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Posted by crazy teresa on July 19, 2005, at 20:14:17
In reply to Re: New to forum...need it in a BAD way, posted by Mountain Man on July 19, 2005, at 10:21:22
I'm sorry I hurt your feelings. But things will never change or get better unless you get to the bottom of the real problems. I hope you don't feel like I was judging you, that was not my intent. I was glad to see you had replied to my post, but afraid to look at it! ;~}
I'm so glad you're seeing a T this week. I'm proud of you for taking this big step! You should be proud of yourself, too!!!
Since things moved so fast with your 2nd marriage, you never had a chance to grieve the loss of your first marriage; so I would agree with what you said about your emotions.
Have you talked to your wife since you left? Do you think she'd be willing to go to counseling with you? Maybe it would be a good idea to ask your T if couples' T would be good right now, if
your wife agrees to go with you.I hope this situation hasn't made work awkward for you.
It seems like everything in life is kind of a roller coaster--marriage, work, feelings, money, etc. It goes up and down, over and over again; sometimes we throw up all over each other. It can be a slow climb back to the top, but eventually we get there and fling our arms back up into the air. (LOL!! I think I'm morphing into Jack Handey...)
crazy t
Posted by Damos on July 20, 2005, at 17:09:10
In reply to Re: Do you want honesty?, posted by Mountain Man on July 18, 2005, at 11:13:26
Good onya mate. You've done three big things here: 1) Being honest with yourself about what has happened 2) Accepting that there may be deeper issues that need sorting & 3) Getting help.
Don't underestimate how big this is.
Posted by crazy teresa on July 21, 2005, at 21:10:07
In reply to Re: Do you want honesty? » Mountain Man, posted by Damos on July 20, 2005, at 17:09:10
Posted by CAROLINA on July 21, 2005, at 21:54:06
In reply to Re: Do you want honesty? » Mountain Man, posted by Damos on July 20, 2005, at 17:09:10
Posted by crazy teresa on July 23, 2005, at 16:45:34
In reply to WE ARE HERE!!!! DON'T 4GET THAT (nm), posted by CAROLINA on July 21, 2005, at 21:54:06
Can you turn Mountain Man's babblemail on for one tiny email? PUL-EEEEESE? Or can you email him and ask if he's ok?
teresa
Posted by Dr. Bob on July 24, 2005, at 10:23:38
In reply to Hey Dr. Bob!, posted by crazy teresa on July 23, 2005, at 16:45:34
Posted by Mountain Man on July 27, 2005, at 11:23:09
In reply to How'd it go Mountain Man??? R U here? (nm), posted by crazy teresa on July 21, 2005, at 21:10:07
Well, I saw my Therapist last Thursday and things seemed to be a little better.
I've been on the Effexor XR (75mg) for a little over three weeks, so that may be helping some too.
I will continue to see my therapist weekly until I feel some sense of resolution to my issues (which could take a looooong time).
I think things are over with the last wife. Although she has her emotional days that it seems she wants/misses me...I know there is too much to be worked on (for me) that stands in the way. So, I try to let all of that disappear from my mind.
Work is tough sometimes, but I manage. I hope that I feel like I made as much progress three weeks from now as I have over the last three.
Thank you all for the support. I will continue to lean on you.
MM
Posted by Carolina on July 27, 2005, at 11:40:58
In reply to Sorry...It's been a tough week., posted by Mountain Man on July 27, 2005, at 11:23:09
MM-glad u let us know how u are doing. it's always the 1st steps that are the hardest to take but you'll get there! i'm glad ur 1st priority is to work on urself. does ur wife know that u are in therapy? and if so, what is her reaction? i ask b/c crazy t made a good point RE: marriage counseling? that would be WHEN and IF YOUR ready and want that. take care of u-carolina
Posted by Mountain Man on July 27, 2005, at 12:25:36
In reply to Re: Sorry...It's been a tough week., posted by Carolina on July 27, 2005, at 11:40:58
Carolina,
She does know...and she goes through her emotional times as well. Although, she tries to stay "strong"...which is another way of saying "cold".The further I get away from the situation, the more uncertain I become as to whether or not I even want to reconcile with her.
I asked about a week ago if she would go to therapy with me...she said "no". I asked why, and she said "because I don't want to".
Posted by Carolina on July 27, 2005, at 12:49:13
In reply to Re: Sorry...It's been a tough week., posted by Mountain Man on July 27, 2005, at 12:25:36
MM-
het again! u should be really proud of how far u have come in a matter of weeks! u cannot make ur wife do anything and it seems u know that and are questioning if u even want 2 work things out. WOW-it seems u've really done some soul searching. it is never as easy as it seems when a relationship ends but u r going in the right direction." Next time you feel the door to happiness has closed before you, REMEMBER it has only done that in order that another door to other happiness can open". that kinda reminded me of u and what ur going through. it's in a pretty cool book some1 gave me. i believe in u and that w/ cont. therapy u will figure things out that will change ur life 4 the better.please don't hesitate to babble me ANYTIME and please try and keep in touch so we don't worry.-carolina
Posted by Mountain Man on July 27, 2005, at 13:06:27
In reply to Re: Sorry...It's been a tough week., posted by Carolina on July 27, 2005, at 12:49:13
Too bad I dan't keep you in my pocket.
:)
Posted by Carolina on July 27, 2005, at 13:40:20
In reply to Re: Sorry...It's been a tough week., posted by Mountain Man on July 27, 2005, at 13:06:27
Posted by Mountain Man on July 27, 2005, at 16:05:37
In reply to u can keep me close 2 ur heart though!!!! (nm), posted by Carolina on July 27, 2005, at 13:40:20
How do I turn my babble mail feature?
Posted by Carolina on July 28, 2005, at 2:36:57
In reply to Re: u can keep me close 2 ur heart though!!!!, posted by Mountain Man on July 27, 2005, at 16:05:37
i am so exausted i can't think straight enough 2 remember-i know its somewhere under administration...i'll look and get back soon :-D
Posted by Carolina on July 29, 2005, at 0:00:37
In reply to how 2 turn on babble, posted by Carolina on July 28, 2005, at 2:36:57
hey MM-i know u can look where u register 2 find out xactly how 2 babble but if i'm not mistaken, try to click on the name of the poster and see if it sends u 2 babblebuddy central-j/k...IF that's rt.(not very confident it is)it will say babblemail and u can send ur email. either way let me know how u are ok?-carolina :-D
Posted by Mountain Man on July 29, 2005, at 11:22:59
In reply to Re: how 2 turn on babble/?????????, posted by Carolina on July 29, 2005, at 0:00:37
Carolina,
I am trying to get you my personal email addy as that may be easier...trying to figure out a way to do it without posting in public...any thoughts?
Posted by Carolina on July 29, 2005, at 14:18:24
In reply to Re: how 2 turn on babble/?????????, posted by Mountain Man on July 29, 2005, at 11:22:59
no :-( let me try and send u mine through babble b/c if im not mistaken it is not allowed to post ur email address on a forum...let me try but i'm about 2 head out 2 take care of errands so i'll get back w/ u when i'm home. it should go through. talk at ya soon
Posted by Carolina on July 29, 2005, at 14:20:24
In reply to Re: how 2 turn on babble/?????????, posted by Mountain Man on July 29, 2005, at 11:22:59
darn-i cant even send u anything through babble w/o urs being turned on...let me look at something and i'll be rt. back :-D
Posted by Carolina on July 29, 2005, at 14:54:08
In reply to Re: how 2 turn on babble/?????????, posted by Carolina on July 29, 2005, at 14:20:24
Posted by Mountain Man on July 29, 2005, at 17:17:26
In reply to i'm trying 2 send help!!! :-D (nm) » Carolina, posted by Carolina on July 29, 2005, at 14:54:08
Dr. Bob send me the info, but I don't have access to the email I used to sign up until Monday...trying to think of another way.
Posted by Phillipa on July 29, 2005, at 20:37:30
In reply to Re: u can keep me close 2 ur heart though!!!!, posted by Mountain Man on July 27, 2005, at 16:05:37
Okey Mountainman. To turn on your babblemail. step l. Click on a post where the poster's name appears lit up usually blue, That will bring you to Babblemail to that person. step 2. Scroll down past the box to submit a Babblemail. step 3 you will see lit up again a place to update registration or FAQ. step 4 click on either one. step5 This will send you to all Dr. Bob has to offer. 6 Keep scrolling up until you reach update your registration and type in appropriate info. 7 once you have done this just below new info you posted you should see two circles one says Babblemail on the other Babblemail off. Click on Babblemail on. A green dot will appear. Then your name will light up and others can send you a Babblemail from any post you post. I hope this helps. Fondly, Phillipa. You can always just go to the home page where you originally registered.
Posted by Carolina on July 30, 2005, at 4:20:41
In reply to Re: i'm trying 2 send help!!! :-D, posted by Mountain Man on July 29, 2005, at 17:17:26
HEY MM-THAT HELP ON THE WAY...lol WAS MY FRIEND PHILLIPA-SHE IS ONE OF THE NICEST PEOPLE TO TALK TO!EVEN THOUGH U CANT BABBLE YET-HOW R THINGS W/ U-CAROLINA
Posted by Phillipa on July 30, 2005, at 17:40:29
In reply to Re: i'm trying 2 send help!!! :-D/ HOW R U????, posted by Carolina on July 30, 2005, at 4:20:41
Sometimes they just disappear for a while and then pop up. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by Mountain Man on July 30, 2005, at 17:56:45
In reply to Re: i'm trying 2 send help!!! :-D/ HOW R U???? » Carolina, posted by Phillipa on July 30, 2005, at 17:40:29
Sorry, I had a bunch of stuff I've let pile up over the last few weeks that I finally felt like getting done. Laundry topped the list.
I will try the babblemail thing in a bit...still have a few things I'd like to get done.
Thanks. I love you ladies!!! :)
Posted by crazy teresa on August 4, 2005, at 20:51:45
In reply to Re: i'm trying 2 send help!!! :-D/ HOW R U????, posted by Mountain Man on July 30, 2005, at 17:56:45
Sorry I hadn't realized you'd come back. Good to hear you're hanging on! I wanted your babblemail on just so we could check on you when we hadn't heard from you. Did you get it turned on?
How do you like your T? Do you have a male or female? Tell us all about it.
What kind of work do you do? Do you have to interact with your wife a lot at work? That could be a tough one.
crazy teresa
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