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Posted by lucy stone on June 22, 2004, at 20:07:22
My T is on vacation this week. My first session back with him will be a week from today. I see him 4 times a week so he is normally a huge part of my life. I have done better with the separation this time, usually I get very angry and we clash a lot in the week before he goes, but this time I could discuss the coming break like a rational human (progress!). When he goes away he always gives me the number of the place he is staying so that I can get in touch with him if I need to. This time he is staying in a mountain cabin without a phone and he gave me the name of the main office. They will bring him a message if I call. I did with it what I think a lot of us would do, I googled it. Up popped a picture of the very cabin he is staying in, interior pictures included. I told him I had googled it and of course we talked about it so I know he thinks it was an OK thing to do. That's how I know which cabin he is in, he told me himself. Over the last few days I have occaisionally gone to the site and looked at the pictures, imagining him in the cabin. It gives me comfort and helps me feel closer to him while he is gone. I just wanted to share this with people who will understand. All the people in my non-cyber world with thing this is really strange, but I know I will get understanding here.
Just wanted to share,
Lucy
Posted by Dinah on June 22, 2004, at 20:24:22
In reply to missing my T, posted by lucy stone on June 22, 2004, at 20:07:22
I like your therapist for that, Lucy. I think mine would have the same attitude. He once said that he thought some clients just needed to have a connection with their therapists, to be able to picture them when they're not with them.
It's very very seldom mine doesn't give me permission to call him on his cell phone when he's gone, even though I've never done it when he's on vacation, just when he's away for business.
I think it's great you have a way to feel closer while he's gone. And we'll always understand those feelings of therapist vacation.
Posted by daisym on June 22, 2004, at 23:32:14
In reply to Re: missing my T » lucy stone, posted by Dinah on June 22, 2004, at 20:24:22
Lucy,
I think your Therapist sounds just great. I know mine is taking a week at the end of August and while he was gone last year for 2 weeks and it didn't occur to me to be upset, this year will be really different. I think having a way ot visualize where he is must help in a huge way.
Keep busy this week. I've heard people use their usual therapy time to do something soothing for themselves. And keep posting if it helps.
Daisy
Posted by Aphrodite on June 23, 2004, at 7:01:54
In reply to missing my T, posted by lucy stone on June 22, 2004, at 20:07:22
Definitely keep posting, and let us help.
You could write things to your therapist you would have liked to talk about this week as a way of feeling connected.
Use your therapy money on some new shoes (I'm such a girl!), or a massage, or a dinner out with friends. That will provide some nuturing distraction.
(((Lucy)))
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