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Posted by Skittles on October 31, 2004, at 20:51:39
I'd really like to kick mine in the teeth right now. Everything he does right now repulses or annoys me. We're watching Desperate Housewives right now and every time I look at him his finger is up his nose. My friend's 4-year-old son can manage not to do it, so why can't my husband? At night I can only sleep facing the edge of the bed b/c his breath is so bad I can't stand to face his direction. Same goes for sitting next to him on the couch. His nose isn't stopped up, so why can't he breathe through it?
Then there's the fact that when he's walking through the living room and stops to watch the TV, he never fails to stand right in my line of vision. Am I invisible or something? He seems to feel the need to hear himself talk constantly. He mentioned to me just a few minutes ago that my toenails were painted. They always are and he knows that. The icing on the cake is his attitude. Always so mean. He forever pesters our animals. He's constantly calling the pets, drivers and people at the mall idiots or freaks. Arggghhhhh!!!!
I'd seriously like to ask him to go somewhere for a few days. Anywhere. Just as long as he isn't here.
Posted by bethesdabob on November 1, 2004, at 8:08:36
In reply to Husbands!!!, posted by Skittles on October 31, 2004, at 20:51:39
Instead of telling us how he irritates you and all the things that your hubby does that gets under your skin, how about telling us just one thing he does right and makes you happy.My wife used to do many things that really irritated me, likewise I got under her skin a lot and drove her nuts, somehow though we logged more than twenty years together, wife died suddenly last December from a seizure disorder, she was there one moment and gone the next, I would gladly suffer through all her irritations just to spend another day with her and to thank her for putting up with me for that long.
Posted by sunny10 on November 1, 2004, at 9:39:57
In reply to Husbands!!!, posted by Skittles on October 31, 2004, at 20:51:39
How 'bout asking him if he would benefit from some stress management therapy... well, we all know it's actually anger management therapy- but if you phrase it that way, he'd likely just blow up....
When they start taking their tempers out on the animals who can't "fight back", it's pretty obvious that he's probably annoying himself, too...
My SI always chews huge mouthfuls with his mouth wide open... I just stopped looking at his face while we eat...
Of course there's always the fact that he's apparently re-assumed his coke habit... but that's another post... I'm looking for help with THAT one, for sure.... but the "annoying little habits you just have to let go, like bethesbub says.
The anger part worries me a bit, though, I sympathize...
Good luck, let us know how you guys are doing...
-sunny10
Posted by boomarang on November 1, 2004, at 22:17:28
In reply to Husbands!!!, posted by Skittles on October 31, 2004, at 20:51:39
one word. xanax.
Posted by Skittles on November 1, 2004, at 22:41:55
In reply to Re: Husbands!!!, posted by boomarang on November 1, 2004, at 22:17:28
For him or for me??? LOL
Posted by boomarang on November 1, 2004, at 23:41:25
In reply to Re: Husbands!!! » boomarang, posted by Skittles on November 1, 2004, at 22:41:55
for you! then maybe you won't notice him and his various proclivities (sp?).
also a blow up bed in another room comes in handy during nites when the breath situation is overwhelming.
Posted by Crazy_Charlie on November 2, 2004, at 4:06:55
In reply to Re: Husbands!!!, posted by bethesdabob on November 1, 2004, at 8:08:36
"My wife used to do many things that really irritated me, likewise I got under her skin a lot and drove her nuts, somehow though we logged more than twenty years together, wife died suddenly last December from a seizure disorder, she was there one moment and gone the next, I would gladly suffer through all her irritations just to spend another day with her and to thank her for putting up with me for that long."
I almost get jalous...no, not almost. Why, oh why, can't I think like that? I have had many great great boyfriends, but I always fall out at some point, not managing to feel anything but irritation over the other person. Not a HUGE problem before, but now it is...
I have this wonderful daughter with a wonderful man, that treats me good... but still the irritations over all those small things makes me want to move out, live on my own. I can't, my daughter loives him, he loves her. I can't take her away from him, and I can't leave her.
And it's really stupid. He is kind, intelligent, funny and caring... so on earth doesn't that mean anything? Am I just spoiled? Is it so that I should feel what it is to have someone who is absolutely awful and treating me as shit so I can learn to value these positive sides?
It's all those very very small things, like how he always always tends to wait with doing things as long as possible... drives me completely nuts. Things like that....
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