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Posted by TexasChic on November 28, 2003, at 10:05:27
I've made so much progress over the last several years with my depression, anxiety, and low self esteem. My friends call me self improvement girl. But lately, I just seem to be losing my grasp on everything I've worked so hard to obtain. My finances are chaos and I can't seem to get it together enough just to get the bills paid on time. I had been feeling so good about myself and so in control of my own happiness, but now I find myself going out drinking and trying to escape a miserable existence. I know my mom moving in with me has alot to do with it (I have been my grandmother's caregiver for the past 5 years, my mom recently moved in with us and is a control freak [and mentally unstable] and has been making my life miserable). I am planning to move out and let my mom care for my Grandmother (she's capable of that at least), but the finance thing makes it difficult. I guess I just feel kind of trapped. I know I should just get out so I can get away from the negativity, and then maybe I can think straight again. My therapist said its time to get out, and that I'd be more help to my Grandmother when I'm out of there and able to get my life under some control again. I guess I'm just scared. I've always lived with relatives (garage apt's, ect.) and moving to an regular apartment is kind of a big step for me. I'm afraid I won't have enough money, and I'll just be out there on my own for the first time! I crave it, but I fear it too. I guess its just a step I have to get past. Anyway, I know this is long and confusing, I just needed to get it out. I'm just feeling kind of scared, lost, and alone today.
Posted by Elle2021 on November 29, 2003, at 1:34:07
In reply to I feel like I'm losing control, posted by TexasChic on November 28, 2003, at 10:05:27
Ah, I remember my first apartment. I won't lie to you, money was definitely tight. I don't know what your job/financial situation is right now. Keep in mind that the government has a lot of programs that can help people who need extra assistance (e.g. food stamps, medical care, section 8). I am not terribly familiar with how Texas decides who gets what (I assume thats where you are at because of your name?), but if I were you, I wouldn't hesitate to at least get some info. about it. You won't be getting the help for the rest of your life, just till you get things straightened out, and there is no shame in that.
Elle
Posted by lookdownfish on November 29, 2003, at 2:43:51
In reply to I feel like I'm losing control, posted by TexasChic on November 28, 2003, at 10:05:27
Is there any way you could share with a friend? At least it breaks the link with your family which seems to be causing trouble.
Not that I'm suggesting you can't manage on your own, I'm sure you can do it.
Posted by TexasChic on December 1, 2003, at 9:04:36
In reply to Re: I feel like I'm losing control » TexasChic, posted by lookdownfish on November 29, 2003, at 2:43:51
Thanks Elle and lookdownfish. I feel much better about things today. I was having one of those panicky/depressed periods when I wrote that post (there were a couple of other contributing factors I didn't mention that triggered my freak out as well, but I won't go into all that). I'm still worried, but after thinking about it all weekend, I realized I'm panicking about problems that haven't happened, and may not happen. Sometimes my imagination is my worst enemy. I know I will love it when I get out on my own, its just the unknown that frightens me I guess. Anyway, it helps to get it out when you're freaking out about something, so thanks for listening
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