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Posted by becksA on October 8, 2004, at 13:40:19
I'm taking a class that's been required for my job....It meets only three times, for consecutive tuesdays....I had the first one a girl caught my eye...and she even seemed friendly towards me...at the end of class I went up to the teacher to ask a question, and she was behind me to ask another quesiton, and sort of joined the conversation and helped me out herself. I was asking directions. She even offered to meet me at a certain place I know of and guide me there, because she was going the same way. I couldnt' do it, because I had somehwere else to be at the time, but nonetheless it was at least positive.
I've always been shy when it comes to approaching girls. Once I'm in a conversation with them, say , introduced to them, I'm a perfect conversationalist....it's just breaking the ice. My plan was to, after the third and final class, (since I wouldn't ever see her again), approach her out in the parking lot walkking to our cars after the clas and just say "hey would you like to go out with me sometime?"...
as you can tell i'm not very adept in this area. Everybody tells me I should be though, it's just the social shynes that holds me back....I am 6'6", athletic, and pretty handsome, so I need to build more confidence. ANYWAY to get to the point, especially for you girls reading this, would that be a relatively good way to go about it? Or would it be too random?
thanks for the advice!
Posted by moime on October 8, 2004, at 18:05:23
In reply to Want to talk to this girl BUT.....help!, posted by becksA on October 8, 2004, at 13:40:19
She seems to be interested in you....try not to panic....if she seems like someone you can talk with intelligently, try not to be shy....remember, it's not as if she wants to have a permanent relationship with you, she probably is INTERESTED and is making a move on you. You are yourself, and you should feel flattered, but be careful. I just ended a bad relationship, one which I totally jumped the gun on. Just relax, feel appreciative of her attention and if you are interested, respond. Try not to even think of future rejection or what will happen after you acknowledge her! Just be friendly, but guarded. It takes time to get to know people, and your mental health is worth taking care of. Some people hurt, not all.
Posted by becksA on October 8, 2004, at 19:25:28
In reply to Re: Want to talk to this girl BUT.....help!, posted by moime on October 8, 2004, at 18:05:23
The only problem is i'm only going to see her for 2 more of those classes....after that probably never again. So I want to ask her out after the third one...
Posted by alesta on October 8, 2004, at 20:26:38
In reply to Re: Want to talk to this girl BUT.....help!, posted by becksA on October 8, 2004, at 19:25:28
your approach sounds just fine..you've got nothing to lose and everything to gain..be prepared for the fact that she may have a boyfriend already. but definitely do it, or you'll always wonder. considering the time limit, you can't be too picky about having that perfect scenario to ask her out. and you might find it easier to say "do you want to go out for coffee or something sometime?", depending on how confident you feel at the moment. and if you feel nervous, just put the conversational focus on her. most people love to talk about themselves. and don't be nervous..she's just a person, just like you are.
amy :)
Posted by tinydancer on October 9, 2004, at 10:38:19
In reply to Want to talk to this girl BUT.....help!, posted by becksA on October 8, 2004, at 13:40:19
Maybe it would easier to break the ice before asking her out? I would be a bit flustered if a guy just came up out of the blue and asked me out. I would want to know him somehow first, even if it was just a brief encounter.
Do you have pauses where you could just talk to her casually about the class or even ask her a question and introduce yourself? That might be more natural.
Posted by sunny10 on October 14, 2004, at 14:31:18
In reply to Re: Want to talk to this girl BUT.....help! » becksA, posted by tinydancer on October 9, 2004, at 10:38:19
Don't wait for the last time you see her to talk to her!
I agree with the other posters, you need to have a conversation FIRST, try that before the last class, THEN ask her to the coffee shop or something public and daytime to start off with.And, yes, she'll let you know if she's already taken...if she doesn't and leads you on, trash her bitter heart.. oops, wait, just kidding..
Being yourself is the only way to HAVE a relationship, remember that.
good luck !!
sunny10
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