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Posted by rskontos on November 9, 2007, at 11:32:08
not alot of words in me.....so many bad feelings. I wasn't going to post just read but I felt compelled to answer a post so it helped me open up some. T was ok but I was switching all day, son is very upset and took it out on me, I was switching during it. I switched some in T but didn't talk to T just fugued. (Lost time) A dangerous/evil/protective one is hovering close by, gives me headaches during this time. During night a even weirder thing happened I dont know what is going on. T tried to assure me this is normal as we progress deeper that more will come up in the process. My son is a problem, I am not sure about all this. I am very low now. I slept until almost 11:00. I got up to take him to school. Came home with BAD headache too stuff and went to bed. Still have dull headache. I am anxious and depressed and why the heck doesn't those stupid pills I take for this work......I better go I need to cry now........nothing is going to be better.......my son....
Posted by llurpsienoodle on November 9, 2007, at 13:30:00
In reply to Feeling really bad after T........., posted by rskontos on November 9, 2007, at 11:32:08
((((konto))))
I guess on the bright side is that your day can only get better?You are a very kind and supportive person, and I hope that you can recognize that your strengths will help you get through this day.
hugs,
ll
Posted by rskontos on November 9, 2007, at 13:42:26
In reply to Re: Feeling really bad after T......... » rskontos, posted by llurpsienoodle on November 9, 2007, at 13:30:00
thanks for the kind words, not really feeling any strengths...here is too hope but I feel loss.......rk :(
Posted by rskontos on November 9, 2007, at 13:44:39
In reply to Re: Feeling really bad after T.........llurpsie, posted by rskontos on November 9, 2007, at 13:42:26
last night I even thought about going away to hospital because I feel so like my family doesn't get it and I cant deal with them now. I don't want to be mom right now too hard too much anger in son and all inside too tired and scared right now to deal........
Posted by RealMe on November 9, 2007, at 21:20:50
In reply to Feeling really bad after T........., posted by rskontos on November 9, 2007, at 11:32:08
I am sorry for your experience today, and I wish I could say more, but I am having a really, really bad time. Not so much from therapy though I gained a lot of insight today. It is more related to what occured with my husband and I--similar to two weeks ago, and now I am not likely to see him again for a week. I really can't take his crap anymore. I am starting to get really angry as it is taking away from my therapy when I have to be stressed out about him.
I am going to email my T as I am thinking of other things to do instead. I will try to post later like tomorrow or the next day.
RealMe
Posted by Phillipa on November 9, 2007, at 21:41:40
In reply to Re: Feeling really bad after T..thought bout hospi, posted by rskontos on November 9, 2007, at 13:44:39
Can you get some rest at home? Do you feel safe most important. Phillipa
Posted by Dory on November 9, 2007, at 23:21:56
In reply to Feeling really bad after T........., posted by rskontos on November 9, 2007, at 11:32:08
RK.. i have so little to give and you are hurting so much. find a way to find some healing time for you. can your son stay with some other relative or friend for a while? i know it would mean giving explanations, but that is what we would do if we had some other health crisis right? what would you do if you had a heart condition? Who could help?
i worry about you. i hope you will be ok
Posted by antigua3 on November 10, 2007, at 9:59:44
In reply to Re: Feeling really bad after Therapy//Me too, posted by RealMe on November 9, 2007, at 21:20:50
Sorry to hijack the thread, but Real Me, don't you think dealing with your husband IS part of the therapy? That there are patterns there that you no longer wish to put up with, and you're trying to find a way to deal with him differently?
My T says the same thing as I think it was you who mentioned it (if not, sorry I don't remember who). Don't engage him so that he can continue his behavior. That little piece of advice has been enormously helpful to me. When my husband goes off on something, I just look at him now and say "I'm sorry you feel that way, but I don't." I always feel like everything is my fault, but I see now it's not. And here I thought I picked this man because he was so different from my father, but as we've aged, I see some similarities. Not enough to change our relationship (divorce or anything), but enough for me to stand up for myself more.
sorry about the hijack!
antigua
Posted by Dinah on November 10, 2007, at 10:28:05
In reply to Feeling really bad after T........., posted by rskontos on November 9, 2007, at 11:32:08
The important thing is to make sure you're safe and your son is safe. I know how frustrating it can be to deal with someone whose brain is not yet fully mature. (In my case it's my dog. My son is probably has a more mature brain than I do.) I find it helps to remember that they're doing their job, so to speak. I'm not sure how old your son is, but there are distinct phases that might be annoying to us, but are necessary to them. My puppy seems to be going through a stage of insecure attachment that has him demanding and clingy. It's driving me nuts, but it helps if I keep in mind what's going on.
I also find with my son that we sometimes get into a negative behavior loop. And that when we do, the best thing I can do is to go up to him when we're quiet and say something like "It seems like we're not getting along too well right now. Maybe each of us feels that the other is angry, and we're acting based on that? I really love you and am proud of you, and I'd like us to step back and try again. Would that be ok with you?" It works miracles with my admittedly self reflective son.
If your son is really having problems, either with his own anger, or maybe by being afraid of changes in you, maybe it's best to get him his own therapist? His therapist might bring the family into sessions as well. It's never too early to start doing our best to see that our issues end with our generation.
Good luck, and if you get too angry with him, find someone to watch the kids and take a break. Or ask for help.
Posted by TherapyGirl on November 10, 2007, at 17:58:09
In reply to Feeling really bad after T........., posted by rskontos on November 9, 2007, at 11:32:08
I'm so sorry, RSK. I hope it lets up soon.
((((((((((RSK)))))))))))))
Posted by RealMe on November 12, 2007, at 1:15:30
In reply to Re: Feeling really bad after Therapy//Me too » RealMe, posted by antigua3 on November 10, 2007, at 9:59:44
You are absolutely right, and I don't apologize anymore if I don't think I did anything wrong. My husband is having a hard time with me getting stronger, and well he can do something about it or not, for himeself.
RealMe
Posted by rskontos on November 12, 2007, at 8:41:55
In reply to Re: Feeling really bad after Therapy//Me too » antigua3, posted by RealMe on November 12, 2007, at 1:15:30
Thanks for everyone that posted on this.....therapy has really opened me up and it seems that each time I go I go so much deeper and have contact with my inside voices so I was troubled by the fact that my T didn't say any time for me next week. I have to wait until the week before Thanksgiving and although two weeks in a row I am doing "Good Progress" from her I still few I am at a very sticky part in my therapy that I need to continue weekly sessions and of course I didn't speak up. I hate when I meekly sit back. Then my night went so badly so I would not call her. I don't reach out to anyone by my H and you guys so I called my H and of course he was out of town and only understand just a small part of what i am going through and I broke down completely that night. I switched to one of the smallest ones that can't take any stress and I lost it. I hate to do that especially in front of my son. So for the last few days I have felt so bad and just had to numb myself to get through it all. I also don't know how to repair it all and no I would not call the T. I have established rules on it yet for me. I have her cell number but I don't want to call. Anyway the moment has passed. My son had gotten over it although maybe I haven't.H is back and set down some rules for the son. And I have a bad headache from I dont know. Anyway I just wanted to thank everyone for their support I really needed this time. rk
I am sorry I couldn't answer everyone separately I just dont have it in me right now.
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