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Posted by LadyBug on July 21, 2008, at 14:54:21
All in that order. I'm a wreck. My anxiety is getting the best of me. The depression is making me feel useless and hopeless. I'm to my breaking point and no where to turn. I need something to go well for me in my life for a change. I'm overwhelmed with stress, loss, and the biggest thing for me right now is the financial challenges my husband has left me with. It's going to eat me alive. He's in jail, so he's no help financially to me and my kids. I want to file for divorce, but I can't even come up with the fling fee. I can't pay it all, not even tiny payments. I can't see my T. or should I say more like - I don't have a T. and I don't want one. I have no one to tell how bad I'm feeling. I'm ready to give up because the pain is too much for me. My kids know I'm depressed because I can't hide it from them. I cry everyday. I don't think I'm going to make it! I hate that my T didn't offer to help me just because I can't afford to see her right now. She basically abandoned me.
I'm scared and tired of trying to survive.
I don't expect anyone to have any answers for me, I have tried every avenue and things just get worse for me. My next step is.........well I wish I knew something. I hate my self and my life.
Please don't feel sorry for me, that's not what I'm after, I just have no where right now to be.
I will probably regret posting this.
The anxiety is taking over. The depression is getting me.
Posted by lucie lu on July 21, 2008, at 16:24:00
In reply to Anxiety, Depression and Stress...trigger, posted by LadyBug on July 21, 2008, at 14:54:21
LadyBug,
We may not have all the answers but there are things we can help with. First, we can be there for you, any time day or night, and listen to you and respond to you - apparently unlke your T. Plus we're free, no bills! :-) Second, we can brain-storm with you to see if there are solutions that others may have come across that may not have been obvious to you. Third, maybe you can just feel hugs and support from other human beings who are trying to understand what you are going through and who want to help you or at least support you.
You are going through a lot and it must be extremely tough, especially with the finances and keeping it together for the kids. There have been times in my life where the thought of my kids is really what pulled me through - forced me to make it over the next hill. At least on this board, you can be supported by other adults and that may help you support your kids emotionally in turn.
Keep the faith - you'll make it through and we'll help you as much as we can.
Lucie
Posted by Hermitian on July 21, 2008, at 17:12:06
In reply to Anxiety, Depression and Stress...trigger, posted by LadyBug on July 21, 2008, at 14:54:21
Hey, I wish you the best too. Obviously the best support is face to face. You may want to check with your county social services agency. They could put you in touch with a social worker who could help you through this. Not only that, but social workers know how life really works at the tip of the spear because they see it every day.
Good Luck,
Hermitian
Posted by Phillipa on July 21, 2008, at 17:33:27
In reply to Re: Anxiety, Depression and Stress...trigger, posted by Hermitian on July 21, 2008, at 17:12:06
Also are you taking any meds? Sounds like the county agency could help with both issues. Phillipa
Posted by antigua3 on July 21, 2008, at 18:10:48
In reply to Anxiety, Depression and Stress...trigger, posted by LadyBug on July 21, 2008, at 14:54:21
Keep yourself focused on your kids. They need you, and it's ok for them to see your depression. They probably understand a whole lot more than you think they do. Lean on them a little.
We're here for you. We know the pain and hopelessness, and at the least we can just offer support. You have mine.
antigua
Posted by raisinb on July 21, 2008, at 20:34:56
In reply to Anxiety, Depression and Stress...trigger, posted by LadyBug on July 21, 2008, at 14:54:21
Ladybug, I'm so sorry you feel this way. I know how empty the depths of depression can be.
Are you taking any medication? Sometimes it can help in the short term, at least. I know it's hard to help yourself when you feel this badly.
Keep posting here and ask for all the support you need. That's what babble is for!
((((((Ladybug))))))
Posted by LadyBug on July 21, 2008, at 21:13:22
In reply to Re: Anxiety, Depression and Stress...trigger » LadyBug, posted by raisinb on July 21, 2008, at 20:34:56
To those that have replied, thanks so much. I am on meds, it's just the amount of stress I've had to deal with the past few months, meds are not enough for a sure fix, you know? I'd be worse without them. I do love my girls with all my heart, they are my life and my world. I'd never do anything to hurt them. They've already lost one parent more or less. I sent my T another letter. I made a few goofs on it, that was embarrassing, but oh well, I'm not perfect. I told her I was clinically depressed now and each day was hard for me to hold on. Does she even care? I doubt it. I know if I want to see her again I will have to contact her through voice mail and make an appointment. I'm thinking I will in Sept. when my insurance kicks in again.
Thanks for all your support my babble T's!! I'm heading to bed, it's early, but I need some sleep. I have an off sleep pattern and I need to get it straightened out.
Good night for now and I'm sure I'll be back tomorrow sometime.
Thanks!!!!
LadyBug- the pain in the babble butt!!!!!!!!
Posted by Dinah on July 22, 2008, at 12:42:24
In reply to Anxiety, Depression and Stress...trigger, posted by LadyBug on July 21, 2008, at 14:54:21
You're in a position where those reactions aren't pathological or unreasonable, I think.
Whenever I get overwhelmed, I try to keep my vision short and focus on whatever I actually can do. Perhaps finances? Your creditors are probably as anxious as you are to find a solution of any sort. Are there any free finance counseling services operated by your local or state government? People get into really bad situations, but they do get out of it. The solution may not be apparent to you at the moment, but clearly there must be solutions.
(((Ladybug)))
Posted by LadyBug on July 22, 2008, at 13:04:20
In reply to Re: Anxiety, Depression and Stress...trigger » LadyBug, posted by Dinah on July 22, 2008, at 12:42:24
Dinah
My financial problems aren't due to any creditors, I don't owe any body like that. I have some medical bills I'm paying on. The biggest kick for me is some back taxes that we owe, it's a big mess and I'm trying to think of ways to deal with it. It's several thousand dollars..........I'll be paying till I die!!! Especially since I won't get any help with it.I know I can make arrangements to make small monthly payments but right now even that seems impossible. I can't get out of paying past taxes. It's a long story of how they came to be anyway. A little bit my fault, a lot my husbands fault. I need to get some advice on what my options are because I have to survive!!!
Thanks for the hug Dinah!!!!!
LadyBug
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