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Posted by Augustina on March 18, 2005, at 13:12:14
With Easter approaching soon I find myself thinking about my mom a lot more than normal. She died unexpectedly in 2003 just a couple weeks before Easter so I have her upcoming anniversary to deal with too. Easter will remind me of the chocolate bunnies and stuffed, toy rabbits my mom would give me every single year before her death. It didn't matter to her if I was already a grown woman in her early 30's...I was still her "little girl" and this was something she wanted to do for me for the holiday. That's just how she was.
I miss her greatly and I cry so easily still.
Thanks for this board and for letting me express myself.
Posted by TofuEmmy on March 19, 2005, at 7:45:30
In reply to Thoughts of My Mom, posted by Augustina on March 18, 2005, at 13:12:14
I'm so sorry you are struggling with this loss. I miss my mommy too.
I hope you will buy yourself a stuffed bunny this year. I'm quite sure your mom will smile and shop with you. :-)
Big hugs,
Emmy
Posted by gardenergirl on March 19, 2005, at 15:34:31
In reply to Re: Thoughts of My Mom » Augustina, posted by TofuEmmy on March 19, 2005, at 7:45:30
I'm so sorry about your loss. My grandmother died on Easter a couple of years ago. It makes that holiday bitter sweet. And please remember that grief knows no age. Your memories of special holiday traditions are wonderful and should be treasured. I hope you celebrate them and think of your mother. As emmy said, I'm sure she will be with you that day as always.
You are in my thoughts.
gg
Posted by Augustina on March 19, 2005, at 21:16:11
In reply to Re: Thoughts of My Mom » Augustina, posted by TofuEmmy on March 19, 2005, at 7:45:30
Emmy,
I think I will go out and do just that---find myself a stuffed toy bunny this Easter. Thank-you, I really appreciate your caring words!
-A.
Posted by Augustina on March 19, 2005, at 21:27:17
In reply to Re: Thoughts of My Mom, posted by gardenergirl on March 19, 2005, at 15:34:31
GG,
thank-you...your reminder to me about the grieving part helps a lot. Sometimes I think I should be "over" it by now, but then I realize how ridiculous that is especially because my mom was the person I was most closest to and loved so very much. You and I lost people we loved during this same time of year. My thoughts are with you too.
-A.
Posted by JLynn on March 19, 2005, at 22:39:34
In reply to Thoughts of My Mom, posted by Augustina on March 18, 2005, at 13:12:14
((((Augustina))))
I'm glad you are going to get yourself a bunny this year. Your mom would like that.I can relate to your situation as my mom died last year the day before Mothers Day. It was also the first year for ME actually being a mother which made it harder. Needless to say there was no celebration. My mom was also very thoughtful like yours. She liked to give gifts on holidays like easter - yes even after I was grown-up and married. And I know she would have gotten a gift for my first Mothers Day if she could have. It was very sad as I knew the end was very near so I didn't even go out and get her a gift. It has been almost a year now since she has been gone. I do feel like it has gotten a *little* easier though. I do still have lots of sad times, but I just look at my little girl and see Mom's eyes and I have to smile. I plan to carry on the same traditions my mom had with me with my daughter. And also make sure I talk about her often since she won't remember her Nanna. We will always miss our mothers, but I have so many wonderfull memories and am glad I will be able to share those with my daughter so she will know how special her Nanna was and how much she loved her. I made a promise to my mom that I would sing a song to my baby every morning like my mom did. It usually makes me smile, but sometimes I just cry through the whole song. I know you will think of your mom this easter and I'm sure she will be looking down and watching over you. She will be right there with you. I will be thinking of you this holiday and others will be too.
Posted by Augustina on March 20, 2005, at 7:20:20
In reply to Re: Thoughts of My Mom, posted by JLynn on March 19, 2005, at 22:39:34
JLynn,
When I read your post I had tears in my eyes! Your mom would be so proud of you...you sound like a wonderful mother yourself!!
I'm so sorry for your loss too. It sounds like you and your mom were very close but it is a comfort knowing you can still hold her and the sweet memories of her in your heart always. That's what I try to do and it helps.
Hugs to you,
Augustina
Posted by TofuEmmy on March 20, 2005, at 8:27:46
In reply to Re: Thoughts of My Mom, posted by JLynn on March 19, 2005, at 22:39:34
Jlynne...tearing up here. My mom sang a song to me when I was a baby called My Pinky Winky Baby. It has the silliest sappiest lyrics you can imagine, but to this day they can still make me cry. :-)
Gee willikers, she's been gone for 30 years!
emmy
Posted by All Done on March 20, 2005, at 11:28:59
In reply to Thoughts of My Mom, posted by Augustina on March 18, 2005, at 13:12:14
(((((Augustina))))),
I'm sorry about your mom and that this is a difficult holiday for you coming up.
My dad died just before Thanksgiving in 2002. It's such a strange feeling to go through the motions of the holiday without him there.
Please know we understand, and I will be thinking of you as I give my son a stuffed bunny on Sunday.
Take care,
Laurie
Posted by gardenergirl on March 21, 2005, at 0:32:52
In reply to Re: Thoughts of My Mom » Augustina, posted by All Done on March 20, 2005, at 11:28:59
All of these posts have led to bittersweet tears flowing down my cheeks. It helps to know that we are never alone in grieving whatever we are grieving.
All of you are in my thoughts today and as we celebrate Spring and renewal. That renewal only happens through the death that came before, whether you think of that spiritually or naturally. (Can you tell I'm eager to get busy digging in the dirt?) :)
(((group hug)))
gg
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