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Posted by smokeymadison on November 30, 2004, at 14:43:47
hey all,
i am looking for a new therapist b/c my old one moved his office and it is too far to drive. he was may first male therapist and the therapy really brought out my trust isses w/ males, understandable b/c i have been rejected time and again by my dad.
i called a highly recommended male therapist in my (small) town but he is booked for months. he recommended a woman who sounds like she would be a great therapist for me. she has a direct approach and sounds like she would hold me accountable. but i wanted a male therapist, not a woman. granted, therapy would be a lot easier with a woman b/c my abandonment issues aren't near as strong with women. what should i do? should i call the male therapist back and ask to be put on a "waiting list" sort of thing? is it fair to the female therapist he recommended that i go into therapy hoping to stop seeing her in a few months? advice /suggestions greatly appreciated!!!
Posted by Shortelise on November 30, 2004, at 16:13:31
In reply to male vs female therapist, posted by smokeymadison on November 30, 2004, at 14:43:47
Would you consider going to see her, and discussing it with her? She might have some surprising insights.
I worked out my Mommy stuff with a male therapist.
ShortE
Posted by annierose on November 30, 2004, at 19:44:42
In reply to Re: male vs female therapist » smokeymadison, posted by Shortelise on November 30, 2004, at 16:13:31
In general (and I'm not an expert) I think the "sex" matters less, and your raport with them matters more. If you feel "connected" (or a nice comfort level) I think a good therapist can help either sex, and often does. I see a female and I have "issues" (as my daughter says) with men. And my T has been extremely helpful.
Posted by fallsfall on November 30, 2004, at 20:47:12
In reply to male vs female therapist, posted by smokeymadison on November 30, 2004, at 14:43:47
I had the same transference issues with both a female and a male therapist.
When I was shopping for a new therapist, I asked one of the candidates if he thought I should see a woman or a man. He said that issues come through irregardless of the sex of the therapist - that what was important was to choose a *good* therapist. I chose him!
Posted by Elisha on December 1, 2004, at 19:53:25
In reply to male vs female therapist, posted by smokeymadison on November 30, 2004, at 14:43:47
Hi
I think that the most important issue with a therapist is not male or female but rather the connection that is built with the therapist. You should give the recommended therapist a try and only if you see that it is not working then explore your other options.wishing you luck Elisha
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