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Posted by Racer on January 12, 2005, at 12:24:05
My RD gave me a homework assignment I'm finding impossible, even before I've started: I have to write a letter explaining why I'm seeing her, what my goals are. Not only that, but she really wants me to write down "why I want to gain weight!" Hello? I *don't* want to gain weight? I'm feeling miserably fat and hideous? I want to lose the weight I have gained?
Anyway, without the sarcasm, this assignment really has me flummoxed, because I do know that I should gain weight, but all the things I can think of as benefits of gaining weight have already come. I'm thinking more clearly, I'm not hungry all the time, I'm much less obsessive, I can read more easily, I'm less distractable, I'm not feeling so driven and pushed all the time. But I'm also feeling hugely fat. Much more so. (Refeeding weight distribution -- all in my belly, although it's starting to hit my upper arms and thighs. You know, all the places I'm already self-conscious about...) So I can't come up with any reason that I want to continue gaining weight, and when you come right down to it, I really, really don't want to gain any more.
Has anyone ever faced this, and if so, have you got any advice?
Posted by saw on January 13, 2005, at 0:12:38
In reply to Impossible homework...., posted by Racer on January 12, 2005, at 12:24:05
I simply don't understand why she would want you to write down why you *want* to gain weight when she knows you don't want to gain. It's as though she's asking you to lie?
I can't offer any advice because it just doesn't make sense. You already know (and have achieved postive benefits) from the *should* aspect. Perhaps the *should* becomes the *want*. Now I am not making any sense.
I don't blame you for feeling flummoxed.
Sabrina
Posted by Racer on January 13, 2005, at 21:05:25
In reply to Re: Impossible homework.... » Racer, posted by saw on January 13, 2005, at 0:12:38
Maybe this will help make it more understandable: I am not being forced to see her. I go of my own free will, and there really should be a reason. There probably is a reason, now that I think of it, but I'm not sure what it is...
Anyway, the idea is for me to look at why I go, what I'm trying to accomplish, and what my motivation is for recovery. Right now, though, since I'm in a period of freaking out over my weight, and really wanting to drop what I've gained so far, this is a very difficult assignment for me.
By the way, Sabrina, how are you doing? I hope you're doing much better these days, no more counting errors. Remember, some of us prefer these boards WITH you...
Posted by saw on January 14, 2005, at 0:10:08
In reply to Re: Impossible homework.... » saw, posted by Racer on January 13, 2005, at 21:05:25
Oh! I do understand a bit better now. Thanks.
"No more counting errors" Grin!
Will answer on a new thread.
Posted by iris2 on January 15, 2005, at 20:18:58
In reply to Impossible homework...., posted by Racer on January 12, 2005, at 12:24:05
I hope you don't mind it helps me to read what you are going through. Perhaps some of what comes to mind might help you. I assume you are seeing her to improve your life. To be happier. So I guess if you conseed that you would be happier if you did not give a dam* about your weight and given that you would feel physically and mentally (how your brain is functioning) better if you weighed more you could extrapolate that you actually want to gain weight. I never want to gain weight even when I am too thin. I go beserk when I gain and almost never get on a scale. For me this would be a rational answer to her question.
irene
Posted by saw on January 24, 2005, at 1:03:13
In reply to Re: Impossible homework.... » Racer, posted by saw on January 14, 2005, at 0:10:08
How did the homework go? And how are you?
Sabrina
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