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Posted by antigua3 on January 28, 2009, at 14:32:43
OK, this is a little different to me than my favorite thing that my T or pdoc has said to me.
What is the best piece of advice your T or pdoc has ever given you?
1. "Your mind won't let you know more than you can handle." My t, which has helped me to feel safe when I'm afraid of flooding (or in the process of flooding!)
2. "Keep moving." My pdoc, to be expected from CBT, but surprisingly it has helped me tremendously.
antigua
Posted by Dinah on January 28, 2009, at 17:03:36
In reply to Best piece of advice, posted by antigua3 on January 28, 2009, at 14:32:43
I guess he gives me good interpersonal advice. Sometimes. But I can't recall any particular words. He's really got a thing about the drama triangle, and while I initially rejected it all, I've grown to see that there are some valid points there.
I can think of lots of sayings and attitudes I've incorporated over the years. But his actual advice is often not terribly realistic.
Ooooh, wait. I remember!
It was about sex. I'd been working on it forever, seen a sex therapist and everything, with limited (or no) success. Then in one session, he changed everything. We made that chart of the things I really hated, the stuff that I disliked, the things I had no objection to doing, and the things I might actually possibly find some enjoyment doing. He said that the latter two were plenty enough to offer with enough conviction in his voice that I felt able to talk to my husband about it and it turned my whole life around re. sex.
So... I suppose he was saying that instead of trying to change who I was or try to learn to like things, it was more than enough to offer what I could offer freely. Which was the opposite of the sex therapist, who wanted me to grow up and to learn to like stuff through relaxation.
Yeah, right.
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