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Posted by octopusprime on April 4, 2004, at 23:42:16
so i went to a music festival this weekend that lasted all weekend.
saturday afternoon one of the performers dropped dead on the stage. just like that.
but the show went on, not disrespectfully. we sang songs for the dear departed lady, whom i did not know but i know now how much she will be missed. we danced for her. one woman lit some incense while the drumming was going on. and while people were obviously shaken by her death, the participants in the festival were encouraged to celebrate life by dancing and playing music. cause each dance might be our last. it was so empowering.
the lady in question devoted her life to music and dance. she would have been happy to see us go on and make the many tributes to her over the rest of the weekend.
and i think the ritual of singing to our departed friends is a good one, and one that we don't do often enough.
one more dance ...
Posted by karen_kay on April 8, 2004, at 20:04:37
In reply to grief rituals, posted by octopusprime on April 4, 2004, at 23:42:16
i don't usually post on this board at all. i usually don't even read it. i saw this post and read it. i was amazed. it gave me the chills the first time i read it and still does. how very wonderful a way to honor the life and passing of a woman who seemed to celebrate music and dance. to not continue the festival would have been a disservice to her honor. but, with the continuation, you ALL had a chance to honor her life. i only hope that when i pass everyone sees it as a celebration of sorts.
it's funny, my sister told me the other day "when i die, you better wear fishnets to my funeral." i replied "ok, but when i lean over your casket to show you my fishnets, my false teeth will fall out as well." she doesn't want people to dress up at her funeral, but she knows i always dress up. so, she told me i had better wear a red dress and fish nets. i think it's important to celebrate the passing of a person in the style that they would want. and i think it's wonderful that the woman's wishes seemed to happen on this occassion. i'm sure she'd be thrilled about that.
Posted by gardenergirl on April 9, 2004, at 1:26:53
In reply to Re: grief rituals, posted by karen_kay on April 8, 2004, at 20:04:37
Oh KK, what an image!
Posted by Jai Narayan on April 15, 2004, at 21:32:40
In reply to Re: grief rituals, posted by gardenergirl on April 9, 2004, at 1:26:53
what an amazing story.....
It seems like people I know are popping off....
This is a part of life that I do not like....
I am not completely comfortable with death.
I have just begun to enjoy life.....
Now it seems it's time to look into the face of death...
Posted by fayeroe on April 24, 2004, at 19:43:43
In reply to Re: grief rituals, posted by karen_kay on April 8, 2004, at 20:04:37
It pleases me to no end to read about the festival going on and honoring the musician's life and death. My daughters tell me that they will have to have a huge hall and mega-big speakers for all the people and music that they will play at my memorial. I'm to be cremated so there won't really be a funeral. When my greyhound died, I lit candles and surrounded him with them and then held him til his spirit skipped away....My sister told me that she hopes that her passing will be that way. Isn't it funny how some people can't deal with death? It's just another passage for us and again, I am so pleased about your honoring the lady.....
Posted by Jai Narayan on April 25, 2004, at 21:10:22
In reply to Re: grief rituals » karen_kay, posted by fayeroe on April 24, 2004, at 19:43:43
Oh god, am I stupid?
I want to be there...
when and if you die before me.
I want to see the rituals.
I want.....
oh gosh.
so keep that in mind...okay?
there is a closeness that can't be ignored.
Posted by fayeroe on April 26, 2004, at 6:41:04
In reply to Re: grief rituals, posted by Jai Narayan on April 25, 2004, at 21:10:22
You're on the list. When my mom died, Jai, we had two funerals. One for her church friends and then another at the grave..I did the eulogy and talked about everything she had done. We put a quilt that she had made over the casket for people to see...it was awesome! But when my dad died, the funeral director messed everything up and it was very, very upsetting. So we've learned a lesson. You plan and do what feels best and the funeral director be damned~~~(small rant against the funeral industry)
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