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Posted by tooomuchpain on September 29, 2005, at 7:05:12
hey all ... i started to see a new therapist and she found out through my old center where i used to go about my situion there and she doesnt want too see me no more ... i am not sure y u kno.... what happened in the past is what it is i cant change that and for the most part i dont regret it i have learned from so why in the world wouldnt sh ewant to work with me no more ??
and idea ?
Posted by crazy teresa on September 29, 2005, at 7:15:08
In reply to giving up, posted by tooomuchpain on September 29, 2005, at 7:05:12
I'm sorry to hear that. I wasn't aware T's could pick and choose patients like that.
Do you have access to other T's?
Posted by messadivoce on September 29, 2005, at 8:47:34
In reply to giving up, posted by tooomuchpain on September 29, 2005, at 7:05:12
I am sorry. That is rather despicable of her. It would be my hope that you would tell her exactly what you posted--you can't change the past, but you want help with your future. If this woman doesn't want to work with you for that reason, then perhaps this is the writing on the wall? People fall in love and sleep together all the time and then they come to therapy. The fact that your lover was a T really shouldn't make you look any different to her. Personally, I feel as though that's professional snobbery.
Many hugs to you.
Posted by Racer on September 29, 2005, at 13:25:04
In reply to Re: giving up » tooomuchpain, posted by messadivoce on September 29, 2005, at 8:47:34
My current T told me that she worried about taking me on when I told her I was reporting a former therapist for malpractice to the licensing board. After reading the complaint, she told me that she worried that if things went wrong, I might report her.
I can understand both fears, but I agree that it's not particularly helpful to us. I don't know what else to say, besides maybe telling any new T your side of the story before you really start up. If there's likely to be a problem, it should then be apparent right away.
Good luck.
Posted by orchid on September 29, 2005, at 14:48:44
In reply to giving up, posted by tooomuchpain on September 29, 2005, at 7:05:12
Hi Toomuchpain,
Actually it is very understandable that she would hesitate to work with you, because she might be afraid for her job. Usually people who go to the board for complaining about a T, might find it difficult to get another T. Like it or not, that is the way the world operates.
But that doesn't mean what you did was wrong. Your ex T was eggregiously irresponsible with you, and it was right that you complained about him. Plus he was so very horribly wrong to have started an affair with you after that, and give you a child, and disappear. It is extremely wrong on his part.
So what you can do, is to find a therapist (maybe try female Ts first, since you had lot of problem with male T), and explain all the things to her up front. Tell her fully what happened. And tell her that you have learnt from it as well.
Posted by Emily Elizabeth on September 29, 2005, at 19:09:50
In reply to giving up, posted by tooomuchpain on September 29, 2005, at 7:05:12
I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you w/ the new T. No matter what her reasons were, it would feel awful.
I don't know if this thought helps in any way, but just in case...maybe she is inexperienced with situations such as yours and so she was worried that she wouldn't be helpful to you. Maybe she was trying to do what would be best for you and not best for her.
I do think that she has an obligation to help you find a new T. Did she say anything abt that?
Best,
EE> hey all ... i started to see a new therapist and she found out through my old center where i used to go about my situion there and she doesnt want too see me no more ... i am not sure y u kno.... what happened in the past is what it is i cant change that and for the most part i dont regret it i have learned from so why in the world wouldnt sh ewant to work with me no more ??
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> and idea ?
Posted by fairywings on September 29, 2005, at 21:35:15
In reply to giving up, posted by tooomuchpain on September 29, 2005, at 7:05:12
> hey all ... i started to see a new therapist and she found out through my old center where i used to go about my situion there and she doesnt want too see me no more ... > and idea ?
Wouldn't that be a breach of confidentiality if they told her what was going on with you?
fw
Posted by lynn970 on September 30, 2005, at 21:35:08
In reply to Re: giving up » tooomuchpain, posted by messadivoce on September 29, 2005, at 8:47:34
She sounds like a lousy therapist. I am sorry that you have to go through this. I am glad, however that you wont see her anymore. She may need to see a therapist herself.
Bad, bad therapist.
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