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Posted by happyflower on October 15, 2005, at 20:40:05
At least I thought it was interesting. I know he has tickets for a popular local college football team. Today it was on TV and they said there were 80,000 fans there and they were scanning the stadium of all the fans. Well I know he was there among the 80,000 people. Did he stand out in the crowd? No, LOL ! He is just a normal guy doing a normal guy thing. Did the sunlight shine just on him? NOT! LOL Just an observation.
But it was weird knowing I was looking at him somewhere in that crowd of ant sized people as the blimp camera scanned the whole stadium from above.
Posted by happyflower on October 15, 2005, at 22:42:49
In reply to Interesting thought about my T today, posted by happyflower on October 15, 2005, at 20:40:05
Posted by daisym on October 15, 2005, at 22:45:28
In reply to Interesting thought about my T today, posted by happyflower on October 15, 2005, at 20:40:05
Just an observation: this is the second post where you refer to your therapist as a "normal guy." It makes me wonder if you are resisting feelings for him, thinking he is special, etc. I may be all wet. It isn't that I think you should have these feelings, it just feels a little like you want to push away any idealization that often happens.
I prefer to think my therapist is magic. And that way I can get mad at him when he won't wave his wand and make things all better.
And what do you mean he was at a football game? You mean he doesn't live in his office with a hot plate and murphy bed waiting for your next session?! I refuse to believe it.
Posted by happyflower on October 15, 2005, at 23:02:35
In reply to Re: Interesting thought about my T today » happyflower, posted by daisym on October 15, 2005, at 22:45:28
> Just an observation: this is the second post where you refer to your therapist as a "normal guy." It makes me wonder if you are resisting feelings for him, thinking he is special, etc. I may be all wet. It isn't that I think you should have these feelings, it just feels a little like you want to push away any idealization that often happens.
I find this very interesting on what you are saying. I have feeling for him as a person, he is sweet kind man who makes me laugh, but I am now getting some of this from other people now that I am out and about in the public.
He has worked hard on me with me by not letting me put him up on a pedstal. He shows me over and over again just how normal he is. I think this might be why he discloses a lot to me about himself, positive stuff and not so perfect stuff.
I guess I just feel like my feelings about him as a therapist has come full circle. First he thought I put him on a pedistal, then he thought I as critical of him, then I think he thought he was VERY special to me in my eyes. We touched on this a little in my last session. I told him how unimpressed I am with him now. He laughed so hard, I thought he was going to fall out of the chair. LOL> I prefer to think my therapist is magic. And that way I can get mad at him when he won't wave his wand and make things all better.
Well I guess my T already preformed his magic on me! :) Me all better now! LOL
> And what do you mean he was at a football game? You mean he doesn't live in his office with a hot plate and murphy bed waiting for your next session?! I refuse to believe it.Sorry, your are right, he lives in his office just thinking about me and how he is going to make my life better! LOL (feel better, now, sorry to scare you like that :) )
Posted by Tamar on October 16, 2005, at 4:19:38
In reply to Re: Interesting thought about my T today » daisym, posted by happyflower on October 15, 2005, at 23:02:35
> > Just an observation: this is the second post where you refer to your therapist as a "normal guy." It makes me wonder if you are resisting feelings for him, thinking he is special, etc. I may be all wet. It isn't that I think you should have these feelings, it just feels a little like you want to push away any idealization that often happens.
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> I find this very interesting on what you are saying. I have feeling for him as a person, he is sweet kind man who makes me laugh, but I am now getting some of this from other people now that I am out and about in the public.
> He has worked hard on me with me by not letting me put him up on a pedstal. He shows me over and over again just how normal he is. I think this might be why he discloses a lot to me about himself, positive stuff and not so perfect stuff.
> I guess I just feel like my feelings about him as a therapist has come full circle. First he thought I put him on a pedistal, then he thought I as critical of him, then I think he thought he was VERY special to me in my eyes. We touched on this a little in my last session. I told him how unimpressed I am with him now. He laughed so hard, I thought he was going to fall out of the chair. LOLTee hee. I like that he laughed.
I wonder if you and Daisy are both right… I know that I felt that when I’m working through the attachment stuff I can sometimes feel as if my therapist is just a normal guy. A special one, but also just a man like any other.
But then sometimes the feelings of longing come back. I don’t know if it’s a depressive cycle, but I think perhaps it’s just that (for me) it’s taking a long time to work through all those feelings of attachment. And so I sometimes wonder whether my feelings of not-being-so-attached are a kind of resistance. A little bit, anyway.
However, of course I never talked to my T about it. And you have been talking to your T about it. So I think it’s probably a good and healthy thing that you feel less attached at this stage.
And your happiness is definitely not annoying! I’m very pleased for you.
Tamar
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