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Posted by Poet on October 19, 2004, at 16:51:15
My T said she was happy to see me. I believe her. We talked a little about what I was feeling when I had quit, but being me I couldn't talk about becoming a blubbering fool. It did feel nice to hear her say that she cares about me and would always welcome me back.
I'm seeing her again on Friday (twice in one week- yikes!) My *external world* of being unable to get a job and financial worries are something that we can't work on. What we will work on is how I see myself in that world. It ain't pretty, I can tell you that.
Again, thanks to everyone who helped me make the phone call. I did tell my T that I reserve the right to quit again, and she said she doesn't advise it, but it's my choice. Then I got a worried look. Oh, oh.
Poet
Posted by Annierose on October 19, 2004, at 17:17:55
In reply to Back in Therapy- no tears or fears, posted by Poet on October 19, 2004, at 16:51:15
I glad your session went well. It will probably help seeing her again this Friday. I know it's expensive, especially with your mention of a job situation (or lack of one I think). Anyway, I think the more often you go, it reduces your resistance to opening up. Sort of like digging a giant hole in the sand, over time it starts to fill up, but the more often you attend to it, the deeper the hole can become. Does that make sense?
Hope so. Glad you did it. I think DaisyM or Diane (I'm sorry I forgot you said this)... someone said, the relationship with your therapist IS the therapy. And the longer I go, I do believe that to be true.
Posted by Pfinstegg on October 19, 2004, at 17:41:46
In reply to Back in Therapy- no tears or fears, posted by Poet on October 19, 2004, at 16:51:15
Posted by Aphrodite on October 19, 2004, at 18:46:47
In reply to Back in Therapy- no tears or fears, posted by Poet on October 19, 2004, at 16:51:15
Your T sounds very compassionate. Of course she will always take you back! I can't imagine anyone *not* wanting to work with you. You are so kind and worthy of her assistance. I'm glad you've gone back. I know I was glad that I returned, though it can be so painful at times. Hang in there!
Posted by shrinking violet on October 19, 2004, at 19:40:23
In reply to Re: Back in Therapy- no tears or fears » Poet, posted by Aphrodite on October 19, 2004, at 18:46:47
I'm so proud of you! I know it wasn't the easiest thing to do. I wish you the best. My mail is always open, should you need it.
-SV
Posted by fallsfall on October 19, 2004, at 20:42:05
In reply to Back in Therapy- no tears or fears, posted by Poet on October 19, 2004, at 16:51:15
I'm happy for you.
I think I heard your sigh of relief all the way over here...?
Posted by daisym on October 20, 2004, at 0:13:16
In reply to Back in Therapy- no tears or fears, posted by Poet on October 19, 2004, at 16:51:15
I'm so glad you went back and it felt right. Don't worry about her "worried" look. She is supposed to worry about you! I agree that going more often might help you open things up. And it sounds like concentrating on yourself is the right thing to do right now.
You are so brave. I hope you are proud of yourself. Celebrate with ice cream! :)
Posted by Dinah on October 20, 2004, at 2:15:31
In reply to Back in Therapy- no tears or fears, posted by Poet on October 19, 2004, at 16:51:15
That's great Poet. :) I think they see it as a natural part of therapy more than we fear.
Although my therapist once told me I taught him all he knows about terminating in such a way that the client feels free to come back. I'm touched...
Posted by Poet on October 20, 2004, at 12:29:49
In reply to Back in Therapy- no tears or fears, posted by Poet on October 19, 2004, at 16:51:15
Why is something that is supposed to be good for me so hard? Things that are bad come so easily.
I am supposed to *hold* that she is happy to have me back and that I can't do anything to stop her from caring. It won't stop me from trying, but that's one of the things we'll work on.
I can do this, I will do this. It'll be at a snail's pace and sometimes at a dead stand still, but I will try.
Poet
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