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Posted by AdaGrace on November 4, 2004, at 7:56:43
I am trying desparately to do this. The messages on my cell phone will be gone tomorrow....they only are saved for a brief period of time. I always save them and re-listen to them. I find it encouraging that I haven't listened to them in an entire week. In turning this corner, I find that I am able to try to open up to my husband. I am not get ready to forge ahead full fledge, but am entertaining the idea of trying at least. What concerns me the most is that in closing up my heart, I will be unable to open it again. I find that fear haunts me. I don't think I can let anyone in again, including my husband. But I can be kinder. I can try to listen, and talk. I can stop yelling. I can stop nitpicking. I can be a better person to him, that is what he deserves.
Posted by saw on November 4, 2004, at 8:26:49
In reply to Turning a cold shoulder, posted by AdaGrace on November 4, 2004, at 7:56:43
It took a lot of courage to recognize that you need to do these things for yourself and your husband. Even if your heart is "out of order", just by easing up on yourself and your husband, I would imagine that life at home will become a little easier and that you may be able to regain a friendship with your husband. That could be the very first step before further forging ahead. You show continual strength in your ability to try and move past the "other one". Perhaps you haven't moved past as fast as you would like, but you are trying. I am so pleased that you are finding you would like to try and open up to your husband. You need as many support systems as possible, and having his friendship is a good place to start.
I am very inspired by your wanting to work on these things. You will be doing it as much for yourself as for your husband.
Congratulations, AdaGrace, for showing that you can rise above the dismal dark places time and time again.
Sabrina
Posted by boomarang on November 4, 2004, at 10:41:07
In reply to Re: Turning a cold shoulder » AdaGrace, posted by saw on November 4, 2004, at 8:26:49
as the fates would have it, just when you think you may be closing your heart forever, you are actually propping it open
sara
Posted by sunny10 on November 4, 2004, at 14:00:41
In reply to Re: Turning a cold shoulder, posted by boomarang on November 4, 2004, at 10:41:07
I agree with boomerang-
I don't think you could close your heart-
even if you wanted to !Hear, hear, we are so proud of your strength in this!
((((((AdaGrace)))))))))))))))
-sunny10
Posted by AdaGrace on November 4, 2004, at 18:19:02
In reply to Re: Turning a cold shoulder, posted by sunny10 on November 4, 2004, at 14:00:41
I still miss someone else.
And Even though tonight when I got home, my husband smelled really good, there was still this feeling inside me that I don't really like that sound he makes when he is trying to clear his throat. That nasaly Heeeeek sound. Short eee sound. Oh well, there are so many little things that iritate. And maybe some things that don't. Like when he always, and I mean always says, "Be careful" and " I love you" whenever I leave.
Posted by bobby on November 4, 2004, at 21:11:28
In reply to Turning a cold shoulder, posted by AdaGrace on November 4, 2004, at 7:56:43
I don't think you are turning a cold shoulder, but rather turning on the road to wisdom. your family has been there for you and they deserve at least a chance.no one can predict if it will work or not--but you will never know if you don't try--good for you for trying Good luck!
Bobby
Posted by AdaGrace on November 4, 2004, at 21:34:18
In reply to Re: Turning a cold shoulder » AdaGrace, posted by saw on November 4, 2004, at 8:26:49
You are the sunshine of my life.........
Can you hear me singing now?
AdaGrace aka "Stevie Wonder"
I really like the double double. Now, I question myself if he was really the one who sang that.
Posted by AdaGrace on November 4, 2004, at 21:35:42
In reply to Re: Turning a cold shoulder » AdaGrace, posted by bobby on November 4, 2004, at 21:11:28
How come sometimes you are big and sometimes you aren't (letters that is)
Posted by Bobby on November 5, 2004, at 7:18:58
In reply to Re: bobby, posted by AdaGrace on November 4, 2004, at 21:35:42
Good question. I think it has to do with which computer I'm on--home or work.
Posted by AdaGrace on November 5, 2004, at 23:20:34
In reply to Re: bobby » AdaGrace, posted by Bobby on November 5, 2004, at 7:18:58
Posted by Bobby on November 6, 2004, at 16:55:55
In reply to Re: So, you didn't get the subtle innuendo? (nm) » Bobby, posted by AdaGrace on November 5, 2004, at 23:20:34
Did you notice I was big when I posted to you? :)
Posted by AdaGrace on November 7, 2004, at 7:18:13
In reply to Well then » AdaGrace, posted by Bobby on November 6, 2004, at 16:55:55
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