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Posted by mair on January 1, 2005, at 13:30:36
What do you make of the fact that I dreamt last night that I had inadvertently used some verboten profanities in a recent PB post and I needed to figure out how to address it? Should I hurry up and post an apology/retraction on the admin site or in the thread where the profanities appeared? Should I just keep quiet and hope that Bob would never really notice? Shouldn't I really try to avoid drawing attention to myself?
In my slumber these seemed to be very nettlesome questions.
Bear in mind that I wake up actually remembering only about 3 dreams a year.
Mair
Posted by cubic_me on January 1, 2005, at 16:45:13
In reply to Hey all you dream analysts, posted by mair on January 1, 2005, at 13:30:36
I'm sorry I'm useless with dream analysis, but your dream reminded me or a dream I had a few nights ago where I had inadvertantly found out a poster's telephone number. Obviously I know that the number in the dream wasn't thier real number (it was even an enlish number and they are american) but I still feel very awkward about it!!
Perhaps your dream could mean that you think that you are offending people (here or in real life) or that you are not being accepted. What do you think it means?
Posted by Toph on January 1, 2005, at 16:58:46
In reply to Hey all you dream analysts, posted by mair on January 1, 2005, at 13:30:36
Unless you really care that much about Bob's perception of you, my take on this is that this representation is a metaphor for some other unforgiven transgression you feel you have committed. Has anything else been bugging you lately, mair?
-Toph
Posted by vwoolf on January 2, 2005, at 0:48:31
In reply to Re: dream » mair, posted by Toph on January 1, 2005, at 16:58:46
Sounds to me like guilt feelings of some sort that are being expressed, as if you feel inherently bad and are just waiting to be publicly discovered, shamed and punished. Is this a trend in your life?
Posted by daisym on January 2, 2005, at 2:41:56
In reply to Re: dream, posted by vwoolf on January 2, 2005, at 0:48:31
I think it is about control...of yourself and of those around you. You didn't control your language, and you can't control Bob's response unless you make the right decision about where to post the apology, which thread, etc.
And i think it might also be the level of need that is on the Board right now...you can't solve all the problems or make some frustrations go away. So of course, preserving your connection to Babble is important right now, but it might be intruding on you IRL.
Posted by mair on January 2, 2005, at 9:08:33
In reply to Re: dream, posted by daisym on January 2, 2005, at 2:41:56
Thanks everyone; this is very helpful.
I am a person who tends to feel guilty alot, mostly about errors of omission, not errors of commission so much. I'm perpetually behind at work; I spend alot of time thinking about the things I think I should do and that I'm not doing; I never feel that I'm meeting the needs of my family and there is a huge part of me that worries about disappointing people - of course not enough to do whatever it takes not to disappoint them. (-;
Daisy, control is an issue as well. I don't think I'm particularly controlling (although I'm sure my children would say I try to be) but I sure would like to have more control over how I conduct my life. And I thought about the Babble part as well. I'm not a consistent regular here for several reasons only some of which occasionally have to do with time or a lack of need. It's very difficult for me to write about myself or my needs or offer support to anyone else without judging myself alot for what I'm writing - how it will sound to others; whether anyone will care etc. All of those inhibitions make it hard for me to jump right in when I really do need to be less isolated, and the longer I stay away, the less I feel that I can ever tap back into the support of the group dynamics.
Since I'm feeling pretty needy at the moment, maybe I am worried about losing Babble - it probably didn't help that I actually managed to acquire my first block a couple of months ago, although it seems like it should be ancient history now.
Thanks again
Mair
Posted by Dinah on January 2, 2005, at 9:33:05
In reply to Re: Threads of all of those things, posted by mair on January 2, 2005, at 9:08:33
I'm going to repeat myself, and I know you know this already. As long as Dr. Bob is willing, Babble will be here for you. Many individual Babblers sadly come and go for whatever reason, while some stay. But Babble is a constant. You've been a valuable member whose opinion was respected and sought out. (I know I always read all your posts while skimming.) When you've been away a while, it may take just a little time for newer members to see that, but I think it's worth fighting for the relationship with Babble (obviously - grin).
I do understand, though. When I first started Babbling, my OCD gave me heck. I would stay up all night obsessing over my posts and wondering what effect it would have on a possibly vulnerable poster. I still do on occasion. :(
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