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Posted by Lemonaide on July 22, 2008, at 14:39:23
Ohhhhh Tuesday, therapy day. Didn't know what to expect. Well he hasn't talked to my old T yet, both of their schedules are full so it is hard to coordinate a time. But my T said it is time we but this thing to rest, he wants to see him soon.
Okay the crazy thing. Well my current T needs physical therapy, right? Well guess where he is going to be going........... MY GYM! My workout place is part affiliated with one of our hospitals.
I was explaining something at the gym and he asked where again I go. Then he said, well me too. Then I said oh, sh*t!!! You HAVE to be kidding me! I could have died right there. I said I have had enough of seeing my T's running around in their underwear!!!!!!!!!!!! I said you can go but you have to wear a snowsuit, turtleneck and googles. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR. So he going to be there this Friday, when I go to yoga........
I told him we can gang up on my old T right there in the gym. I said he will probably show up too, and then I will have 2 T's at the gym.
I know he gets a good discounted rate if he is doing physical therapy there and he was asking questions about how much a month or something....
Can you believe it? All I can do is laugh. Life is nuts sometimes.
Posted by Hermitian on July 22, 2008, at 15:13:22
In reply to You're probably gonna shake your head at this lol, posted by Lemonaide on July 22, 2008, at 14:39:23
It's great being a guy.
Pardon me while I retreat to my man-cave...
Posted by raisinb on July 22, 2008, at 15:17:40
In reply to You're probably gonna shake your head at this lol, posted by Lemonaide on July 22, 2008, at 14:39:23
Wow, Happyflower! Good for you for dealing with this so well! It's positive that you can laugh at it.
I have only seen my therapist once outside the office (at a restaurant) and I was so traumatized that I promptly got drunk and fell and gave myself a concussion. We had to process that for weeks. So you're doing way better than me :)
Posted by raisinb on July 22, 2008, at 15:30:49
In reply to Re: You're probably gonna shake your head at this » Lemonaide, posted by raisinb on July 22, 2008, at 15:17:40
Posted by Dinah on July 22, 2008, at 15:35:29
In reply to Re: You're probably gonna shake your head at this » Lemonaide, posted by raisinb on July 22, 2008, at 15:17:40
Oh my goodness!! Raisinb, I think that would take me even longer to process!
I had three outside therapy contacts that I remember. In one we were both going to be at the same event, and I was participating. He said he'd make sure to stop and say hi. It ruined the entire event for me. Both while I was waiting, and while he and his date met my family, and after. That's when I drew up my rule that he could only talk to me inside the therapy room.
Another time we were at the same book store. I threw down my armful of (psych) books and ran like a startled hare. He never saw me. I recognized his voice asking the clerk a question.
After his marriage we lived within a few blocks of each other and used the same stores. I saw him in the drugstore. He didn't see me. Obviously my therapist-sense is more developed than his client-sense. I made sure he didn't see me, and knowing roughly what kind of vehicle he drove, I found it in the lot and wrote down the license plate. That way I could make absolutely certain that I never walked in the grocery store while he was there. And fortunately he never came in while I was there.
Oh wait. Same thing happened at the post office. I kept my head down and he never saw me.
I told him each time. But not until he turned into my therapist as the door was closed. He knows how I feel and walks twenty or so paces ahead of me in the hall to his office, never saying anything. And if we chance onto the same elevator, I make a terrified face, he makes an apologetic face, and we stare at the door while trying to look natural. Sigh. I once hid behind a column to avoid going in the elevator with him.
I don't know how you do it, Lemonaide. It would drive me nuts.
Posted by raisinb on July 22, 2008, at 15:50:20
In reply to Re: You're probably gonna shake your head at this, posted by Dinah on July 22, 2008, at 15:35:29
If I saw my therapist in the drugstore, or the psych section of the bookstore, it would take a lot to get me out of the hospital :)! I like to maintain the facade that therapy doesn't affect me too much outside the office. That I have a full, interesting, wonderful life without it :)
Actually, the worst part was the black eyes I had for 2-3 weeks afterward. Every stranger on the street gave me a sympathetic, sad look, because I looked as if I'd been beaten up. I wanted to tell everyone, "nope, I just did this because I'm an idiot!"
My therapist feels really, really guilty about it. She still brings it up.
Posted by LadyBug on July 22, 2008, at 16:28:20
In reply to Re: You're probably gonna shake your head at this » Dinah, posted by raisinb on July 22, 2008, at 15:50:20
I'm pretty sure I'd have to cancel my YOGA on Friday, but then again, it might be fun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
But crazy
LadyBug
Posted by Phillipa on July 22, 2008, at 17:27:34
In reply to Re: You're probably gonna shake your head at this, posted by LadyBug on July 22, 2008, at 16:28:20
Pretty funny situation. You will do fine. And I used to work with my pdoc and no problem it was just a different relationship. One actually was my reference for the jail he worked in also partime for us both. When working together we were friends. I liked it. Phillipa
Posted by Lemonaide on July 22, 2008, at 19:04:54
In reply to You're probably gonna shake your head at this lol, posted by Lemonaide on July 22, 2008, at 14:39:23
You all crack me up, Raisin, when I first saw my T at the gym I was taking a walking fitness test walking around the gym. I didn't know he worked out there at all, well he runs pasts me and turns around to look at me and I felt like I was going to fall on my face. I think I even tripped. Then I said rather louder than I thought, Oh, my God! An interesting note, he looked kinda rugged that day, not washed hair, grimy yellow Tshirt, well after that day I saw him with new workout clothes and he was well groomed after that. Did it make a difference I was there? Who knows?
But the thing is I just spent the last half hour telling my T that when we started seeing each other at the gym (my old T and me) is when our relationship changes. It got more comfortable for both of us. And you all know the rest of the story.
Well then I told my T I tried another gym I had a free membership to and I didn't like it. I said I guess I was too spoiled at mine because it is one of the better ones in the area. Then he asked me, where is it you work out. I still can't believe it. I think it would be different with him.
Okay, then I almost forgot.lol We always talk about whether or not what I perceived happened with my T really was his actions, flirting or towel snapping etc. was crossing the boundry line.
Well then I asked him, so if you see me, are you going to wink at me or snap a towel at me? He said no way! Then I said well why not, with a huge knowingly smile on my face. Yeah, I knew why. lol
Posted by LittleGirlLost on July 24, 2008, at 20:27:56
In reply to You're probably gonna shake your head at this lol, posted by Lemonaide on July 22, 2008, at 14:39:23
Wow Lemonaide, I don't know how you do it!
I have never run into my T in public, and I SO don't want to! (I'm sure if I did, I'd have a reaction similar to raisin's!) In fact, we were just talking about this last week... running into one another and my fear of it.
Fortunately, chances are not all that great though. Though there are tons of therapists in my area, I travel about 30-45 minutes to see her; so it's not like we live in the same town (or neighboring). The only thing is, there is a very large shopping mall between the two of us that I used to frequent that I don't go to as much anymore, but actually there is an even bigger one the same distance from me but in the opposite direction; so it's good. We've talked about this a lot, but our last conversation was actually quite insightful, yet I still think we need to revisit this.
Like I said, I don't know how you handle seeing your T at the gym, but you do it well! :)
lgl
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