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Posted by AdaGrace on October 22, 2004, at 16:30:04
I don't even feel like sharing what was said, I've already revealed too much. Suffice it to say, what was said is what you all think was said (most of you), and now I just really don't know how to deal with it. I don't know how I feel about it. I feel numb actually.
Posted by dazedandconfused on October 22, 2004, at 18:07:22
In reply to Okay, I Called Him Back, posted by AdaGrace on October 22, 2004, at 16:30:04
AdaGrace,
Sweetie...I am so sorry I missed your earlier messages. I understand that need to connect...no matter what the consequences. I will send you a babblemail. Feel free to post on here. Overall, folks are very supportive. You are a good person. You are just struggling like the rest of us.dazed
Posted by dazedandconfused on October 22, 2004, at 19:26:33
In reply to Okay, I Called Him Back, posted by AdaGrace on October 22, 2004, at 16:30:04
Posted by just plain jane on October 24, 2004, at 10:21:42
In reply to Okay, I Called Him Back, posted by AdaGrace on October 22, 2004, at 16:30:04
AdaGrace, dear, sweet, hurting in so many ways AdaGrace,
It feels to me like your head is telling you to turn away from him.
It feels to me like you know he is bad news, but...
It feels to me like you are in a miserable situation similar to those some of us have found ourselves in.
It feels to me that he is a sadist and is working on training you to be his masochist.
It feels to me like this is the WORST time, with your added vulnerability brought on by your burns and the unhappy outlook for their scars, the WORST time to let this man near you.
It feels to me like there will never be a better time to let him near you, either, so
It feels like it's time to rip the door to him off its hinges and replace it with an impermeable wall.
Just my feelings, though.
hold our hands and look into our eyes here, we, who care very much and hope for the best outcome for YOU...
you have the best decision for you ready, you know what it is. No matter what you have said in the past, you owe this man nothing, which, for all I can see, is wayyy more than he has ever given you.
Your choice is your prerogative.
either way, still here.
just plain jane
Posted by AdaGrace on October 24, 2004, at 20:37:20
In reply to Okay, I Called Him Back, posted by AdaGrace on October 22, 2004, at 16:30:04
I can't explain why I do what I do. I love him. I believe him and I want to be with him. It's that simple. Nothing else matters to me. And when he says he is sorry and loves me and will not do this to me again, I can't help but believe it. It's my nature. Sorry to disapoint so many.
AdaGrace
Posted by crushedout on October 24, 2004, at 21:31:16
In reply to It's just so hard to explain love, posted by AdaGrace on October 24, 2004, at 20:37:20
i understand this, ada. it's insane, but i know it well, and i don't blame you (although i can't for the life of me understand how anyone could feel that way about a MAN, but that's just cuz i'm a huge lesbian).
Posted by just plain jane on October 25, 2004, at 10:18:19
In reply to It's just so hard to explain love, posted by AdaGrace on October 24, 2004, at 20:37:20
AdaGrace,
Your "Sorry to disapoint so many." statement is understandable, but, IMO, completely unnecessary, because the only person you can please or disappoint in your situation, is you.
I have opinions, as do many others. We see all from differing points of view.
But the most important thing is that you take care of yourself and do what you feel you need to do.
((AdaGrace))
You've got enough emotional turmoil without having to worry if you have disappointed someone here.Still here
just plain jane
Posted by AdaGrace on October 25, 2004, at 11:04:50
In reply to Re: It's just so hard to explain love, posted by just plain jane on October 25, 2004, at 10:18:19
How I treat others is an instrumental part of my own self esteem problems. Being unresponsive to someone in need is hard for me to do, even if they have hurt me numerous times in the past. I have made some of my own demands on him now, and I am not even sure if I can uphold them. It's an addiction just like so many of my other addictions. I don't know what the future holds for me, but I know one thing. This site WAS the only thing that made me feel good. Now he is another.
This is the end of the thread.
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