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Posted by michellemybell on November 6, 2004, at 3:14:48
Hello everyone,
My therapist had to terminate therapy (abandon me)in February. I am a college student and saw her at the schools counseling center. The first months of not being being able to contact her was tormenting. Then I had the best summer of my life, then I was okay in school without her for 2 months, and now I find myself becoming obsessed with her again. My new therapist says its because I although I now can, I dont want to let go of the obsession. I am not sure. All I know is that I think about her most of time, want to call, want to see her, want her to see me socializing with people, want to run into her. The worst part is that I have to see her car every time I drive on the main road, waiting at longgg light, with her car parked right in front. I am so angry that I was not allowed to tell her how I felt, how everything was blamed on me, and that they are maing me wait a year to see her again. She lied to me, she abaoned me. She told me she loved me, and would be there for her, and that I can open up and trust her, and just because I develop feelings for , she gets scared and didnt even try to help with that saying it wasnt important. Well I ended up acting out because my feelings, because she was pushing me away, not dealing with it. And now look what happened, I dont have her. There was a big fight. And I cant see her until February. I know most of the waiting time is over but lately I am just diving back into obsession, anger, lust and sadness over her. I want to tell her everything. I want to yell at her while I hug her so close. I never felt even close to obsessed with anyone except her. Its driving me crazy. And my new therapist, who is understanding, calm, and I know will never leave me, is kind of getting frustrated with me because she cant help me and I am not letting go. If I let go it is defeat, if I let go that means she isnt in my life anymore. I cant have that. I dont know what to do.
Posted by annierose on November 6, 2004, at 5:47:58
In reply to obsession with my T-abandoned, posted by michellemybell on November 6, 2004, at 3:14:48
Not knowing you or this situation, but by your post, I don't think you are ready to see T1 again.
Keep working on this "obsession" (your words) with T2.
Posted by Susan47 on November 6, 2004, at 10:02:15
In reply to Re: obsession with my T-abandoned, posted by annierose on November 6, 2004, at 5:47:58
My heart really goes out to you. Can you identify your obsessive feelings' roots? I had those with my therapist as well, I really acted out wildly with him, I'm lucky he didn't yell at me, really. I was anxious about being loved and didn't feel good enough for him, he was my father in the relationship.
I ended up spending a lot of time in bed with the covers over my head, shaking and crying. And once when I was cutting my hair (my version of nailbiting) I cut my finger quite badly and ended up dragging my sorry self to Emerg.
Whatever it takes, be good to yourself if you can.
Posted by michellemybell on November 6, 2004, at 12:53:17
In reply to Re: obsession with my T-abandoned, posted by Susan47 on November 6, 2004, at 10:02:15
I probably am not ready to see her, and I will work on it with my new T. I think it is just the weekends and nights that I get depressed, obsessed, and compulsive. I was even about to email my old T, which I cant do, and get my self in trouble. I just hate waiting, its unbearable.
Susan, I'm sorry to hear about your situation, how is everything now? Thanks for sending me your care.
> My heart really goes out to you. Can you identify your obsessive feelings' roots? I had those with my therapist as well, I really acted out wildly with him, I'm lucky he didn't yell at me, really. I was anxious about being loved and didn't feel good enough for him, he was my father in the relationship.
> I ended up spending a lot of time in bed with the covers over my head, shaking and crying. And once when I was cutting my hair (my version of nailbiting) I cut my finger quite badly and ended up dragging my sorry self to Emerg.
> Whatever it takes, be good to yourself if you can.
Posted by Susan47 on November 7, 2004, at 22:00:20
In reply to Re: obsession with my T-abandoned, posted by michellemybell on November 6, 2004, at 12:53:17
How could you get yourself into trouble by emailing your old T?
Posted by michellemybell on November 7, 2004, at 22:11:45
In reply to Re: obsession with my T-abandoned » michellemybell, posted by Susan47 on November 7, 2004, at 22:00:20
Because I am not allowed to contact her for a year, or there will be some kind of intervention.
> How could you get yourself into trouble by emailing your old T?
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