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Posted by B2chica on June 9, 2005, at 9:46:00
i was thinking about how group really sent me over the edge last night, and writing about it this morning. Especially with that 'relaxation' technique...that's what REally GETs me.
-most of the time that i was moles#$$@ growing up there was more than one person there. maybe that's why i can't stand being in groups. ALso, my mother would make me tell her stuff when there wasn't anythibng to tell. like she'd say i was angry and mad at her when i wasn't, she pushed and pushed and pushed until i WOULD get angry at her-then i'd get an i told you so AND backlash from that, i just couldn't win with her. that's why i HATE probing questions.
and they always ask 100 ques. at group.
i don't want ANYONE to know ANYTHING personal about me!
(except babble of course). see, i have my group sessions right here!i think i might print this off and take it to my T tomorrow. i think this makes sense....do you?
can you think of anyother reason i get SOOOO freaked out in group?thanks for listening
b2c.
Posted by cubic_me on June 9, 2005, at 13:46:57
In reply to maybe i figured it out??, posted by B2chica on June 9, 2005, at 9:46:00
I think it would be a good idea to show this to your T, and your reasons for not liking group feel totally reasonable. I was taught never to say how I was feeling, to be seen and not heard etc and I don't want anyone to know anything about me unless they have 'earned' it.
Posted by Tamar on June 9, 2005, at 18:49:55
In reply to maybe i figured it out??, posted by B2chica on June 9, 2005, at 9:46:00
I think the bottom line is that you don't feel yet that you can trust the other people in the group because you don't know them yet. Instead of them asking probing questions of you, you should be given the opportunity to get to know them slowly until you feel you are willing to disclose things. How on earth could you be expected to trust people on sight? If you could do that you wouldn't need to be in a therapy group.
Sorry, I'm ranting. But I can't understand how anyone could have expected a new group member to feel comfortable with all these activities. At the very least you should have been told that you had the right to opt out of participating fully in things like the relaxation exercise.
Tamar
Posted by Poet on June 9, 2005, at 22:10:58
In reply to maybe i figured it out??, posted by B2chica on June 9, 2005, at 9:46:00
Hi B2Chica,
I wouldn't last a second in an in person group. Close my eyes and relax? No way.
I think printing your post out and bringing it to therapy is a great idea. It might help you acknowledge (note I didn't say talk about) the feelings group triggered.
I wish you the best.
Poet
Posted by B2chica on June 10, 2005, at 10:33:42
In reply to Re: maybe i figured it out?? » B2chica, posted by cubic_me on June 9, 2005, at 13:46:57
My Words EXACTLY!!!!
>I was taught never to say how I was feeling, to be seen and not heard etc and I don't want anyone to know anything about me unless they have 'earned' it.
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