teresa on August 8, 2005, at 2:58:44
In reply to Re: ANY ADVICE-NEED HELP??, posted by wildcard on August 5, 2005, at 17:03:31
Don't wait! Pick up the phone and call them! Don't stop calling until they give you answers! If you need a ride, some'll come get you so you can talk, or meet you somewhere.
Posted by wildcard on August 8, 2005, at 2:58:44
In reply to Re: ANY ADVICE-NEED HELP?? » wildcard, posted by crazy teresa on August 5, 2005, at 17:30:43
If i don't post back for awhile, it is b/c i am working,packing,etc. but i am fine. by law i can stay here at least 30 days,long enough to work on getting things together though. thank you for your advice. i knew it was over but had to figure out how to get everthing done! :)
Posted by Damos on August 8, 2005, at 2:58:44
In reply to Things are taken care of and i am fine!!, posted by wildcard on August 6, 2005, at 10:40:52
Stay safe wildcard, you're in my thoughts.
Posted by wildcard on August 8, 2005, at 2:58:44
In reply to Re: Things are taken care of and i am fine!! » wildcard, posted by Damos on August 7, 2005, at 16:58:56
Posted by Angela2 on August 9, 2005, at 7:38:28
In reply to Re: Things are taken care of and i am fine!! » wildcard, posted by Damos on August 7, 2005, at 16:58:56
Wildcard, I agree with everyone else's responses to keep calling the shelters till you get some responses. I am thinking of you.
-Angela
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