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Posted by Medusa on October 12, 2003, at 18:50:38
from _Klartext Reden_, by Caroline Fey
Loose translation by me. Please do not quote without giving credit to the author.
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Our self-esteem is made up of the following aspects:+Goals - finding them and putting them into action
+Living in integrity with your values
+Successes
+Personal responsibility
+Positive childhood experiences
+Relationship with others
+Social recognition
+Self-confidence
+Self-acceptance and self-love
10-point power program1. What are your strengths?
2. Remember your successes. Keep a journal of all achievements - no matter how little.
3. Set goals. Be sure that you have goals - and realize them.
4. Get affirmation! First ask people you're sure to get it from. Later, risk asking people whose opinions you're not sure of.
5. Ask for the information you need.
6. Take responsibility. Accept that you alone are responsible for your own life. Whether your childhood was positive or negative, you're responsible for today.
7. Pay attention to the company you keep. Surround yourself with people you like, who are good for you.
8. Live with good things. Surround yourself with things you like.
9. Take care of yourself. Be sure you have sufficient energy sources. What are your "oases"?
10. Stand by yourself. Accept yourself as you are. This doesn't stop you from improving - accepting yourself is the best way to develop.
Posted by Poet on October 13, 2003, at 9:10:25
In reply to elements of self-esteem - for Poet, posted by Medusa on October 12, 2003, at 18:50:38
Thanks for translating. We'll discuss it when you're back home.
Poet
Posted by pedr on October 13, 2003, at 11:34:54
In reply to elements of self-esteem - for Poet, posted by Medusa on October 12, 2003, at 18:50:38
Hi Medusa,
I'm from the REBT school of thinking (REBT greatly helped me when I found CBT did not really help me) and rather interestingly it suggests that self esteem is _not_ a useful concept in itself mainly as it fosters globally rating yourself and/or others. What REBT does recommend is Self Acceptance which was in your list:>>> 10. Stand by yourself. Accept yourself as you are. This doesn't stop you from improving - accepting yourself is the best way to develop.
That is straight out of the REBT philosophy - never ever judge yourself as a whole whether it be positive or negative judgement.
Anyway I'll shut up now as I wasn't invited onto this post =0) I don't know anyone who uses REBT and hardly any CBT users and I just find the whole thing fascinating =0)
Cheers,
p
Posted by WakingDreamer on October 16, 2003, at 13:36:17
In reply to Re: elements of self-esteem - for Poet, posted by pedr on October 13, 2003, at 11:34:54
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