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Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy

Posted by Phillipa on October 16, 2006, at 17:00:26

Tomorrow I will see that therapist but I found out that my husband will be in the room with me. As this lady doesn't take medicaire and Greg has regular insurance. So it becomes couples therphy. I wanted someone for me. So now if I like her I have to pay myself $60 a week. That's a lot when you don't work. And what do I tell her? How can I assess if she will be a good fit or another that just hands out papers for you to fill out at home. Thanks Phillipa

 

Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy » Phillipa

Posted by sunnydays on October 16, 2006, at 17:34:52

In reply to Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy, posted by Phillipa on October 16, 2006, at 17:00:26

Can you ask her to have a few minutes alone, either at the beginning or the end of the session, and then ask her about the billing? A therapist I saw would put my dad's name on the receipt for my mom so that they would pay for the therapy and my dad didn't have to be in the room. But your husband would probably have to agree. Good luck.

sunnydays

 

Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy » sunnydays

Posted by Phillipa on October 16, 2006, at 19:47:05

In reply to Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy » Phillipa, posted by sunnydays on October 16, 2006, at 17:34:52

Thanks my husband wouldn't mind really. He doesn't even want to be in there. This is really to see if we click. Love Phillipa

 

Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy

Posted by Lindenblüte on October 16, 2006, at 19:51:54

In reply to Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy » sunnydays, posted by Phillipa on October 16, 2006, at 19:47:05

Hi Phillipa,
I pay 70 dollars/week out of pocket, and I'm only earning 12K this year.

Perhaps the couples therapy could be useful for a bit, if only to show Greg that part of your problems come from not being full partners in the relationship. Financial worries seem to occupy your mind a lot. You shouldn't have to feel like this is all your responsibility. "In sickness and in health"
Remember that one?

Well, I hope that you have a productive session.

Sunnydays has a great suggestion.

gotta go do my HW now.

:(

-Li

 

Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy » Phillipa

Posted by ElaineM on October 16, 2006, at 23:03:10

In reply to Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy, posted by Phillipa on October 16, 2006, at 17:00:26

I haven't "met" you officially but I wanted to wish you good luck tomorrow...today?... I hope you'll get to speak to T on your own a bit - I think it would be easier to get a first impression of her then. I think you can sometimes just get a sense that there's possibilities between you and a T. Or at least that's what I've found. I think I get a feeling from the T's eyes. Like, even though I met with a counsellor only twice I could tell that, by the time we parted, that she was thinking about what I was saying, and not just blank-eyed. It's hard to describe the difference there, but it's such a big one.
Though I do think that it'd be good to meet a few times before deciding cause sometimes the first few meetings are weird and "official business" and stuff like that.

Anyways, I hope she's a good match.
blove, EL

 

Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy

Posted by Jost on October 17, 2006, at 2:23:01

In reply to Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy, posted by Phillipa on October 16, 2006, at 17:00:26

Good luck, Phillipa.

I really really hope it goes well tomorrow.

I"ve got my fingers crossed for you.

Sorry it's taking so long to find the right T-- but I admire your taking all these new risks. It's really inspiring.

Jost

 

Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy

Posted by Phillipa on October 17, 2006, at 17:28:27

In reply to Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy, posted by Jost on October 17, 2006, at 2:23:01

Well it's that day and the session is over. My husband went in with me and that was fine. She spent two hours with me. Only charged $60 without insurance. One time deal on that only. But she said that I'm definitely anxious and now depressed. And she like me believes anxiety leads to depression. Also realizes antidepressants don't work for all people. Since benzos have worked for me I'm staying on them. It's been over 30 years. So we are going to do things in baby steps. Right now I'm so frightened of being alone, going places, just fear. She said I didn't have to write but a list of things I used to enjoy would help narrow down where to start. I told her Nursing was my passion. So we'll probably start there. Not right away but maybe some voluntering in a medical setting in a while. I told her I love doing admissions and nurses(most) hate it maybe do them? I still have an active Nursing license. So no school til 2008. That gives me some time. She said I needed to work hard. Oh and my GP is getting me the consultation I requested for an endocrinologist as my depression anxiety got so bad when my thyroid went hypo. Never saw one. And my Mother died of Addison's disease so a cortisol level I will request and also hormone levels if he does them even though I've been through menopause. She said that the depression I had at age 27 that I got myself out of means I can do it again. I'm so tired . I asked her why she said that talking for hours would do that. But I used to do so many things and be so physically active running etc. She said it didn't matter. Oh and that goes on the list too as I no longer can run due to disc problems in my neck and spine. No idea when the consult will be. probably weeks. But anyway what do you think ? Do you think this sounds like a good therapist? Love Phillipa

 

Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy

Posted by Gee on October 17, 2006, at 19:47:43

In reply to Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy, posted by Phillipa on October 17, 2006, at 17:28:27

Did it feel okay? She sounds pretty good, but you know, it's hard to judge unless we're there with you. I hope it does work out. And I'm glad your hubby would go in with you and it was all okay. Keep going. You can do it

 

Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy » Phillipa

Posted by Lindenblüte on October 17, 2006, at 19:57:09

In reply to Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy, posted by Phillipa on October 17, 2006, at 17:28:27

> Well it's that day and the session is over. My husband went in with me and that was fine. She spent two hours with me.

Wow! That's fantastic!

>Only charged $60 without insurance. One time deal on that only. But she said that I'm definitely anxious and now depressed. And she like me believes anxiety leads to depression. Also realizes antidepressants don't work for all people. Since benzos have worked for me I'm staying on them. It's been over 30 years.

It sounds like she has really good judgment, even from the first time meeting you, she sounds like she's confident that she's going to be able to help you out.

>So we are going to do things in baby steps. Right now I'm so frightened of being alone, going places, just fear. She said I didn't have to write but a list of things I used to enjoy would help narrow down where to start.

What a wonderful idea!

>I told her Nursing was my passion. So we'll probably start there. Not right away but maybe some voluntering in a medical setting in a while. I told her I love doing admissions and nurses(most) hate it maybe do them? I still have an active Nursing license. So no school til 2008. That gives me some time. She said I needed to work hard.

Phillipa, working hard has NEVER been your problem! You ride your bike like a 20-year-old. You respond to everybody's posts with so much caring! You're going to do great. Just remember BabySteps AND Working Hard. You have to know when you're strong enough to take a big step, and when you just need to take it easy for a little while. Therapy doesn't have to feel like hard work every single week. A lot of times the hard work is afterwards, when you go home and start to work on making sense out of it all. Well- you know you've got Babble to support you.

>Oh and my GP is getting me the consultation I requested for an endocrinologist as my depression anxiety got so bad when my thyroid went hypo. Never saw one. And my Mother died of Addison's disease so a cortisol level I will request and also hormone levels if he does them even though I've been through menopause. She said that the depression I had at age 27 that I got myself out of means I can do it again.

Hey Phillipa! I had this depression when I was 27 too. I think I got myself out of it also (mostly :) ) Still have a couple months before I turn 28!! I hope your endocrinologist can get you sorted out. My mom has an extremely competent endocrinologist for her chronic hypothyroid. Her levels change with weight fluctuation, with stress, etc. My mom credits her endocrinologist for making her healthy enough to conceive a 3rd child (who turned out the best of any of us, IMHO). It's kind of like tinkering with a very delicate system. These hormones can really change your moods, so take good care of yourself, okay?

>I'm so tired . I asked her why she said that talking for hours would do that. But I used to do so many things and be so physically active running etc. She said it didn't matter. Oh and that goes on the list too as I no longer can run due to disc problems in my neck and spine. No idea when the consult will be. probably weeks. But anyway what do you think ? Do you think this sounds like a good therapist? Love Phillipa

HAH! Talking IS exhausting. Can you imagine being a T? My oldT used to do a lot of the talking. No wonder he was so fit!! haha. Phillipa, from what you describe, she sounds like a good therapist. Tell us you you FEEL about her. Do the things she says "make sense" to you? Does her attitude work with yours? Maybe some time in the future you may feel like talking about difficult things. Will she be someone you could possibly open up to?

Did she seem sincere? Caring? Kind? Like she wanted to help?

Did she seem cold? annoyed? impatient? like she just wanted to wrap things up?

hopefully more of the former, and less of the latter.


Let us know!!!

(((((Phillipa))))))

;o)


-Li

 

Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy » Lindenblüte

Posted by Phillipa on October 17, 2006, at 21:11:15

In reply to Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy » Phillipa, posted by Lindenblüte on October 17, 2006, at 19:57:09

Li she was very compassionate at one time I started to cry when talking about how dependant I am and how independant I used to be. Yes I can open up to her and seemed like she really cared as the appointment was for an hour and she gave me two. That says something for her she definitely didn't rush and wasn't looking at the clock adding up the money. Oh please let it work. I want to be a nurse again so much. So Li I think I may need you for the reminding me that not all days will be good. Thanks for the compliment for the bike riding. That will spur me on to keep riding. I've always said I'm not a competitive person. But Now I've commmitted on line to you to keep riding and working hard. Thanks so much for your support and caring. And I haven't eatten my cuticles today. Love Phillipa

 

Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy » Phillipa

Posted by Lindenblüte on October 17, 2006, at 21:30:04

In reply to Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy » Lindenblüte, posted by Phillipa on October 17, 2006, at 21:11:15

Phillipa,
you wrote "she was very compassionate at one time I started to cry when talking about..."

Sounds like you've got someone that you can work with. You hang in there, okay?

It's going to be allright, even on the days where you wonder what you just spent an hour of your life and the money, and think to yourself [geez, that was a waste!] Well... yeah, maybe it's wasted on you THAT day- but a lot of times T says something that only makes sense to me weeks later. A lot of times T says something about that session that I thought was a "Waste" and maybe it helped T understand me better.

Will you see her alone? With Greg? once a week?

When's your next session?

Im SOOOOOOO pleased for you Phillipa- I know that it must have taken a lot of bravery for you to do this. I know you have a LOT of anxiety and stuff you've been carrying for so many years. You are a very strong woman, and I know it's hard for you to take risks like see a T and try new meds. I think this is going to work out. Just keep it up. Even when you're scared-- just show up for your appointments, and tell T that you're scared. That's all you have to do. Just show up. You're going to do just fine.

-Li

 

Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy » Lindenblüte

Posted by Phillipa on October 17, 2006, at 21:36:17

In reply to Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy » Phillipa, posted by Lindenblüte on October 17, 2006, at 21:30:04

Thanks Li I will but I always forget and think the worst if something doesn't feel right then at that moment. I don't have the patience you do. I need to borrow some of yours. I guess Greg needs to be there for a while so he realizes how to now be negative to me when I feel bad????Love Jan

 

Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy » Phillipa

Posted by muffled on October 17, 2006, at 22:17:44

In reply to Re: Tomorrow Is The Day of Therphy, posted by Phillipa on October 17, 2006, at 17:28:27

Hey great Phillipa, sounds like you getting things done!
T sounds ok. Hard to say yet.
What did you think bout her?
Did she seem nice?
Sounds like she listens ok.
Hope it goes well for you.
Take care,
Muffled


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