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Posted by Gee on January 9, 2007, at 23:17:33
Sorry I haven't been posting much guys. With first going home, and now this it's just been hard.
First, let's me say that I just moved back to school. It's been 8 months since I've been here and my friend group has changed completely. It's grown bigger and I don't know most of the people. They all know each other so well, and I feel like such an outsider which is very hard and very triggering for me. Second, I'm trying to get off effexor and I'm so worried that it's not the right thing, but yet I want to be off it so badly because of side effects mostly. Thirdly, I'm trying to accommadations in place here at the uni and I'm having a very hard time. I saw a t here at the uni last year, and it went okay. I'm just so afraid that they're going to say that I'm too much and refere me to off campus counselling, which I don't have time for the bus ride down there, the appointment, then the bus ride back, let alone the cost......
Posted by muffled on January 10, 2007, at 1:08:10
In reply to Should I phone my/a t?, posted by Gee on January 9, 2007, at 23:17:33
Sorry Gee, I'm not up to date on your stuff.
Sounds like you got alot on your plate.
Which T are you referring to?
The one at uni?
Sorry i not much help.
But I reckon its good to get support where you can...
Take care,
Muffled
Posted by Dinah on January 10, 2007, at 6:57:45
In reply to Should I phone my/a t?, posted by Gee on January 9, 2007, at 23:17:33
It sounds like, from what you've said, that your issues revolve around school, and your university counseling center should be well equipped to deal with them?
I've had what you're describing happen, and it's disconcerting. But the people who liked you eight months ago will still like you, and once you catch up and get the new faces and stories straight, you might find yourself with great new friends as well. After all, the same people who like you, like them.
Posted by Llurpsienoodle on January 10, 2007, at 9:26:29
In reply to Should I phone my/a t?, posted by Gee on January 9, 2007, at 23:17:33
Hi Gee,
that sounds so hard-moving your home and your [school] work
figuring out who your social network is
limited financial resources
effexor withdrawal/side-effects
...
sounds like you could use some counselling. I think that you can start at student counselling. They will see you, and even though they might not be able to deal with long-term Gee-projects, they may be able to support you through some of the immediate stressors.
It may take you a few weeks to get settled in, and find your rhythm again. Take it easy on yourself, and don't be too self-critical if you find that you no longer have things in common with people you regard as ''friends''. It's hard, but this will sort itself out. you'll learn soon who your buddies are, that you can hang out with and distract yourself with, and I bet that in a few weeks you'll have an idea about who is a good person/s to confide in.
Sorry it's so hard.
Do you have a pdoc? Maybe your pdoc (helping you switch AD's or get off effexor) can help support you through this time?
As far as long-term Gee-projects (Therapy, etc)... you can tackle that when you're settled in. Once you figure out your rhythm, you'll have a better idea what your budget is, and how you can negotiate a sliding-scale. Also, you'll have a better idea about whether you need to see T every 2 weeks, once a week, or more often. Last year, I was seeing a T every 1 or 2 weeks, and even though our appts were only 2x a month sometimes, it was still helpful.
crossing my fingers for you xoxo
-noodle
Posted by Gee on January 10, 2007, at 13:22:03
In reply to Re: Should I phone my/a t? » Gee, posted by Dinah on January 10, 2007, at 6:57:45
Thanks Dinah. I guess it's just the whole shock of not knowing what's going on with my friends and not knowing the stories that is hard. But I guess you're right, it will get easier, and they probably are great people. They all seem really nice.
I just e-mailed my pdoc to see what he has to say on it all, and I'll see from there. Thanks Dinah!
Posted by Gee on January 10, 2007, at 13:25:47
In reply to Re: Should I phone my/a t? » Gee, posted by Llurpsienoodle on January 10, 2007, at 9:26:29
Thanks Llurspie
I just e-mailed my pdoc about the whole accommodations thing, because he'll probably have the best idea on what I should ask for and get. Thanks for the idea.
I guess I just gotta give it some time. I hate waiting. I'm not very good at it. Lol.
Thanks Llurpsie
Posted by Gee on January 10, 2007, at 13:26:30
In reply to Re: Should I phone my/a t? » Gee, posted by muffled on January 10, 2007, at 1:08:10
Hey Muffled, Thanks for the support. You're right, I should go find it if I need it. I will... soon.
Thanks
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