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Posted by survivor1 on January 19, 2006, at 15:04:52
Hi, I'm new. This is only my second thread. I feel hopeless most of the time now and very alone. I really don't even know why I am posting this because I really feel anxious even talking to people. I'm losing my therapist because of change of insurance and I really need her right now because she knows me and my background and everything seems to be swallowing me up. Help me
Posted by James K on January 19, 2006, at 20:04:37
In reply to Feeling Hopeless, posted by survivor1 on January 19, 2006, at 15:04:52
> Hi, I'm new. This is only my second thread. I feel hopeless most of the time now and very alone. I really don't even know why I am posting this because I really feel anxious even talking to people. I'm losing my therapist because of change of insurance and I really need her right now because she knows me and my background and everything seems to be swallowing me up. Help me
This in a little easier than talking in real life to people, so it is good practice. Yesterday, I felt depression so bad I couldn't stand it. I went ahead and posted here and some people gave me support. All I can say is hang on and do the next right thing. Something they do here that I've never done before, but I think you need it is (((survivor1))). It stands for hugs.
keep posting,
James K
Posted by shasling on January 19, 2006, at 21:15:01
In reply to Re: Feeling Hopeless » survivor1, posted by James K on January 19, 2006, at 20:04:37
I second James's post, S1. I looked at these posts for a long time and never posted; I mean, I never ever ask for help. Until one night I was at a desperate final moment, and I posted a frustrated and probably not altogether pleasant post, and within moments, these people were coming out of the woodwork, there for me. They CARED. And hung with me until I was done. I still am astounded that complete strangers from who knows where were there for me in a way people in real life have a hard time with: completely unconditional and just wanting to help. Keep posting, stay engaged. (This board doesn't get as much traffic, I don't think, as the main board so don't get nervous if responses don't come right away). These people carried me over a place I couldn't cross myself and I find myself now taking great pleasure in trying to return the favor. I'm terribly shy and hate to put myself out there like that, and still fear that I sound like an idiot or maybe they just wish I'd go away, but I can't not try to give back what they gave me. Post when you have needs, read the other posts and jump in there to help when you can. Its really cool to feel a part of a group where none of us are perfect. I say all that to say you are welcome here, and people do care.
Big big hugs! Try to stick around.
Suzie
Posted by milly on January 20, 2006, at 2:02:26
In reply to Re: Feeling Hopeless » James K, posted by shasling on January 19, 2006, at 21:15:01
Posted by survivor1 on January 20, 2006, at 7:18:45
In reply to Re: Feeling Hopeless ((((survivor 1))) (nm), posted by milly on January 20, 2006, at 2:02:26
Thank you so much for sending love, I need it. I feel like I don't know if I'll be around from one minute to the next. It's a good thing I have my kids to think about.
Posted by milly on January 20, 2006, at 16:16:11
In reply to Re: Feeling Hopeless ((((survivor 1))), posted by survivor1 on January 20, 2006, at 7:18:45
Hang on in there and if your kids are a positive incentive to see the next moment use it
milly
Posted by milly on January 21, 2006, at 11:03:42
In reply to Re: Feeling Hopeless ((((survivor 1))), posted by milly on January 20, 2006, at 16:16:11
How you doing today?
((((((((((survivor1)))))))))))))))))
milly
Posted by milly on January 25, 2006, at 3:53:18
In reply to Re: Feeling Hopeless ((((survivor 1))), posted by milly on January 21, 2006, at 11:03:42
Are you OK? I keep checking back. Why not come over to psychology board many people understand the loss you are feeling there.
((((((((S1))))))))
milly
Posted by shasling on January 25, 2006, at 7:11:26
In reply to Re: Feeling Hopeless ((((survivor 1))), posted by milly on January 25, 2006, at 3:53:18
> Are you OK? I keep checking back. Why not come over to psychology board many people understand the loss you are feeling there.
> ((((((((S1))))))))
> milly
Yes, I am a little worried as well. Wish we'd hear from her.Suzie
Posted by survivor1 on January 25, 2006, at 8:03:00
In reply to Re: Feeling Hopeless ((((survivor 1))), posted by shasling on January 25, 2006, at 7:11:26
I'm pretty physically sick right now (stomach), but I'm also thinking about going into the hospital for psych. My soon to be ex-therapist is highly recommending it. I am just getting so stressed out about everything. Hugs to everyone concerned. I will try to take your advice and go over to the psychology board later today, right now I have to lie down. Oh by the way, my soon to be ex-therapist thinks that part of my sickness is caused by my stress of leaving her. What do you think? Thanks for the concern, it means sooo much.
Posted by milly on January 26, 2006, at 3:47:57
In reply to Re: Feeling Hopeless ((((survivor 1))), posted by survivor1 on January 25, 2006, at 8:03:00
I'm sorry to hear you are sick, but pleased to hear from you too.
I think your T is giving good advice about going in.
I think I can hear that you are scared that 'it' might get you in the end.
I too knew that my life hung in the balance and I KNOW I am only here because of my T but now when I look at my choices 'that one' isn't at the top of the list.
As for your physical illness being tied up with your loss, I would think it is highly likely, in years gone by many psychological illness were expressed in this way as real sickness but found to have a psychological links
Keep safe
love milly
Posted by shasling on January 26, 2006, at 7:13:38
In reply to Re: Feeling Hopeless ((((survivor 1))), posted by survivor1 on January 25, 2006, at 8:03:00
By the way, Survivor, what you are experiencing with respect to your therapist is real and so common they have a name for it - transference. Every therapist is supposed to watch for it and manage it. So you aren't crazy or abnormal. That doesn't change the fact that it hurts, but at least know that you are normal there. Do know that people always work through it.
We are pulling for you. Don't forget what your name is...
Big hugs,
Suzie
Posted by survivor1 on January 26, 2006, at 11:15:10
In reply to Re: Feeling Hopeless ((((survivor 1))) » survivor1, posted by shasling on January 26, 2006, at 7:13:38
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