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Posted by curtm on July 11, 2006, at 11:02:02
T says I don't do enough stuff for me like fun hobbies. I am supposed to start doing something. Just once a week. But I can't seem to think of anything and when I do I talk myself out of it.
What do you guys do for yourself to help with depression and self-esteem. Something strictly fun and/or relaxing. To get away even for an hour...
Curt
Posted by ClearSkies on July 11, 2006, at 15:06:54
In reply to I'm supposed to do something for myself, posted by curtm on July 11, 2006, at 11:02:02
I like to do solitary activities for myself - like read a book, listen to a CD and do a guided meditation, journal.
As for hobbies, I make candles, jewellery, some needlepoint, go to baseball games, listen to new music.
Posted by justy0urlaugh on July 11, 2006, at 17:02:24
In reply to I'm supposed to do something for myself, posted by curtm on July 11, 2006, at 11:02:02
dont try too hard..an hour and 20 minutes devoted to a wonderful independant film..judge judy is also an option
Posted by AuntieMel on July 11, 2006, at 18:47:36
In reply to I'm supposed to do something for myself, posted by curtm on July 11, 2006, at 11:02:02
I like building & fixing things.
Right now I'm working on (trying) to restore a 1930's resophonic guitar rescued from a barn.
The good thing is I don't play, so I won't know if it's wrong. It just has to look good.
If that fails, watch Springer. It's graranteed to make you feel superior.
Posted by sleepygirl on July 11, 2006, at 19:57:15
In reply to I'm supposed to do something for myself, posted by curtm on July 11, 2006, at 11:02:02
What kind of things do you like to do?
Do you like music? maybe locate an open mic night in a coffee shop nearby or something? those can be fun to watch (or be in for that matter)
..you know I took a dance class at my local high school, it was one night a week for a certain number of weeks and cheap (the key word there being "cheap") but good because it requires a certain amount of committment each week. They offer different types of things.
Since it's the summer however I don't know how many classes might be offered or if such a thing might exist at a school near you.craigslist.com sometimes has interesting postings about activities or stuff in my area...maybe in yours too?
Posted by Phillipa on July 11, 2006, at 20:23:46
In reply to Re: I'm supposed to do something for myself » curtm, posted by sleepygirl on July 11, 2006, at 19:57:15
Ride my bike my l2miles. I meet people to talk to and get the endorphins going. And I like it it's fun. Love Phillipa
Posted by curtm on July 11, 2006, at 22:10:25
In reply to Re: I'm supposed to do something for myself » curtm, posted by sleepygirl on July 11, 2006, at 19:57:15
Where do you come up wth all this positive attitude? I read and catch myself making excuses why I can't do this or that, but I aso feel enough support to try harder. Gracias los wonderfuls!! (not real Spanish of course)
Posted by Phillipa on July 11, 2006, at 22:14:04
In reply to Geez you guys are wonderful., posted by curtm on July 11, 2006, at 22:10:25
Curtm you're a trip!!!!!A nice trip. Love Phillipa
Posted by justy0urlaugh on July 11, 2006, at 22:16:37
In reply to Geez you guys are wonderful., posted by curtm on July 11, 2006, at 22:10:25
just dont feel the need to ride 12k the first day..
how about a shave?..a clean pillow case can brighten anyones day..
Posted by Phillipa on July 11, 2006, at 22:20:07
In reply to Re: Geez you guys are wonderful., posted by justy0urlaugh on July 11, 2006, at 22:16:37
That soft pillow case sounds good about now. Love Phillipa. Need to remember my goal go to bed earlier and get up earlier.
Posted by Racer on July 11, 2006, at 22:54:30
In reply to I'm supposed to do something for myself, posted by curtm on July 11, 2006, at 11:02:02
I think that's a wonderful idea -- because you are so cheering here, it would be nice to think you're rewarding yourself the way you reward us.
Personally, I knit. Sometimes that's less relaxing than others, but my "treat" for myself is to go hang out and knit in my local yarn store. How's that for pathetic? But mostly I like the other people there, and it does put me into a room with other human beings, and all I have to do is knit and talk. I can certainly talk...
And they seem to think I knit well, too...
Posted by curtm on July 12, 2006, at 9:03:46
In reply to Re: Geez you guys are wonderful. » justy0urlaugh, posted by Phillipa on July 11, 2006, at 22:20:07
I have been getting up earlier. Abilify gives me a slight insomnia. I go to bed ok, but about 5:30 in the morning I can't sleep anymore. That's not so bad. I've been getting up and doing a thing or two. I even feel better that I did.
Posted by curtm on July 12, 2006, at 9:06:45
In reply to Re: I'm supposed to do something for myself » curtm, posted by Racer on July 11, 2006, at 22:54:30
> I think that's a wonderful idea -- because you are so cheering here, it would be nice to think you're rewarding yourself the way you reward us.
As I mentioned in a previous thread:
...self esteem is achieved when we learn to accept that we are worth more to others than to ourselves. The more selfless we become, the more become ourselves.
Posted by curtm on July 12, 2006, at 9:09:43
In reply to Re: Geez you guys are wonderful., posted by justy0urlaugh on July 11, 2006, at 22:16:37
> how about a shave?..>
I DID forget to shave today! O well. I'm not in the military anymore. :)
Posted by curtm on July 12, 2006, at 9:12:57
In reply to Re: I'm supposed to do something for myself, posted by AuntieMel on July 11, 2006, at 18:47:36
>> I like building & fixing things.
I do too. I even like it when people break things accidentally. Then I get to fix them. I could write a handbook on improvised repairs!! haha
Posted by AuntieMel on July 12, 2006, at 13:50:00
In reply to Re: I'm supposed to do something for myself » AuntieMel, posted by curtm on July 12, 2006, at 9:12:57
Each thing that needs fixing gives another excuse to buy a tool...
Posted by curtm on July 12, 2006, at 14:12:44
In reply to Re: Even better » curtm, posted by AuntieMel on July 12, 2006, at 13:50:00
The mere manufacture of a tool is excuse enough to buy it. AAAAaaaaaaaaaaaggh :)
Feeling wiry today.
Posted by llrrrpp on July 19, 2006, at 21:39:41
In reply to Re: Even better » AuntieMel, posted by curtm on July 12, 2006, at 14:12:44
My husband is fixing the cat's automated litterbox today.
Last week he fixed the bike rack on top of the car.
I'm glad he hasn't had me fixed yet.
-ll
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