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Posted by HappyChaiTea on February 27, 2009, at 22:17:38
In reply to Please be civil » fayeroe, posted by Deputy Dinah on February 27, 2009, at 22:07:11
Has Bob given you permission to talk to the vortex now?
Posted by HappyChaiTea on February 27, 2009, at 22:20:39
In reply to Re: GHOSTS, posted by Dr. Bob on February 26, 2009, at 8:56:18
> I don't have much time right now, but I'm listening. I'm also wondering if I trigger some of you by being absent. Twinleaf mentioned emotionally unfair and abusive families of origin at the beginning of this thread.
>
> BobPlease don't flatter yourself. Geeze
Posted by Dinah on February 27, 2009, at 22:22:28
In reply to Re: What I wonder is... » Dinah, posted by HappyChaiTea on February 27, 2009, at 22:04:26
For the record, disagreeing is not necessarily uncivil. Respectful disagreement can be incredibly civil.
I'm sorry if you feel that that is the choice you need to make, but I understand.
As Dr. Bob says, posters who are also deputies have more power in some ways, but less power in others. Or as my therapist says, we have more authority, but not necessarily more power.
Every day I am a deputy, I risk losing friends because of it. I risk losing my place as a poster, no matter how hard I try to stay a poster. I risk anger. I risk feeling hurt. Sometimes I feel like I even risk my humanity in the eyes of others, although that may only be my perception.
Posted by Dinah on February 27, 2009, at 22:27:00
In reply to ?, posted by HappyChaiTea on February 27, 2009, at 22:17:38
People aren't vortices.
I explained earlier that vortex is like trigger. I'm sorry if my use of the phrase caused distress. To me it is a value neutral and totally detached term. But I see that for you it is not, and I am sorry if I hurt you. It never occurred to me that it was negative, in the sense I meant it certainly.
Posted by Sigismund on February 27, 2009, at 22:30:04
In reply to Please be civil » Sigismund, posted by Deputy Dinah on February 27, 2009, at 21:45:05
>If Zazenducke had put J'accuse' in the subject line and 'My name is zazenducke' in the message, there would have been a block.
Yes, Dinah, I was thinking about this as I was cutting the grass.
But I have to quibble.
That is an example of jumping to a conclusion.
Posted by Sigismund on February 27, 2009, at 22:32:06
In reply to Please be civil » fayeroe, posted by Deputy Dinah on February 27, 2009, at 22:07:11
>Please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down, for example of hiding doors to closets where skeletons are kept.
What kind of a sentence is that?
Posted by Dinah on February 27, 2009, at 22:32:18
In reply to Re: Please be civil » Deputy Dinah, posted by Sigismund on February 27, 2009, at 22:30:04
As long as you follow site guidelines.
Posted by HappyChaiTea on February 27, 2009, at 22:32:54
In reply to i complain about the deputies, posted by zazenducke on February 26, 2009, at 21:40:22
> I believe the deputies are inconsistent, sometimes show favoritism and have on occasion been deliberately cruel while staying within the letter of the law
> but hey nobody's perfect
>
> So i stand a willing guinea piggie for your latest rule
>
> go ahead..make Dinah a Jessica-ban me for a long long time :)
>
> I believe the deputies are inconsistent, sometimes show favoritism and have on occasion been deliberately cruel while staying within the letter of the law
> but hey nobody's perfect
>
> So i stand a willing guinea piggie for your latest rule
>
> go ahead..make Dinah a Jessica-ban me for a long long time :)I would like to add Dr. Bob is a pig headed jerk who is afraid of hearing the truth about his own boards. Just block anyone willing to take a stand against the injustice that happens on these boards. Force everyone's silence. Reminds me of Hitler, actually.
Zadenduck spoke THE TRUTH!
I support her 100%
I don't care either if I get blocked a long time. These boards have become nothing but crap anyway.
As for quoting me out of context, f*ck you Bob!
As for not doing anything about my notifications, F*CK you BOB!
Posted by Sigismund on February 27, 2009, at 22:34:19
In reply to Re: Please be civil, posted by Sigismund on February 27, 2009, at 22:32:06
This is the thread started by Twinleaf called
'A New Beginning'.
Posted by Deputy Dinah on February 27, 2009, at 22:40:55
In reply to Re: i complain about the deputies » zazenducke, posted by HappyChaiTea on February 27, 2009, at 22:32:54
> > I believe the deputies are inconsistent, sometimes show favoritism and have on occasion been deliberately cruel while staying within the letter of the law
> Zadenduck spoke THE TRUTH!
Please don't post anything that could lead others, including deputies, to feel accused or put down.
Please don't quote or endorse statements that have been deemed to be uncivil.
You have recently been blocked, and there have been several reminders and much discussion on this thread regarding this issue, so I'm going to have to block you from posting.
I will ask Dr. Bob to set block length.
Followups regarding these issues, as well as replies to the above posts, should of course themselves be civil.
Dr. Bob is always free to override deputy decisions. His email is on the bottom of each page. Please feel free to email him if you believe this decision was made in error.
Dinah, acting as deputy to Dr. Bob
Posted by obsidian on February 27, 2009, at 22:45:26
In reply to ?, posted by HappyChaiTea on February 27, 2009, at 22:17:38
I think that was really uncalled for...so sarcastic and so unnecessary. I am going to regret giving a sh*t about this...and yes it is a freaking vortex!! If you look for the negative you shall surely find it.
For the love of god stop!
strike that...I'll stop reading this sh*t
Posted by Deputy Dinah on February 27, 2009, at 22:49:09
In reply to Re: ? » HappyChaiTea, posted by obsidian on February 27, 2009, at 22:45:26
> I think that was really uncalled for...so sarcastic and so unnecessary.
I'm sorry, Obsidian, but I'm going to have to ask you to please not post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down.
Follow-ups regarding these issues, as well as replies to the above posts, should of course themselves be civil.
Dr. Bob is always free to override deputy decisions. His email is on the bottom of each page. Please feel free to email him if you believe this decision was made in error.
Dinah, acting as deputy to Dr. Bob
Posted by gardenergirl on February 27, 2009, at 23:09:24
In reply to Re: What I wonder is... » HappyChaiTea, posted by Dinah on February 27, 2009, at 22:22:28
> Every day I am a deputy, I risk losing friends because of it. I risk losing my place as a poster, no matter how hard I try to stay a poster. I risk anger. I risk feeling hurt. Sometimes I feel like I even risk my humanity in the eyes of others, although that may only be my perception.
I hear you. I know what you mean. And I thank you for all of your efforts. I know how much you care.
gg
Posted by Dinah on February 27, 2009, at 23:22:45
In reply to Re: What I wonder is... » Dinah, posted by gardenergirl on February 27, 2009, at 23:09:24
that made me cry.
Thank you, gg.
Posted by Deneb on February 27, 2009, at 23:39:22
In reply to For some reason » gardenergirl, posted by Dinah on February 27, 2009, at 23:22:45
Hugs for you Dr. Bob.
Dinah, I hope you're OK, hugs.
Blocked posters, hope you're OK. Hugs
(((((((((((((Dr. Bob))))))))))))) I love you!
(((((Everyone))))))) feel better everyone
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 27, 2009, at 23:40:02
In reply to Blocked » HappyChaiTea, posted by Deputy Dinah on February 27, 2009, at 22:40:55
> I will ask Dr. Bob to set block length.
According to the formula:
duration of previous block: 4 weeks
period of time since previous block: 6 weeks
severity: 2 (default) + 2 (uncivil toward deputies) = 4
block length = 13.72 rounded = 14 weeksBob
Posted by Dr. Bob on February 27, 2009, at 23:40:12
In reply to Re: glad to help, posted by Sigismund on February 27, 2009, at 17:12:43
> What could zazenducke say here that would not result in a block?
Something supportive or educational?
Bob
Posted by muffled on February 28, 2009, at 0:00:03
In reply to Re: would not result in a block, posted by Dr. Bob on February 27, 2009, at 23:40:12
> > What could zazenducke say here that would not result in a block?
>
> Something supportive or educational?
>
> Bob
>
>I think Zaz....
was just being Zaz, and went out rather beautfully in some ways.
People are entitled to their opinion, right or wrong.
LOL, but just not here on babble...
point was made.
Zaz knew what was up and was content.
Creative!!!
Brilliant on assorted levels when you start to reread it several times.
Shades of the the amazing Alex!
Bravo
MPS FWIW, I beleive the deps are doing their best, and I really respectfully do not agree w/the deliberately cruel statement. But that is my opinion.
I still respect others opinions :-)
Peace out brothers and sisters!
Best wishes to all.
Posted by rskontos on February 28, 2009, at 13:44:02
In reply to Hey, posted by Sigismund on February 27, 2009, at 22:34:19
First I am shocked to see the blocks of Twinleaf and Zazenducke especially the length. I am alarmed to say that I am confused about how it got to this point. I could say my opinions about why I think all this happened in this thread but I know I would a block or at the very least a PBC. So I will address my sad concerns over the usage of Administration board in the first place.
My statements are directed at Dr. Bob. Twinleaf started this thread called "New beginnings" with I think the intent to start a discussion. How then if we can't have a discussion on Administration regarding rules and how they are enforced and how they benefit or distress posters can this board be much of anything but banal threads on new name, etc. I thought Twinleaf started a worthwhile discussion and yet it seems to me that Dr. Bob doesn't really want a discussion. I don't think anyone would have found Twinleaf's post upsetting except maybe someone that might know or think they were the targeted one in her statement. In lieu of a block why couldn't you, Dr. Bob, discussed the real issue of civility and its' effect on people and the boards. It seems to me, you are avoiding the real discussion. Of course this is my opinion, and one I might regret voicing. I do not mean any disrespect to anyone. I feel that the deputies do the best job they can, when you take into consideration the ways you, Dr. Bob, tie their hands so to speak.
And why can we not openly address a issue that seems to spark so much real feelings. I always thought a healthy, I felt XXX when you said this can go a long ways toward those posters that want to have open dialogue. I see a real disintegration of real open dialogue especially here at Admin. Because it always seems to result in someone(s) getting blocked. Which always ends the discussion.
I thought administration was the board to have a healthy discussion on a real issue yet, Dr. Bob, you let the rules of the site guide you instead of just trying to discuss the issues. Do we need another site to discuss how to improve Babble. I know that you feel twinleaf and zaze spoke out of turn and violated rules you put in place, but how about speaking to each of them about how they feel. You addressed others directly why not them too.
There is a tricky tightwalk trick to try and start a discussion about rules that might or might now be viable yet Twinleaf tried to do this. I do think the reasons it escalated to point where you felt you had to block these posters was due to in part they asked a question of you and others answered. And those that answered could not really speak for you, so I feel it got in the way of the initial thread and it valid points. I also know why those that answered did so because they care about Babble. In fact, they seem to care more than you do.
So this is why I am shocked, alarmed and sad. Babble it seems is a hard place to discuss all that might be on our minds. It seems that no where on this site we might have good discussions that might actually yield new methods of how things should be done because too often it disintegrates into someone getting blocked to the detriment of the actual discussion--as it did in this case.
I am sorry Twinleaf, you got blocked and you too Zazenducke. It seems unfair in light of the actual discussion. And proves to me that Babble is not really someplace I can voice how I really feel. And while it might seem like here and now I am saying how I feel I am holding back trying to be as civil as possible yet say what I want to say. And sometimes, just sometimes, I think we need that "holding back of what I really want to say" suspended while we sort out regulations and whatnot.
I am sorry because Babble has helped me alot but in the recent past I find I feel it is better to not post even though I know I will receive good advice and help. It is not the posters or deputies I feel sad about it is the policies of Dr. Bob and his seemly unapproachability.
It seems Dr. Bob changes the rules about deputies and civility (the recent change of us policing ourselves) only to come back at his digression and enforce it when it stymies a potentially good discussion. So sad.
rsk
(((((((((Twinleaf)))))))))) ((((((((((Z-Ducke)))))))))))
Posted by zenhussy on February 28, 2009, at 15:08:06
In reply to Re: deputies get hurt, posted by Dr. Bob on February 26, 2009, at 15:39:12
>> I feel hurt when they're hurt. I know what they do, it's hard, and they're outstanding. <<
how about when a regular poster is hurting...do you feel hurt then as well? regular posters here are outstanding as well in what they contribute online as well as IRL. how fortunate to have so many outstanding ppl on this site!
>>They do take the whole picture into consideration. I disagree with them sometimes, and you may disagree with them sometimes. Reasonable people can disagree. I don't think the answer is to get rid of them, or the rules, or for others who'd feel uncomfortable in the role to volunteer.
> We do discuss whether more deputies (who'd feel comfortable in the role) would help.
> It may help if complaints about them are emailed to me directly and not posted or submitted using the notification system. And if blocks are longer for incivility toward them. So let's make those changes:
> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#enforce
> Thanks,
> Bob<<over the years this board's archives have recorded threads about your continued invitations to e-mail you directly--yet many find they wait weeks or months for a response and others have written they've never received a response to their numerous inquiries.
do you think that posters might feel hurt from the lack of response from you?
what do you think you could do to help support those posters who take the time to involve themselves in your site by writing to you w/ their concerns?
Posted by fayeroe on February 28, 2009, at 15:52:28
In reply to Re: deputies get hurt-regular posters get hurt too » Dr. Bob, posted by zenhussy on February 28, 2009, at 15:08:06
Posted by fayeroe on February 28, 2009, at 15:54:20
In reply to Re: Shocked and alarmed and sad, posted by rskontos on February 28, 2009, at 13:44:02
very caring and sensitive post. you are a "gem".....
Posted by fayeroe on February 28, 2009, at 16:11:54
In reply to Re: GHOSTS, posted by Dr. Bob on February 26, 2009, at 8:56:18
> > HELLO DR> BOB??????????????????????? ARE YOU LISTENING?????????
>
> I don't have much time right now, but I'm listening. I'm also wondering if I trigger some of you by being absent. Twinleaf mentioned emotionally unfair and abusive families of origin at the beginning of this thread.
>
> BobI am speaking for myself. I think that ignoring the posters could be triggering for some.
I am curious if you think it is better for Babble if you're here passing out 52 week blocks?
I would also like to know your take on the fact that several people question the length and math of your blocks?
I would like to know if you think that the board is in a good place right now?
I wonder if I
could get an answer to these questions or is the discussion over until May?
Posted by Sigismund on February 28, 2009, at 16:30:22
In reply to Re: GHOSTS » Dr. Bob, posted by fayeroe on February 28, 2009, at 16:11:54
This 52 week block follows a number of rapidly escalating blocks for Zazenducke, which thus allows our yearly visit for a day only.
Posted by Sigismund on February 28, 2009, at 16:36:25
In reply to Re: deputies get hurt-regular posters get hurt too » Dr. Bob, posted by zenhussy on February 28, 2009, at 15:08:06
Yes
This is not the way I think people should be treated.
I really would like to talk to zazenducke, and now it will be another year, and then just for one day.
And, as is surely obvious, zazenducke put those personal opinions in a moderate and reasonable way.
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