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Posted by Dinah on December 9, 2013, at 13:14:22
It makes me feel like my head is going to explode.
So I think I'll at least take a break from this place. I wouldn't want to take my blood pressure right now.
Posted by Partlycloudy on December 9, 2013, at 15:08:30
In reply to I hate being angry, posted by Dinah on December 9, 2013, at 13:14:22
I know how you feel.
(((Dinah)))
It is like being baited into saying something incriminating.
I am not sure if I have passed the test or not.
Posted by Partlycloudy on December 9, 2013, at 15:20:41
In reply to Re: I hate being angry, posted by Partlycloudy on December 9, 2013, at 15:08:30
Posted by Phillipa on December 9, 2013, at 21:07:36
In reply to Re: I hate being angry, posted by Partlycloudy on December 9, 2013, at 15:08:30
Use the word feel but never think or one will get blocked that is what I have learned here. Phillipa
Posted by Dr. Bob on December 10, 2013, at 2:27:54
In reply to I hate being angry, posted by Dinah on December 9, 2013, at 13:14:22
> It makes me feel like my head is going to explode.
>
> So I think I'll at least take a break from this place. I wouldn't want to take my blood pressure right now.What do you imagine your blood pressure is? I don't like being angry, either. Can you explode in words? Don't worry about I-statements right now.
Bob
Posted by Dinah on December 10, 2013, at 4:39:21
In reply to Re: I hate being angry, posted by Dr. Bob on December 10, 2013, at 2:27:54
> Don't worry about I-statements right now.
>
> BobDo you really think that's what I want? To be uncivil? You don't know me at all.
It doesn't make me feel any better when I don't live up to my own personal standards. It makes me ashamed of myself.
I can't believe you *this* clueless. Are you trying to harm me?
Posted by Dinah on December 10, 2013, at 4:47:38
In reply to Re: I hate being angry, posted by Dr. Bob on December 10, 2013, at 2:27:54
Is this the way you are as a therapist?
Well, I suppose it's remotely likely that you are the right therapist for someone. But you aren't the right therapist for me. We don't have a doctor/patient relationship, and I'd appreciate it if you quit trying to act as if we did. I think there may be a rule against that.
Posted by 10derheart on December 10, 2013, at 14:17:03
In reply to Re: I hate being angry » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on December 10, 2013, at 4:47:38
>> We don't have a doctor/patient relationship, and I'd appreciate it if you quit trying to act as if we did. I think there may be a rule against that.
Exactly. See this:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20130903/msgs/1055899.html
as my response to:
"I see the above as effective use of your shield. You saw something coming at you and you didn't let it get to you. Good work."
I feel sick.
Posted by Dinah on December 10, 2013, at 17:53:09
In reply to Re: I hate being angry » Dinah, posted by 10derheart on December 10, 2013, at 14:17:03
I know you well enough that when I read what he said, I was pretty sure what the result would be. It's so hard for me to believe that he didn't realize that, that I have to wonder about his motivations.
Sometimes I feel with Dr. Bob like I'm part of the "Devil in the Dark" episode of Star Trek, meeting the silicon based life form. So different from me that any attempt at meaningful communication short of a Vulcan mind meld is doomed to fail.
Posted by alexandra_k on December 10, 2013, at 23:00:46
In reply to Re: I hate being angry » 10derheart, posted by Dinah on December 10, 2013, at 17:53:09
I used to be afraid of feeling angry. I thought... It was wrong to feel angry. Or something like that.
I felt... Sad. Sad and dead much of the time. I think that I thought it was better for me to feel sad and dead than to feel angry.
Then, as I started to feel more angry I actually got quite frightened about how angry I felt. I started to feel like I was actually in danger of lashing out. Physically hitting etc.
I...
Don't know what to say. I don't know how your experience is the same / different.
All I know is that I really value your being here on these boards. 10, too. I hope you guys stick around. I'd rather see you here fighting with Bob than not here at all...
Posted by 10derheart on December 10, 2013, at 23:30:50
In reply to Re: I hate being angry, posted by alexandra_k on December 10, 2013, at 23:00:46
>>All I know is that I really value your being here on these boards. 10, too. I hope you guys stick around. I'd rather see you here fighting with Bob than not here at all...
What a great thing to say. I can get through the week on that one :-) Same sentiment right back to you, too.
ps [Don't hate me cuz I haven't been posting to you...I am lazy....and hesitant...and scatterbrained...and weird. I have actually read every single one of your posts since you've been back around here...and that's a lot! ;-)]
Posted by alexandra_k on December 27, 2013, at 22:30:03
In reply to Re: I hate being angry » alexandra_k, posted by 10derheart on December 10, 2013, at 23:30:50
thank you. i didn't reply sooner because i felt... embarrassed... bashful... unworthy... something...
i will never forget that time i had an appointment with a new psychologist and it meant so much to me (because nobody would work with me for ages) and then... things went badly and i went to hospital for a time... and after i was in hospital for a time... one of the nurses... well... gg had managed to get in contact. and i managed to check the boards on day leave... and... people cared about me. i couldn't believe it. nobody had ever cared like that about me before (or probably since). and you were a huge part of that. and i will never forget. it really affected you... i'm... sorry to have worried you so. and... you cared about me. wow. thank you for caring. i'm sorry to have worried you so... i didn't know people cared that much.
your post meant a lot to me. thank you so much. really. thank you.
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