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Posted by Susan47 on November 14, 2004, at 21:53:00
Verne, how are you getting along in your search?
Posted by verne on November 15, 2004, at 10:55:24
In reply to Where's Verne?, posted by Susan47 on November 14, 2004, at 21:53:00
Friday I called the bank to cancel/reissue my designated online credit card due to the people-finder reunitetonight ripoff. I had forgotten that many online merchants can't be trusted.
That night I ended up drinking and taking a beating (verbal) from a passive-agressive friend over the "girlfriend search". Our discussion, which was mostly one-way, also included problems with online socializing. He questioned my motives and basically beat up on me for being shallow, vain, and attached to the world (people).
I have alot of separation anxiety and have trouble getting off the phone. Paralyzed and mostly silent, I was good for over an hour of steady abuse. Later, much drunker, I wrote him an email where I confronted him. Part of the problem is that he truly believes he's a great thelogian and mystic saint. And that's one paradigm I can't crack.
Although he doesn't consider me "saved", he shares with a heathen(me), quoting from one of his admirer's letters that praises him up one side and down the other. Telling him that in 30 years of church-going she had never been in the "presence of God" until she met him.
He gushed in the same breathe about other great mystics - the comparison was obvious. Why tell me about it? Why not just shout it from the street corner? The pride was undeniable.
Anyway, I let it all hang out in the email. This is about the tenth time in as many years, that I've tried to end our relationship - without holding a grudge. It just isn't healthy. I don't need the abuse.
Dealing with the bank and the "friend" took alot out of me. I got blind drunk Friday, massively drunk Saturday, and tapered down to maintenance level Sunday. I hope to steer clear of alcohol and get back into some healthy pursuits.
The search is on hold for months although I'm optimistic about the outcome. I found a reputable "detective" search site that indicates they have current information. But, since I'm in no shape to deal with it, I'll wait - probably a few months.
verne
Posted by sunny10 on November 15, 2004, at 14:59:24
In reply to Taking a Break » Susan47, posted by verne on November 15, 2004, at 10:55:24
keep going with the credit thing, but, gosh, sounds to me like you should be "too busy" to get together next time that "friend" calls....
You poor soul!
-sunny10
Posted by Jai Narayan on November 15, 2004, at 20:17:20
In reply to Taking a Break » Susan47, posted by verne on November 15, 2004, at 10:55:24
verne, wow what a description of your week. What were you drinking? Beer?
Well, I hope you can extricate yourself from your "friend".
We here on babble only want the best for you.
there's no abuse here for you.I am sorry you have to go through all the trials and pain.
your search is a valiant one.
Please take care you are special to me.
Jai
Posted by verne on November 15, 2004, at 21:56:30
In reply to Re: Taking a Break, posted by Jai Narayan on November 15, 2004, at 20:17:20
Jai,
My family is an ancient beer-drinking clan (we skip a liver every other generation) although I broke tradition when I took up wine - especially white riesling.
For several months I lived and worked in a youth hostel on the Rhine river. Wine that would now cost $100 per bottle flowed freely. I was in the middle of the vineyards.
I love wine (right up there with acid - I mean "with" acid) but I would have to move to Europe for it to be affordable. Besides, I'm planning to quit drinking altogether. And I haven't seen farmecuetical (did I spell that right?) acid since the 70's.
I'm in a bit of a tailspin. I think I've had the flu since Friday. Got the chills and shakes - mayber fever. I'm drinking tonight just to deal with it.
At least I hoofed it to the store and packed the beer back, getting some exercise. I once packed a case of beer into Upper Grace Lake in Glacier National Park - I think it was a 23 mile hike, mostly uphill. I wanted a grizzly to eat me before it was over.
Have you seen "The Shooting Party" with James Mason? I just thought of it. I need to see that again.
feeling veeble
Posted by Susan47 on November 16, 2004, at 0:09:35
In reply to Re: Taking a Break » Jai Narayan, posted by verne on November 15, 2004, at 21:56:30
I don't think you've had the flu, Verne. You've had a really rough weekend, though, and my burning question is, is your "friend" some sort of um, minister? What exactly is this man's profession?
Posted by verne on November 16, 2004, at 12:13:12
In reply to Re: Taking a Break » verne, posted by Susan47 on November 16, 2004, at 0:09:35
The friend has a graphic design/advertising business and does alot of investing. He teaches Sunday school and is a hospital chaplain. He's also writing a book about tm (transcendental meditation) and christianity.
A long time tm meditator with the advanced techniques (called the siddhis), he sees no contradiction between tm and christianity. Our town, home to Maharishi University is deeply divided over this. Most christians are polarized and think tm is demonic, so christian meditators in this town walk a tightrope.
Anyway he sees the need for a book to reconcile tm and the church.
verne
Posted by Susan47 on November 16, 2004, at 13:09:32
In reply to Re: Taking a Break » Susan47, posted by verne on November 16, 2004, at 12:13:12
Verne, this ten-year relationship with this friend of yours needs some re-examination , would you agree with that? Tell you why I think so; first off, he has a history in advertising, AND you said he invests (am I right) a lot so I'm guessing he's familiar with psychology. Now he's also into christianity and tm; he's quoting letters from people who think he's close to God; lovey, your "friend" has gone off the deep end, and you're actually *listening* to him? Shake your head, darlin', side to side. Re-evaluate things; you sound much more grounded than he.
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