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Posted by anastasia56 on April 23, 2005, at 23:30:59
In reply to ((((((Alex)))))) ((((((Susan)))))) » alexandra_k, posted by Damos on April 23, 2005, at 22:41:40
now why is it that damos lives so far from either alex or susan? the matchmaker in me is seething.
Posted by 10derHeart on April 24, 2005, at 0:05:24
In reply to Re: And..., posted by alexandra_k on April 23, 2005, at 19:58:11
> ...I miss sex.
> I do.
> But it is over now. It has been a long whileOh, my. I am about to be bad.
And even worse, no one is probably going to get what I'm saying.
But I have to try.I am absolutely not dismissing your missing sex - something that is natural and given to us as a gift. Everyone, in a perfect world, would be in a beautiful, amazing sexual relationship.
I am also not meaning to be the person who says, "oh, yeah, well MY problem's bigger than yours, let me tell you..."
But I can't HELP it, this is just too perfect.
You must read here:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20050408/msgs/483431.html
and then my post maybe about 12 down from Damos' if you'd like to know my..uh...magic number.... (if you don't read the whole thread)
LOL. Hahaha. I suppose the meaning of "it's been a long while" is relative...but for Damos and me at least, well, IT'S REALLY, REALLY, REALLY BEEN A LONG WHILE!!
I couldn't resist. Oh Alex, it'll be okay. It's worth waiting until it is more than an arrangement, don't you think? Don't mean to preach, but then, maybe I do.
I just hate to imagine anyone adding any emptiness to your life in the name of a supposed closeness through physical intimacy, that is really just just an illusion. It can be so much more.
Your soul, dear girl, needs the special nourishment that can come through someone touching you, really touching *you* out of pure love and a fierce desire to please and satisfy you. Because they've already come to know you and desire your mind and spirit, without ever having laid a hand on you in a sexual way. That is my wish for you.
(Damos, dear, one, don't kill me for directing her attention to this infamous thread where we made our confessions and subjected poor Susan to several shocks..... ;-) )
Posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 0:33:52
In reply to Re: And... » alexandra_k, posted by 10derHeart on April 24, 2005, at 0:05:24
WOW! I CAN'T BELIEVE I MISSED THAT!!!
Really.
I missed the whole thread.
Thanks for the link :-)
Gosh peoples, thats a long time...
Wow.
I really long time.
I meant that we had stopped it for a long while as in a few months. Yup. 'A long time' is relative.> I am absolutely not dismissing your missing sex - something that is natural and given to us as a gift. Everyone, in a perfect world, would be in a beautiful, amazing sexual relationship.
Mmm
> LOL. Hahaha. I suppose the meaning of "it's been a long while" is relative...but for Damos and me at least, well, IT'S REALLY, REALLY, REALLY BEEN A LONG WHILE!!
Yup. I don't know that I could wait that long. Really.
> I couldn't resist. Oh Alex, it'll be okay. It's worth waiting until it is more than an arrangement, don't you think? Don't mean to preach, but then, maybe I do.Hmm. I'm not sure. I think there are two aspects (1) recreation (2) love. I would probably prefer the latter - but most of my issues are around that. I guess I'm more thinking of the first one at the mo...
> I just hate to imagine anyone adding any emptiness to your life in the name of a supposed closeness through physical intimacy, that is really just just an illusion. It can be so much more.Mmm. Can be fun though :-)
> Your soul, dear girl, needs the special nourishment that can come through someone touching you, really touching *you* out of pure love and a fierce desire to please and satisfy you. Because they've already come to know you and desire your mind and spirit, without ever having laid a hand on you in a sexual way. That is my wish for you.Mmm. I imagine there is something to be said for that too... I don't know. I don't believe anyone would ever really love me. I don't believe I am capable of really loving another. Especially the latter. I really don't think that I am. That saddens me. But there it is.
(((10derHeart)))
(((Damos)))
Wow guys.
Things will work out for you.
They have to.
Posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 0:41:55
In reply to Re: And... » 10derHeart, posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 0:33:52
Aw.
I don't know what I'm saying.
I don't know what I want.
But I don't think I want to wait till I've fallen in love with someone
'Cause that may never happen.
I don't know
I don't know
I just miss feeling close to someone for a while.
Posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 4:42:25
In reply to Re: And... » alexandra_k, posted by 10derHeart on April 24, 2005, at 0:05:24
> I couldn't resist. Oh Alex, it'll be okay. It's worth waiting until it is more than an arrangement, don't you think? Don't mean to preach, but then, maybe I do.
> I just hate to imagine anyone adding any emptiness to your life in the name of a supposed closeness through physical intimacy, that is really just just an illusion. It can be so much more.
>
> Your soul, dear girl, needs the special nourishment that can come through someone touching you, really touching *you* out of pure love and a fierce desire to please and satisfy you. Because they've already come to know you and desire your mind and spirit, without ever having laid a hand on you in a sexual way. That is my wish for you.What my special friend 10derHeart said. The loneliest I've ever been is in relationships and I wouldn't want that for you ever.
> (Damos, dear, one, don't kill me for directing her attention to this infamous thread where we made our confessions and subjected poor Susan to several shocks..... ;-) )No worries, our Alex can probably use a good laugh.
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Posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 4:48:45
In reply to Re: And... » alexandra_k, posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 0:41:55
> Aw.
> I don't know what I'm saying.
> I don't know what I want.
> But I don't think I want to wait till I've fallen in love with someone
> 'Cause that may never happen.
> I don't know
> I don't know
> I just miss feeling close to someone for a while.Me too, not that I'm sure I've ever really felt it at all ever. Just to find someone who it was comfy to curl up next to on the sofa would be so wonderful, just so wonderful.
Posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 5:11:11
In reply to Re: And... » 10derHeart, posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 0:33:52
> WOW! I CAN'T BELIEVE I MISSED THAT!!!
Big huh> Really.
Would we kid about a thing like that?> I missed the whole thread.
You had more importnt things to worry about> Thanks for the link :-)
> Gosh peoples, thats a long time...
> Wow.
> I really long time.
OH YEAH!!!!!!> Yup. I don't know that I could wait that long. Really.
I really hope you don't have too.
> Hmm. I'm not sure. I think there are two aspects (1) recreation (2) love. I would probably prefer the latter - but most of my issues are around that. I guess I'm more thinking of the first one at the mo...My difficulties with myself never allowed me to be in a place were it could be 'just for fun'. Even where I thought there was love it was like diving into a frozen lake and holding my breath and the panic and trying not to loose consciousness before I found a way back through the surface of the ice.
> Mmm. Can be fun though :-)
There's anice thought :-)
> Mmm. I imagine there is something to be said for that too... I don't know. I don't believe anyone would ever really love me. (Oh, I do) I don't believe I am capable of really loving another. (This is a fear we have in common then) Especially the latter. I really don't think that I am. That saddens me. But there it is. (Not only saddens me, but scares me, all I can tell you alex is that I believe I am more able to love someone now than I have ever been in my life, at least you've got a 14 year head start)
>
> XXXX(((((10derHeart)))))XXXX
> XXXX(((((Alex)))))XXXX
Hope things work out for you too.
Posted by Susan47 on April 24, 2005, at 14:35:14
In reply to Re: BUT I DON'T WANNA BE ALONE (Long) » Susan47, posted by alexandra_k on April 23, 2005, at 21:43:42
This is funny and also really sad and I wish it had never happened the way it did. But you have to hear it because it's a dating story I need to tell, 'cause I never have.
When I was in my early twenties, oh 21 or 22, I was going out dancing a lot, and a guy took my number but I don't recall whether he ever called me. In any case one day I get a phone call from this man, and he tells me he got my number from his SON'S little black book ... and he wondered whether I would be interested in seeing a movie with him. He sounded really nice, and interesting. So I agreed, and at the appointed hour he picked me up in his black Cadillac, and he had wineglasses in there and he poured me a glass of Rose and (I'm not kidding) I drank it while we drove to the theatre, saw the movie, afterwards he took me to his place, an apartment in a converted mansion in a nice area of town, and as we listened to music, he asked if he could suck on (I'll babblemail you what term he actually used, it's pretty funny) and I said, "WHAT??? No you certainly may not and I'm insulted at the way you've treated me, take me home immediately please." And he CRIED, he broke down and cried. And told me his was just divorced, lalalalla. He apologized profusely and took me home and that was that.
Years later, after I'd gotten over my feelings of rage with him AND myself for ever accepting a date like that, I felt sorry for him.
So no, you know Alexandra, I think meeting someone in a group of friends is really ideal.
Posted by Susan47 on April 24, 2005, at 14:36:04
In reply to ((((((Alex)))))) ((((((Susan)))))) » alexandra_k, posted by Damos on April 23, 2005, at 22:41:40
Oh man, Damos, I'm all hot now. And no drugs today either. Whew-hew.
Posted by Susan47 on April 24, 2005, at 14:36:38
In reply to Re: ((((((Alex)))))) ((((((Susan)))))), posted by anastasia56 on April 23, 2005, at 23:30:59
I know. We should really get to know Damos better. We could start a group of friends :-)
Posted by Susan47 on April 24, 2005, at 14:39:58
In reply to Re: And... » alexandra_k, posted by 10derHeart on April 24, 2005, at 0:05:24
I'm currently at 1.5 years. I've gone longer before. But it isn't easy. It isn't easy when I'm feeling sexually expressive.
Posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 18:51:17
In reply to Re: ((((((Alex)))))) ((((((Susan)))))) » anastasia56, posted by Susan47 on April 24, 2005, at 14:36:38
> I know. We should really get to know Damos better. We could start a group of friends :-)
Gosh, I really don't know what to say.
Posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 18:53:26
In reply to Re: ((((((Alex)))))) ((((((Susan)))))) » Damos, posted by Susan47 on April 24, 2005, at 14:36:04
Holy guacomole! I might just nip up to the supermarket and stand in their cool room for a bit, 48 hours ought to do it ;-)
Posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 19:07:34
In reply to Re: ((((((Alex)))))) ((((((Susan)))))) » Susan47, posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 18:53:26
I'm sure me and Susan can bring you out of your shell ;-)
Posted by anastasia56 on April 24, 2005, at 19:08:31
In reply to Re: ((((((Alex)))))) ((((((Susan)))))) » Susan47, posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 18:53:26
Posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 19:19:44
In reply to hmmmm...what to do what to do... (nm) » Damos, posted by anastasia56 on April 24, 2005, at 19:08:31
You
RUN LIKE HELL!!!
Mwah ha ha!
Posted by anastasia56 on April 24, 2005, at 19:35:04
In reply to Re: May I suggest » anastasia56, posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 19:19:44
Posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 20:06:31
In reply to Re: Te he he » Damos, posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 19:07:34
I don't doubt that for a second.
Posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 20:11:59
In reply to Re: May I suggest » anastasia56, posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 19:19:44
Puppy jumped I laughed so loud. It's so nice to have the house all to myself for a change and have a work laptop that actually works so I can talk to you guys.
There's only one major problem with the cool room - shrinkge. Mind you, I could probably register the little guy as long term unemployed and get some sort of benefit!
Posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 21:11:11
In reply to Re: Te he he » alexandra_k, posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 20:06:31
Well you'll have to come out of the fridge then ;-)
Posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 21:13:32
In reply to Re: May I suggest -Mwah ha ha » alexandra_k, posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 20:11:59
> Puppy jumped I laughed so loud.
Yay! Puppy. Give Sarah a big hug from me, ok? Do you have any pictures of her? I'd love it if you could email me one.
>It's so nice to have the house all to myself for a change and have a work laptop that actually works so I can talk to you guys.
:-)
Yay. Its a holiday!
(I don't know if we are supposed to feel happy about that on ANZAC day)
But...
Yay. Its a holiday!
(Not that I have done anything for weeks now...)
> Mind you, I could probably register the little guy as long term unemployed and get some sort of benefit!HA! Oh Damos that made me laugh!
Posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 21:17:38
In reply to Re: May I suggest -Mwah ha ha » Damos, posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 21:13:32
Posted by Susan47 on April 24, 2005, at 21:27:14
In reply to Re: May I suggest -Mwah ha ha » Damos, posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 21:13:32
She's here, seconding Alexandra's Mwah-ha-ha!
Posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 21:29:21
In reply to Re: May I suggest -Mwah ha ha » Damos, posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 21:13:32
> > Puppy jumped I laughed so loud.
>
> Yay! Puppy. Give Sarah a big hug from me, ok? Do you have any pictures of her? I'd love it if you could email me one.I absolutely will. Don't tell but I put a blanket up on the lounge last night so she could sit up there with me and watch telly. I'm sure I've got a bunch, just drop me a note to my address (I think I babblemailed it to you) and I'll send some over.
> >It's so nice to have the house all to myself for a change and have a work laptop that actually works so I can talk to you guys.
>
> :-)
> Yay. Its a holiday!
You have no idea.
> (I don't know if we are supposed to feel happy about that on ANZAC day)
> But...
> Yay. Its a holiday!
> (Not that I have done anything for weeks now...)
>
> > Mind you, I could probably register the little guy as long term unemployed and get some sort of benefit!
>
> HA! Oh Damos that made me laugh!
Yay!!!! that's more like it.
>
>
Posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 21:32:35
In reply to Re: May I suggest -Mwah ha ha, posted by Susan47 on April 24, 2005, at 21:27:14
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