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Posted by AdaGrace on November 13, 2004, at 15:30:26
The love that you promised so dearly.
Where is the love, the love that you said would never die.
Where is the love, the love that you promissed to me.
Where is the love.The love that would never die.
The love that always dies.Always dies.
Another drunk post.
Forgive me.Ada, just plain lost, Grace
Posted by AdaGrace on November 14, 2004, at 8:47:59
In reply to Where is the Love?, posted by AdaGrace on November 13, 2004, at 15:30:26
I don't even remember posting this. That's how wasted I was. Yesterday was a BAD day, very very very bad.
Posted by Jai Narayan on November 14, 2004, at 10:45:53
In reply to Re: You Want to Know What's Sad?, posted by AdaGrace on November 14, 2004, at 8:47:59
It was a good post too.
My how are you going to deal with this?
I have enjoyed wine to excess on occasion.
Not every night but why do I do it at all.
I'm not depressed.
Stress?
let's quite together...
just kidding.
Jai
Posted by AdaGrace on November 14, 2004, at 11:19:16
In reply to Re: You Want to Know What's Sad?, posted by Jai Narayan on November 14, 2004, at 10:45:53
I just don't blankin want to. It's the only thing in my life that really makes me feel better, and I am so saddened by that.
I am so lonely and depressed too.
I wan't out of this hole, but alas, I can't climb out.......my fingernails are too short.....
Posted by Susan47 on November 14, 2004, at 11:50:25
In reply to Re: Jai, I would if I thought I Could » Jai Narayan, posted by AdaGrace on November 14, 2004, at 11:19:16
Ada take your face out there and see what happens. Are you spending too much time alone, lovey? Can you sit on a bench in the mall and people-watch and try to put yourself in the head of the little kids you see? Maybe you can scare a few, that makes some people happy, like on Halloween. You could pretend it's halloween. Maybe get yourself arrested and spice up your life then you wouldn't have to drink hee hee. Oh man I hope I haven't offended anybody. Heehee.
Posted by AdaGrace on November 14, 2004, at 15:46:56
In reply to Re: Jai, I would if I thought I Could, posted by Susan47 on November 14, 2004, at 11:50:25
Afraid people will see me cry. Afraid I will just never come back home.
Posted by Jai Narayan on November 14, 2004, at 21:03:35
In reply to Re: I'm afraid to go out when I am like this » Susan47, posted by AdaGrace on November 14, 2004, at 15:46:56
I am so sorry you are having such a hard time.
I posted to you on social about all of this.
All emotions pass...they really do.
Longing for people does leave it mark but
over time it has less of an effect.
time will change things, I know it doesn't seem like it right now.
You know crying is not a bad thing to do.
I cried for a solid year when I was 25.
I loved someone so much, then I rejected him and it took me years to get over it.
But that first year was the worst.
I thought I was going to die from the pain.
I ever felt like a part of myself did die.
Well years later I am more whole than I could ever be and I just thank god I didn't stay with that guy.
Keep in mind that things do change.
Jai
Posted by Susan47 on November 14, 2004, at 21:45:39
In reply to Re: I'm afraid to go out when I am like this » Susan47, posted by AdaGrace on November 14, 2004, at 15:46:56
Yup, done that. And cried and had people ask me if I'm okay (like the cashier at the grocery checkout). And wearing sunglasses with my hat down over my face and looking down and the tears dripping off the end of my nose and running into the cracks in my face ... that was last month. I keep thinking, that was just a one-off thing, it'll never happen again .. and then it happens. (swear word)
Posted by Susan47 on November 14, 2004, at 21:47:30
In reply to Re: I'm afraid to go out when I am like this, posted by Jai Narayan on November 14, 2004, at 21:03:35
You said you loved him but you rejected him. Why? I might've asked you that before, and if I did I'm sorry I'm asking again. My memory's kind of bad these days.
Posted by AdaGrace on November 14, 2004, at 22:51:36
In reply to Re: I'm afraid to go out when I am like this, posted by Jai Narayan on November 14, 2004, at 21:03:35
I know what you said before, and I remember everyone else saying sorta the same things.
It's just not sinking in today. I'm sorry.
Posted by AdaGrace on November 14, 2004, at 22:52:39
In reply to Where is the Love?, posted by AdaGrace on November 13, 2004, at 15:30:26
Posted by Jai Narayan on November 15, 2004, at 20:24:12
In reply to Jai, posted by Susan47 on November 14, 2004, at 21:47:30
Dear Susan47 you have never asked me about this before.
I was madly in love with this man from the first time I saw him.
I think you call it "thunder struck".
But once we were together for a while I could see he had some serious issues with his mother and for some reason he called me by his mothers name.
I was afraid we would be sunk in his issues with me being like his mother for the rest of our lives.
I freaked and ran.
I was sorry I ran for years....
decades.
I dreamed about him.
I went to places where he had been.
My being was haunted by his absence.
He wouldn't speak to me.
so that's the story.
Jai
Posted by Jai Narayan on November 15, 2004, at 20:25:50
In reply to Re: I know » Jai Narayan, posted by AdaGrace on November 14, 2004, at 22:51:36
you know what that's really okay.
when it does sink in let's talk
you are a wonderful person
just remember that
okay?
jai
Posted by Susan47 on November 16, 2004, at 0:04:17
In reply to Re: Jai, posted by Jai Narayan on November 15, 2004, at 20:24:12
Dear Jai, it sounds really like you were very smart, as I like to say, you outsmarted yourself (only not really, you just thought you did) because you probably did the right thing. (Whew, what a load off my chest that was!) I wonder whath appened to him? Did he ever end up with a(n) SO?
Posted by Jai Narayan on November 16, 2004, at 20:49:15
In reply to Re: Jai, posted by Susan47 on November 16, 2004, at 0:04:17
ps Did I tell you the part about loving the way he smelled? He smelled so good to me. It was like an aphrodisiac for me. I loved the way he kissed. I could go on about this part.
But the psychological part....a nightmare.
He was in a relationship with a woman for eight years but he wanted to have children and she didn't so they broke up.I never loved anyone like I loved him but I was also in so much termoil that....well I wouldn't want to go there again.
Jai
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