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Posted by AUGUSTINA on January 23, 2005, at 22:29:25
I was very close to my mother who died on April 7, 2003. She was only 63 years old and her death was quite unexpected. This Saturday, Jan.29th, would have been her 65th birthday and I've been having such a hard time emotionally these last few days. I really didn't think I would feel such sadness this year since it will be the 2nd b-day without my mom, but the depression feels worse this time around. I feel more irritable, want to be by myself and have been crying more. Sometimes the feeling of sadness and loss is so overwhelming that all I want to do is shut the world out and stay in bed under the covers. I'm a 37 year old woman who sometimes wonders, is it normal to still feel this way after almost 2 years without my mom?
Posted by saw on January 24, 2005, at 0:58:01
In reply to Mom's birthday approaching, posted by AUGUSTINA on January 23, 2005, at 22:29:25
Hi (((Augustina)))
I am sorry that you are feeling so much pain. I am sure you do wonder if it is normal after 2 years. I would expect it is quite normal. There is no time span or limit on grief and you are still grieving for your Mom. Do you have a support system or someone to talk to that can help you through your different stages of grief?
Give yourself all the time you need without worrying about what is normal. Your Mom was part of you for 37 years and will continue to be while you mourn her and hold her memory dear to your heart. Perhaps you can light a candle for her on her birthday.
I am very close to my Mom - she is like my best friend. I cannot even begin to put feelings and thoughts together at the notion of losing her.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Sabrina
Posted by Augustina on January 24, 2005, at 16:35:15
In reply to Re: Mom's birthday approaching » AUGUSTINA, posted by saw on January 24, 2005, at 0:58:01
> Thank-you so much for your feedback Sabrina. Yes, I do have a wonderful therapist that I've been going to since my mom's death and who I'll be seeing this Wednesday. The sadness just kind of crept up on me without much warning even though I was anticipating her birthday.
My mom was my best friend too. Treasure your mom every day! You're indeed blessed to have such a person in your life as I was in mine. Thanks again.
> A.
>
Posted by judy1 on January 26, 2005, at 12:46:24
In reply to Mom's birthday approaching, posted by AUGUSTINA on January 23, 2005, at 22:29:25
my mom passed away at age 42 from breast cancer. I was only a teen but 20 years+ later I still feel sad at important dates- like when she died, her birthday, her wedding anniversary, etc. I suspect I will always feel this way, and I'm guessing you will too. what does get better is the time in between, you will grieve less and less. it' the important dates that will still throw you.
I'm sorry for your loss, judy
Posted by Augustina on January 27, 2005, at 10:28:30
In reply to Re: Mom's birthday approaching » AUGUSTINA, posted by judy1 on January 26, 2005, at 12:46:24
> my mom passed away at age 42 from breast cancer. I was only a teen but 20 years+ later I still feel sad at important dates- like when she died, her birthday, her wedding anniversary, etc. I suspect I will always feel this way, and I'm guessing you will too. what does get better is the time in between, you will grieve less and less. it' the important dates that will still throw you.
> I'm sorry for your loss, judyJudy--
thank-you for your kind and helpful words. I'm so sorry to hear about what you are going through right now with your brother. My heart goes out to you and you are in my thoughts.-A.
Posted by judy1 on January 27, 2005, at 17:05:52
In reply to Re: Mom's birthday approaching, posted by Augustina on January 27, 2005, at 10:28:30
Posted by whichwayzup on June 13, 2005, at 3:22:44
In reply to thank you and take care of yourself (nm) » Augustina, posted by judy1 on January 27, 2005, at 17:05:52
Augustina, my heart goes out to you. I know this post goes out several months since your last one, but hope I can still be of some help. I'm 49 and my mother passed away suddenly and unexpectedly 3 years ago. The second "anniversary" of her death, and all the surrounding holidays (Mother's Day, her birthday right after my Dad's, July 4th, etc.) were especially hard for me too--more so than the first go-round. I think it must be because all shock and unbelief have completely gone, and we're left with just the raw emotions. I too was very close to my Mom--she was my only lifeline in this struggle with Mental Illness we're all going through. So since she's been gone I've felt SOOOO alone, and lost, feeling stuck in the grieving process. But this 3rd year is going easier, so far. I wanted you to know, like I've come to believe, that however long it takes is how long it takes, but that it does get better. Today I was able to watch an old video with her in it, and for the first time in ages was able to smile instead of becoming a weeping "jibbering idiot". Hope this was some encouragement to you, and that you check back and receive this message.
(((((((Augustina)))))))
Love and prayers!
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