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Posted by Iwillsurvive on March 15, 2007, at 22:13:27
I STILL not there yet. I talk in my writings.
I don't look at her much.
I sit near the door.
Hmmmmm
And I reckon its been bout 2 years roundabouts....
Posted by wishingstar on March 15, 2007, at 22:16:03
In reply to How long did it take you to actually TALK in T????, posted by Iwillsurvive on March 15, 2007, at 22:13:27
I dont know. Apparently if I cant do it in 4 sessions, I'm out the door. I'm not sure I've ever really opened up to any Ts totally.
Whatever.
Saw your post above. Will respond to it in a bit. Cant really get my thoughts together so maybe tomorrow.
Posted by frida on March 15, 2007, at 22:23:24
In reply to How long did it take you to actually TALK in T????, posted by Iwillsurvive on March 15, 2007, at 22:13:27
dear Iwillsurvive...
I feel a little ashamed to say this, but after all these years I still can't talk freely. Some days I can, some days I go backwards.
Before I couldn't even say a word, now at least some days I can talk from my heart, but I can't talk freely as me and my T wish i could.
I've seen her for 6+ years, 7...a long time...but it took me a long, long time to build trust. I feel she cares about me and she wants to hear me and wants me to really, really talk. I try...and it is a little easier now but I have moments in which I just can't say what i am truly feeling and it's painful.
She's felt frustrated with me, sometimes, but always stuck with me and she really helped me through so many hard times and is the first person ever to truly hear and be there for me without abandoning me or betraying my trust.
She's said that I am challenging and she does hurt and suffer when I sit there and don't talk...but she wants to help :o). She understands and has said that the little girl in me was hurt from such an early early age, that she won't give up on me and that little girl.I feel bad it has taken me so long, and I still can't talk, but that's the way it is...
sending support,
Frida
(I write too and there I can be totally honest, that helped)
Posted by Poet on March 16, 2007, at 12:33:28
In reply to How long did it take you to actually TALK in T????, posted by Iwillsurvive on March 15, 2007, at 22:13:27
Hi IWS,
It took mr three years and there are still things I'm not ready to talk sbout. I have a very patient T.
Poet
Posted by TherapyGirl on March 16, 2007, at 19:04:51
In reply to How long did it take you to actually TALK in T????, posted by Iwillsurvive on March 15, 2007, at 22:13:27
About 4 years (or maybe AT LEAST 4 years). And the weird thing is that even after 22 years with her and knowing that I trust her more than anyone else on the planet, when I'm not doing well, my words disappear. But they always come back, so we just wait it out. She probably pushes me slightly more now than she did the first four years, but not much.
Posted by TherapyGirl on March 16, 2007, at 19:10:47
In reply to How long did it take you to actually TALK in T????, posted by Iwillsurvive on March 15, 2007, at 22:13:27
I still don't look at my T very much, although it's more than it used to be. But it was a major trigger for me the last time she moved to a new office because she didn't have her stuff there to start with. And I look mostly at her stuff, not her.
Posted by Iwillsurvive on March 20, 2007, at 21:29:28
In reply to P.S. » Iwillsurvive, posted by TherapyGirl on March 16, 2007, at 19:10:47
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