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Posted by Shortelise on February 2, 2005, at 1:13:16
A friend is in hospital, "brain dead" and in the morning they will turn off the machines that are keeping her alive. She's an organ donor, so she'll give even in death.
She is an internet friend, I have never met her, and because of that, I am confused by the state of my emotions. On the one hand I am very sad, and I feel a lot of regrets, but on the other, my life will not change with her passing.
I wish I could go back to last week and write to her.
Death is so vast.
Thanks for listening.
ShortE
Posted by saw on February 2, 2005, at 1:19:19
In reply to friend dying, posted by Shortelise on February 2, 2005, at 1:13:16
I understand about being confused with your state of emotions. I feel the strangest and strongest and truly compelling feelings about my internet friends. I question myself as to why I should feel such pain or happiness for people I have not met. While I am content to enjoy my internet friends, I try not to dwell on these feelings.
I have closed my eyes for a moment for your friend, and to you (((((ShortE))))), I send a great big hug.
Sabrina
Posted by Shortelise on February 2, 2005, at 14:23:34
In reply to Re: friend dying » Shortelise, posted by saw on February 2, 2005, at 1:19:19
My friend died in the wee hours of this morning, my sister's birthday.
She was only 45.
I am sad.
ShortE
Posted by jujube on February 2, 2005, at 20:11:34
In reply to she died, posted by Shortelise on February 2, 2005, at 14:23:34
(((Shortelise)))
I am so sorry for you. It is never easy to lose a friend.
I understand your confusion at the state of your emotions. I mean, how can a person feel such strong emotions for someone they have never met IRL? The way I look at it, FWIW, is that an emotional connection is an emotional connection, whether it be IRL or in cyberspace. Human beings are emotional creatures, and we can not help but feel another's pain, be touched by their compassion or be saddened by their passing. Once a connection is made, it is hard to remain distant and unaffected (IMHO anyway).
Although you did not have a chance to write your friend the letter you had intended to write before her passing, perhaps you can write something now and say all the things you would have liked to say. It may prove to be a therapeutic release for you, and may help you deal with your grief and sense of loss.
My thoughts are with you.
Tamara
> My friend died in the wee hours of this morning, my sister's birthday.
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> She was only 45.
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> I am sad.
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> ShortE
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Posted by gardenergirl on February 2, 2005, at 21:33:27
In reply to Re: she died » Shortelise, posted by jujube on February 2, 2005, at 20:11:34
I'm so sorry for your pain, ShortE. How very sad. What a gift your friend gave to likely a number of people in need, by donating her organs. Something of her will live on now, besides her spirt.
((((ShortE))))
gg
Posted by Shortelise on February 3, 2005, at 12:14:59
In reply to Re: she died » Shortelise, posted by jujube on February 2, 2005, at 20:11:34
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