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Posted by gardenergirl on December 30, 2005, at 10:14:35
She became ill and decided not to pursue treatment. Still, she was tough and fighting death despite assuring (heck, even begging at one point) everyone she was ready.
Lots of different emotions swirling.
Trying to figure out logistical issues related to getting up there (annierose, hopefully we can have another coffee chat?).
Continuing to be amazed that my father has suddenly begun expressing painful emotions.
Wondering about this new role I've been assigned to be the bearer of bad news to my siblings, something I can't imagine anyone would want to sign up for.
Remembering walking in the woods and listening to her talk about different plants and trees.
Grandma, I hope you reached up to find your heart's desire just floating by...A sad gg
Posted by All Done on December 30, 2005, at 14:06:13
In reply to My grandmother passed, posted by gardenergirl on December 30, 2005, at 10:14:35
(((((gg))))),
I'm so sorry to hear about your grandma. It's totally understandable that you have different emotions surfacing. Even when everyone "knows" it's time, it doesn't make it easier. And the last moments or days can make it even harder to reconcile all those feelings. Give yourself plenty of time to sort it all out.
And I'm sorry you've been the one to break the news to your siblings. It's hard, but they're very lucky to have you.
Treasure the memories you have of her. They sound wonderful and they will help during this difficult time.
My thoughts are with you, your dad, and the rest of your family.
Let me know if you need anything.
Gentle hugs,
Laurie
Posted by Larry Hoover on December 30, 2005, at 14:36:52
In reply to My grandmother passed, posted by gardenergirl on December 30, 2005, at 10:14:35
I'm sorry, gg.
May she rest in peace.
And she will, in your memories. You'll make sure of that.
{{{{{{{{{{{gg}}}}}}}}}}}
Posted by happyflower on December 30, 2005, at 15:03:17
In reply to Re: My grandmother passed » gardenergirl, posted by Larry Hoover on December 30, 2005, at 14:36:52
(((((((gardenergirl))))))) I am so sorry for your loss. Remember the happy memories of your grandma and what she was to you.
Posted by fallsfall on December 30, 2005, at 15:22:54
In reply to My grandmother passed, posted by gardenergirl on December 30, 2005, at 10:14:35
(((((GG)))))
I'm so sorry. I know that you loved her so much.
(((((GG)))))
Posted by Dinah on December 30, 2005, at 15:52:39
In reply to My grandmother passed, posted by gardenergirl on December 30, 2005, at 10:14:35
I'm so sorry, gg.
I'm glad you have good memories of her that you can keep close to your heart.
Posted by LegWarmers on December 30, 2005, at 17:20:56
In reply to My grandmother passed, posted by gardenergirl on December 30, 2005, at 10:14:35
(((gg)))
Im so sorry about your grandmother. Im thinking of you
Posted by gardenergirl on December 30, 2005, at 18:01:40
In reply to Re: My grandmother passed, posted by LegWarmers on December 30, 2005, at 17:20:56
Your support means the world.
It's really hard to hear my dad and my uncles break up when talking about it. Darned empathy. Shoot, I can't come up with the right emoticon.
Thanks again,
gg
Posted by Tamar on December 30, 2005, at 21:23:45
In reply to My grandmother passed, posted by gardenergirl on December 30, 2005, at 10:14:35
I'm very sorry to hear about your grandmother. I know it can be a huge loss. Grief is hard, so take good care of yourself. Sending you gentle hugs. (((((Gardenergirl)))))
Tamar
Posted by Phillipa on December 30, 2005, at 21:52:51
In reply to So sorry » gardenergirl, posted by Tamar on December 30, 2005, at 21:23:45
gg so sorry. But we are all here for you. Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by JenStar on December 30, 2005, at 22:16:48
In reply to My grandmother passed, posted by gardenergirl on December 30, 2005, at 10:14:35
hi gg,
I'm so sorry to hear about your Grandma. I hope you and your family are OK in this time of grief.JenStar
Posted by 10derHeart on December 30, 2005, at 22:49:34
In reply to So sorry » gardenergirl, posted by Tamar on December 30, 2005, at 21:23:45
Posted by Emily Elizabeth on December 31, 2005, at 0:13:57
In reply to My grandmother passed, posted by gardenergirl on December 30, 2005, at 10:14:35
Sending you thoughts of strength and comfort.
((GG))
Best,
EE
Posted by daisym on December 31, 2005, at 0:15:20
In reply to My grandmother passed, posted by gardenergirl on December 30, 2005, at 10:14:35
(((GG))))
I'm sorry for your loss, even as you know she was ready. Your memories sound precious and special.
I'm sure she is smiling down on you and sending you strength. Remember to smile through your tears as you think about her.
God bless you and your family.
Daisy
Posted by ClearSkies on December 31, 2005, at 7:30:15
In reply to My grandmother passed, posted by gardenergirl on December 30, 2005, at 10:14:35
So very sorry to hear about your grandmother's passing.
I'll be thinking of you and your family in my meditations today.
ClearSkies
Posted by gardenergirl on December 31, 2005, at 7:51:17
In reply to Re: My grandmother passed, posted by ClearSkies on December 31, 2005, at 7:30:15
It always brings tears to my eyes when I see Babblers rally 'round someone. I'm grateful for all of this lovely support and warm words.
Thank you all.
gg
Posted by annierose on January 1, 2006, at 19:35:54
In reply to Thanks again, posted by gardenergirl on December 31, 2005, at 7:51:17
Hi GG -
So sorry that your grandma died. I'm glad you have fond memoried of her. Keep those stories close to your heart and she'll always be with you. My dad's mom was the one person in my life that I felt loved from. I always "talk" to her.
I know you are going through a hard time with all the arrangements and being the care taker for your family. It's a huge responsiblity and no wonder you feel like you need someone's shoulder to cry on.
I'm "up north" skiing with my kids. I'll be back on Monday. Let me know when you will be around and I would love to treat you to a cup of coffee and a hug. I hope things are better with your hubby. Sometimes men are uncomfortable with their own mortality and react poorly to death. It was very open of you to share your post. That took courage. And I'm sure your T will be supportive.
Take care and you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Annie
Posted by gardenergirl on January 2, 2006, at 8:01:16
In reply to Re: Thanks again » gardenergirl, posted by annierose on January 1, 2006, at 19:35:54
Hi sweetie,
Thanks for your warm thoughts. I hope your trip was fun and safe.It looks like we'll be going up this coming weekend to move some things out of her apartment. We'll probably leave here Friday night and work there Saturday and either drive back Saturday or Sunday a.m. Let me know when a good time might be.
I'll email you the details about where her place and the place we hope to stay are.
Take care and thanks again.
gg
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