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Posted by Rhainy on August 18, 2000, at 9:45:07
I have a son who is 7 and has been acting out alot lately, and I Think it is due to my depression and not being able to deal as well with him since it happened. I have noticed the more *down* I am the more he acts out. Also, with my Dad (his Grandpa) terminally ill, I think this may also have alot to do with the behaviours as well. We have been honest with him about his Grandpa and the fact that he is dying adn will not be with us much longer. He understands that death is Permanent. We had a cat who died and he was there when it happened and when we buried our sweet BooMan.
He is Extremely Bright, having been tested and showing an IQ of 141 at age 7. He was supposed to be Homeschooled but I simply do not have the focus to follow thru on this right now, so he will be in Public School this year.
The main aspect which bothers me is he has gotten *attitude* and is also becoming very argumentative lately. He refuses to take *no* for an answer.
When he is angry, we have told him it is very ok to show that anger (as well as all of his emotions) as long as he does not do any thing hurtful or destructive. He usually starts crying when angry and goes to his room til the tears have ebbed.
We have always been very direct with him in our rules and explinations. I cannot say we treat him as a small adult, but more of a small person who has more capapbilities than we may know or understand. Until recently he has always had a *Little Helper* attitude. Now he has become very antagonistic and sometimes even mean. Never before has hitting or kicking or other hurtful behaviour been an issue. He has always listened and not repeated an action when we have told him it was wrong.
Does anyone have any ideas how I can be less *Reactive* to his actions/attitudes?
Ok I guess I have rambled enough now I hope I made enough sense...any ideas would be truly appreciated.
BLessings,
Rhainy
Posted by Jade on August 18, 2000, at 14:58:17
In reply to Helping 7 y/o Cope with Mom(LONG), posted by Rhainy on August 18, 2000, at 9:45:07
Hello Rhainy,
I'm sorry to hear your dad is ill.
Don't blame yourself for your son's behaviour. I'm sure it is very hard for him to deal with the illness and impending loss of his grandpa. It is so hard to deal with life when our children have special needs. My son is bright as well and it does make it more complicated for him to deal with his mental illness.I thought you might find the following article helpful. I have to post it in a seperate post however, as I can't copy it from this page. If you have found links that have been helpful for you in coping with your son's giftedness, please add them to the folder at the link below. If you feel like it. Hopefully others may have suggestions as well.
http://www.egroups.com/links/psycho-babble-tips/Children___Adolescen_000966445806/
Take care of yourself too!
Jade
Posted by Jade on August 18, 2000, at 16:31:29
In reply to Re: Helping 7 y/o Cope with Mom(LONG) » Rhainy, posted by Jade on August 18, 2000, at 14:58:17
Hi Rhainy,
Finally getting this to work, I think.
http://www.gifteddevelopment.com/Articles/Coping%20With%20Stress.htmlAnother thought. If the teachers are aware of what is happening with your dad, they should be very helpful for your son as well.
Take Care
Jade
Posted by Rhainy on August 19, 2000, at 23:27:35
In reply to Re: Helping 7 y/o Cope (Aritcle for you), posted by Jade on August 18, 2000, at 16:31:29
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