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Posted by vwoolf on November 19, 2008, at 13:54:39
Theres something about what she calls soothing, that makes me feel she doesnt understand. It feels as if shes just trying to make the feelings go away rather than allowing them to be, allowing a stillness, so that we can examine and understand them.
This is why I get so angry and suspicious when she assumes that tone of voice. Because I know it is an attempt to avoid the pain. And what I know I need, what I really want, is to go deeper into the pain. Not avoid it at all.
But I suspect she cant come there with me. I suspect she is afraid.
Does this mean I have outgrown her? Is that what this crisis is about? That she really cant go any further with me?
I feel quite desperate about it, but I fear it is true. I yearn for her care, but I know I have gone deeper than she can reach.
Posted by Dinah on November 19, 2008, at 22:08:34
In reply to Have I outgrown my T?, posted by vwoolf on November 19, 2008, at 13:54:39
Have you told her about it? In this way? Without being angry and defensive, but letting her know what you need?
It may be more than she can give, or it might not. But maybe she knows the answer herself?
Posted by lucie lu on November 20, 2008, at 17:10:40
In reply to Have I outgrown my T?, posted by vwoolf on November 19, 2008, at 13:54:39
Are you going through trauma stuff with your T? I remember a point where I wanted to just gallop through at my own (high) speed, and my T was exerting superhuman efforts to slow me down. I chafed when he did that, sometimes raged at him for Not Letting Me Talk. One time, I really wanted to talk about Important Stuff and he went into this very unusual schtick for him about Jewish men and their mothers (I am none of the above but I suppose for him it was autobiographical). I was so mad, I called him while I was on my way home and yelled at him. Much later on, he told me he was just trying not to let me get ahead of myself because he worried that I would hurt myself by plunging in too far, too fast. Maybe he was right, I don't know. But I remember feeling something similar to what you are describing. We got past it. He's not usually like that, though, it was just at that time.
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