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Posted by starrc68 on November 7, 2004, at 17:02:37
In reply to Sometimes When You Need a Hug, posted by AdaGrace on November 7, 2004, at 14:54:50
wish i could help but heres a big hug!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!i do know how you feel.good luck and if u need someone ill be here.
candy
Posted by AdaGrace on November 7, 2004, at 17:26:14
In reply to Re: Sometimes When You Need a Hug, posted by starrc68 on November 7, 2004, at 17:02:37
Posted by starrc68 on November 7, 2004, at 19:14:33
In reply to Re: Thank You (nm) » starrc68, posted by AdaGrace on November 7, 2004, at 17:26:14
Posted by sunny10 on November 8, 2004, at 11:57:12
In reply to Re: Sometimes When You Need a Hug, posted by starrc68 on November 7, 2004, at 17:02:37
AdaGrace,
I'm so sorry that you are hurting. I am HAPPY, however to learn that you have a dog.
A pet CAN always be counted on to be there- and their coat can usually stand a great many tears when they need to.
Go give your wonderful dog a hug and feel one (in your heart) back from me.
-sunny10
Posted by Susan47 on November 8, 2004, at 23:43:35
In reply to Sometimes When You Need a Hug, posted by AdaGrace on November 7, 2004, at 14:54:50
I had to leave my little dog behind, with my ex and the children. Geez my heart hurts just saying that, the tears prick.
Today I saw Minnie, my mutt, my beautiful Shih-Tzu/poodle cross. I held her in my arms and the comfort was like holding a baby. I miss her so much. I miss my children, I miss my dog, I miss my children when they were babies; sometimes I see their little baby image in my mind, some part of my mind remembers exactly what they were like at certain stages and I get completely lost in the memory.
My life right now feels like such shit.
Posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 0:05:10
In reply to Sometimes When You Need a Hug, posted by AdaGrace on November 7, 2004, at 14:54:50
If you were in the same room with me right now, I'd be giving a real hug, but you're not so here's one I hope you can kind of feel anyway. I'm glad you have your dog to turn to, they're great for crying jags too.
Posted by partlycloudy on November 9, 2004, at 4:55:16
In reply to Sometimes When You Need a Hug, posted by AdaGrace on November 7, 2004, at 14:54:50
My cat is definitely responsible for making me feel better. I love to pick her up against her wishes, inhale her clean cat fur smell, and hold her until she makes little squeaks of protest. I know she loves me back because she doesn't run very far away when I finally release her.
Or maybe it's because I'm her can opener.
Which is a very flippant way of saying that our pets give us very real and substantial comfort. They can't talk back to us but they convey their love very well.
pc
Posted by AdaGrace on November 9, 2004, at 7:28:24
In reply to Re: Sometimes When You Need a Hug » AdaGrace, posted by partlycloudy on November 9, 2004, at 4:55:16
I sometimes wonder why I can't be alone without being lonely. I craved for alone time durring my children's early years. I still long for alone bathroom time. No locks go unlocked at my house. But it seems like I am a child again, turning on all the lights, the radio and the tv when I am alone in the house. When I am alone, my mind goes back to things that I would rather not think about, but because there is noone to talk to, it's all I do. Clothes go unwashed, floors unswept, beds unmade. And I sit and drink, and think. Drink and think. Is that another movie line? Not sure. Reminds me of a line I had in a school play in high school.
Sit and rock,
sit and rock,sit
and
rot.
Ada depressed with not much Grace
Posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 13:13:43
In reply to Re: Sometimes When You Need a Hug » AdaGrace, posted by partlycloudy on November 9, 2004, at 4:55:16
What you said about the little squeaks of protest made me remember my cat. Cats are so cool. They really do talk to us, if we're listening. Cats are the most Amazing Communicators, and really, dogs are too, but their styles are completely different.
Posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 13:35:21
In reply to Re: Sometimes When You Need a Hug, posted by AdaGrace on November 9, 2004, at 7:28:24
Sounds like you might be an extrovert too, and you're not expressing yourself. I would've babblemaild you, but I like the exposure. It makes me feel good. I'm drinking too, soaking my feet in epsom salted hot water because the bones hurt and I have to be on them for several hours tomorrow ... sheesh that's not what this was about. Phone somebody!! I chatted up several friends by phone and email this am and to hell with the bloody housework, it gets done it gets done. In between calls and emails and stuff.
Posted by just plain jane on November 9, 2004, at 22:25:32
In reply to AdaGrace, posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 13:35:21
My son asked me where the all the glasses are.
I told him they got dirty and I threw them away.
Posted by alexandra_k on November 9, 2004, at 23:38:34
In reply to Sometimes When You Need a Hug, posted by AdaGrace on November 7, 2004, at 14:54:50
She would lick my face, but I didn't care. It was when she tried to lick my tongue I drew the line (Yuk).
Posted by saw on November 10, 2004, at 3:03:58
In reply to Re: Sometimes When You Need a Hug, posted by AdaGrace on November 9, 2004, at 7:28:24
<<<I sometimes wonder why I can't be alone without being lonely. I craved for alone time durring my children's early years. I still long for alone bathroom time. No locks go unlocked at my house. But it seems like I am a child again, turning on all the lights, the radio and the tv when I am alone in the house. When I am alone, my mind goes back to things that I would rather not think about, but because there is noone to talk to, it's all I do. Clothes go unwashed, floors unswept, beds unmade. And I sit and drink, and think. Drink and think. Is that another movie line? Not sure. Reminds me of a line I had in a school play in high school.
Sit and rock,
sit and rock,sit
and
rot.
Ada depressed with not much Grace >>>
Good grief AdaGrace. I shivered when I read this. You are me, me is you, we is us.My first husband would not allow me to close the bathroom door let alone lock it. If I did close it, he would beat off the toilet.
Now closing the bathroom door is the only time, the ONLY time, that I crave being alone without being lonely.
Sabrina
Posted by saw on November 10, 2004, at 3:06:58
In reply to AdaGrace, posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 13:35:21
Lemon grass essential oils. Excellent for tired feet!
Sabrina
Posted by AdaGrace on November 10, 2004, at 6:41:57
In reply to Re: Sometimes When You Need a Hug, posted by AdaGrace on November 9, 2004, at 7:28:24
The thing is, if I lock the door, my husband just unlocks it. I haven't had a free moment to do my duty in probably 15 years. By now my self respect is completely gone.....and I thought modesty went out the window after birthing my first babe, but, no.......I can still be embarassed.
Posted by AdaGrace on November 10, 2004, at 8:40:42
In reply to Re: Sometimes When You Need a Hug » AdaGrace, posted by saw on November 10, 2004, at 3:03:58
Beat off the toilet?
Not sure I'm getting that phrase translated to down home country girl lingo.....because it is conjuring up such disturbing images......
Posted by AdaGrace on November 10, 2004, at 8:47:01
In reply to Sometimes When You Need a Hug, posted by AdaGrace on November 7, 2004, at 14:54:50
Thank you all for responding and for befriending me, I feel like I am meeting more and more nice people here.
JPJ, SAW and PC......I already thanked you for being my friends.......no go on with you and don't feel left out.......
By the way, today and yesterday, and Monday, I didn't want a hug....lots and lots of people around and I just wanted them to all go away. This "woman's perogative to change her mind" concept is bordering on multiple personality syndrom or bi-polar... And I am not joking, I really think these extreem ups and downs are the result of some imbalance... Because I do not think it is normal.
But then again...what is normal? I am so far from it it's scary. What is disfunctional? Is that me?
Non-Normal? Hmmmmm
Posted by sunny10 on November 10, 2004, at 11:20:06
In reply to Re: Susan/starrc68/sunny10/alexandra_k, posted by AdaGrace on November 10, 2004, at 8:47:01
I have no idea what "normal" is supposed to be, either...
Just didn't want you to think that you're alone in that...
Posted by Susan47 on November 10, 2004, at 23:56:41
In reply to Re: AdaGrace » Susan47, posted by just plain jane on November 9, 2004, at 22:25:32
I just read your post about the glasses being dirty and you said you threw them away, what a great laugh!!!
But what if it's true? Heehee. There've been times in the past when I've really done stuff like that. Then I asked my *better half* (mmmfff!) what I did with so-and-so or such-and-such and he'd say, "You were in a mood, you threw it out, don't you remember?"
Ah. Sometimes it just felt really good to throw everything out.
Posted by Susan47 on November 10, 2004, at 23:58:35
In reply to Re: Sometimes When You Need a Hug » AdaGrace, posted by saw on November 10, 2004, at 3:03:58
Sabrina, what does "he would beat off the toilet" mean, 'cause I can't get it. I mean, it sounds like he's masturbating the toilet. HuH?
Posted by Susan47 on November 11, 2004, at 0:03:35
In reply to Re: Susan/starrc68/sunny10/alexandra_k » AdaGrace, posted by sunny10 on November 10, 2004, at 11:20:06
Let's ignore the fact that this is my third post in a row. It's my first to you today isn't it? Anyway, you need to buy a new lockset for your bathroom door. Make it one of those that are meant for front doors. That way (I want to call him something bad but he's *your* husband not mine so it's not my right) your husband will not be able to slip the door open on you. Sheesh, have you told him this is wrong? Does he have any respect for you? Keep locking that door, kiddo, no matter how many times he unlocks it on you. One day before it's all over he might just get it.
Posted by sunny10 on November 11, 2004, at 7:54:40
In reply to AdaGrace, my oh my, posted by Susan47 on November 11, 2004, at 0:03:35
Or, you can try the passive-agressive approach and just start shovelling chili down your throat at every meal... Pretty soon he'll shut the door FOR you...
Posted by saw on November 12, 2004, at 3:11:55
In reply to Re: Sometimes When You Need a Hug » saw, posted by AdaGrace on November 10, 2004, at 8:40:42
Abuse is abuse, but physical abuse when you're sitting on the loo was disturbing to say the least!
Posted by AdaGrace on November 14, 2004, at 10:13:24
In reply to AdaGrace, my oh my, posted by Susan47 on November 11, 2004, at 0:03:35
Usually I just say, "Can I help you?, I'm trying to take a **** here, and I prefer to do that alone"!
This however gets me this line "I'll just be a minute", or "I need to shave and shower, I don't have much time"
I once wanted to have an excape door to my bathroom where I could leave when someone came in. However, this bathroom is on the front side of the house, and I would just hate to have to run out that excape hatch with pants around my ankles in mid stream or other. Could be scary for passers by.
Posted by AdaGrace on November 14, 2004, at 10:18:22
In reply to Re: AdaGrace, my oh my, posted by sunny10 on November 11, 2004, at 7:54:40
Women do not poot, toot, or do anything of the sort in front of a man........my oh myyyyy that would just give me the vapors........
Or would it give him the vapors.........hardy har har.......
Lovely idea, wish my non-gallbladdered, irritable boweled, spatic coloned body could handle that much chili, but alas, I do not think I would enjoy it, even if it did cause his eyes to water.
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