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Posted by Iwillsurvive on March 13, 2007, at 12:22:23
Lotsa people refer to The Rage.
I do too.
I never will go there cuz I dunno what happens if you let The Rage out?
I don't think I would hurt noone.
But its taboo.
I think mebbe I scared of it cuz its too powerful.
I hide all emots for the most part.
Its what I do.
But I don't know if I can repress The Rage if I were to let it come forth.
And that scares me. I must be in control.
Rage is too REAL. How can I make it not real if it comes out?
So if anyone has let it come forth, what happens?
Is it easily controllable, or controllable at all?
Is it scarey?
I know nothing.
Just wondered if anyone else did.....
Thanks.
Posted by Iwillsurvive on March 14, 2007, at 22:44:26
In reply to Re: The Rage, posted by Iwillsurvive on March 13, 2007, at 12:22:23
Posted by Dinah on March 14, 2007, at 22:53:39
In reply to Re: The Rage, posted by Iwillsurvive on March 13, 2007, at 12:22:23
Ahhh, I'm sorry. :(
Rage isn't my best subject.
I think many many people are afraid that their rage is powerful enough to destroy. I think they keep that rage locked tightly away.
My therapist says that's something a child tells themselves that isn't really true. That rage can't really destroy, and that it wouldn't be out of my control. That many things people fear will take them over don't really. Like people are terrified of fear. They think they'll have a panic attack so bad they'll die. But they won't really. We really can feel things and they won't take us over.
I don't know...
Well, I do know that I can experience rage at something and not destroy that thing, but I'm not sure that I can express rage at something and not destroy my attachment to that thing, or my love for it. So I have never quite believed that rage doesn't hurt. It hurts *me*. It hurts my relationships.
I'm sorry if you feel like it's taboo or you shouldn't talk about it here. I think you *should* talk about it here. But I do understand. There are things I disclose that seem to make other people feel uncomfortable, and I have the same impulse to take them back, or at least not to put them forth anymore.
But it's not taboo, and it's fine to talk about it.
Posted by frida on March 14, 2007, at 22:57:14
In reply to Re: The Rage, posted by Iwillsurvive on March 13, 2007, at 12:22:23
dearest iwillsurvive...
like you i hide emotions...and i find it hard to express rage..because what is behind it is a lot of pain..
only once i showed anger towards my T and she was so proud i could...said it was raw and honest and good.
it's hard to express feelings and share this..
but good to let it out safely i guess
better than to turn it inwards and against us
my T is proud of me if I can feel anger towards my father and his actions..i usually can't, just deep pain.i hope you can share your emotions safely with your T ...it's hard but so worth it.
safety to you,
frida
Posted by Iwillsurvive on March 15, 2007, at 22:05:20
In reply to Re: The Rage » Iwillsurvive, posted by Dinah on March 14, 2007, at 22:53:39
> Rage isn't my best subject.
*I don't thinks its anybodys best subject....
>
> I think many many people are afraid that their rage is powerful enough to destroy. I think they keep that rage locked tightly away.* yeah...
>
> My therapist says that's something a child tells themselves that isn't really true. That rage can't really destroy, and that it wouldn't be out of my control. That many things people fear will take them over don't really. Like people are terrified of fear. They think they'll have a panic attack so bad they'll die. But they won't really. We really can feel things and they won't take us over.*yeah, my T said a similiar thing bout tears...
>
> I don't know...*yup, its a tough one, I appreciate you giving it a shot!
>
> Well, I do know that I can experience rage at something and not destroy that thing, but I'm not sure that I can express rage at something and not destroy my attachment to that thing, or my love for it. So I have never quite believed that rage doesn't hurt. It hurts *me*. It hurts my relationships.*Well, you can rage at me Dinah, I'd still be your friend if you wanted me to be.
>
> I'm sorry if you feel like it's taboo or you shouldn't talk about it here. I think you *should* talk about it here. But I do understand. There are things I disclose that seem to make other people feel uncomfortable, and I have the same impulse to take them back, or at least not to put them forth anymore.
>
> But it's not taboo, and it's fine to talk about it.*Not taboo, but terrible :(
I thot of putting a trigger warning but the title was pretty explanatory...
I think most of us avoid it.
Like the elephant in the LR syndrome or something...
Dinah, I REALLY appreciate you replying.
I SO hope you can get a handle on whats going on for you soon :(
Take care
Posted by Iwillsurvive on March 15, 2007, at 22:10:49
In reply to Re: The Rage » Iwillsurvive, posted by frida on March 14, 2007, at 22:57:14
> dearest iwillsurvive...
> like you i hide emotions...and i find it hard to express rage..because what is behind it is a lot of pain..* now THAT is something I'd hadn't of thot of...sh*t. But I think you got something there....
> only once i showed anger towards my T and she was so proud i could...said it was raw and honest and good.
*I've sent nasty mails, but not nasty to her face..
> it's hard to express feelings and share this..
> but good to let it out safely i guess
> better than to turn it inwards and against us
> my T is proud of me if I can feel anger towards my father and his actions..i usually can't, just deep pain.* :-( I'm so sorry Frida :(
It sounds like you have a good T to guide you.
>
> i hope you can share your emotions safely with your T ...it's hard but so worth it.*yeah, some time. Not so sure HOW to do it? HOW to let them OUT??????? I been containing them for proly 40 yrs!
>
> safety to you,
> frida
>* safety. SAFETY.
Thats such a huge word.
Thank you for that, and for replying to this difficult question.
Take care, and safety to you too.
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