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Posted by muffled on September 28, 2007, at 9:43:36
When they go away it just hurts.
Mt T going away 2 wks, which means I not see for 3 weeks. Which is weird.2 means 3?
She gonna lv me voicemail on Mon.
Next week after that she will phone on Tues......if she don't forget!
Pretty darn nice of her.
I sent her e-mail saying some bout how it is with that kid.
I think it was prompted by the, my T's leaving freak.
I was clearer than I normally am.
And then I let Ikid say something in a mail, and I REALLY bugged bout that. She gonna think I nuts. MORE nuts.
Then I sent ther a mail bout a book. And she replied to that one, so she musta got the other two, but of course she didn't reply, cuz she goto save it for when she get back. But I sent them, cuz I knew if I didn't, then after 3 wk, I go back to have to restablish that its safe.Then maybe, maybe not, I would send them. Better to be sure.
I figgered I tricked myself.
So thats good.
But it sucks.
Cuz I afraid she gonna hate me or something.
But she smart, maybe she say good things on voicemail. Last one was really nice for ME, but caused ongoing resentment for that kid, cuz it was MY mail and SO not hers.So it was good/bad.
I wish my mind wasn't so complicated to me.
Take care,
M
Posted by LadyBug on September 28, 2007, at 10:41:43
In reply to Whats the point of attach?, posted by muffled on September 28, 2007, at 9:43:36
Muffled,
Your T underrstands you and your kid. She accepts you for who you are along with all the things you struggle with.
I sometimes worry about the attachment thing. I'm really attached to my T too and it hurts when she's not there for me when she's away. It's ok to be attached. It hurts amd we miss them. I have attachement issues and abandonment issues so I understand how it can feel.
I'm sorry your T is going away again, I think she goes away too often.
We'll be here for you........
(((((((Muffled)))))))
LadyBug
Posted by muffled on September 28, 2007, at 19:42:53
In reply to Re: Whats the point of attach? » muffled, posted by LadyBug on September 28, 2007, at 10:41:43
Posted by widget on September 29, 2007, at 15:57:44
In reply to Yup it SUCKS. Thx LB (nm) » LadyBug, posted by muffled on September 28, 2007, at 19:42:53
I agree. My therapist is gone for 2 1/2 weeks which mean I do not see him for 3 weeks. I actually want him to have a good time as I can tell he needs the break. But, for so long? I get annoyed with myself for this deep attachment unlike any I have ever known and amazing because of that fact. I will sorely miss him. I don't know what else to do except try to accept the loss. When I told him I sincerely hoped he had a good vacation, he was silent, thoughtful and said "that's generous." I am used to throw-away responses like "thanks" and this blew me away. I asked him for more explanation and he said I had had a lot of loss and it was painful for me to deal with loss. So, that did help a bit. He does know this is really hard for me. But, he's still gone! Thanks for listening and 2 weeks seems like a lifetime. Widget
Posted by muffled on October 1, 2007, at 13:22:05
In reply to Re: Yup it SUCKS. Thx LB, posted by widget on September 29, 2007, at 15:57:44
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